Rule 020 | Champagne Bottles Are Always Meant To Be Popped

The Peppers are celebrating their first season finale with a bottle of bubbly and a bungalow full of new friends on the last stop of their tour.

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TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  • What is your all-time favorite beverage to celebrate a special occasion?
  • What is one expectation that you currently have about the upcoming week? How can you communicate that fairly and gently to your partner?
  • If you could pick the theme of our next Valentine's Day progressive dinner party, what would it be? (Submissions welcome.)

Don't forget... Our Season Two premiere will go live on January 6th, but since that feels like EONS away -- We've made it easy to keep in touch in the meantime:

Subscribe to the show ON ITUNES, SIGN UP FOR OUR newsletter AND KEEP IN TOUCH BETWEEN SEASONS BY coming to hang out with us IN THE PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP!

 

Rule 019 | Make Sure Your Bathroom Works Before Hosting Overnight Guests

Gerard + Jessie switch things up this week by inviting another couple to weigh in on the show... Colby + Chelsea are a sweet Southern Californian duo who make it a priority to invite strangers into their home. After a heartfelt chat, The Peppers left feeling like they'd gained two new friends and are now even MORE excited to list their future space on Airbnb.  

"Something that I'm thankful for everyday is that Colby and I share the values of community and a permeable boundary of the definition of family. Opening our home and heart blesses us and challenges us and changes us for the better." - Chelsea L. 

This week’s episode was brought to you by Airbnb! Join us by listing your own space on the site, and new users will get a $25 credit towards your next adventure.

 

QUICK BITES:

  • Huge thanks to the guests who came out to our taping of the Season One finale!
  • Subscribe to the show on iTunes and join the FB group to keep in touch while we're in between seasons.
  • We made it to CA! Still house-hunting, and the adventures in living with Gerard's wonderful parents are going quite well. (Especially since they have a pool.)
  • When experiencing the world together is the basis of a budding relationship, it seems likely that it would continue to pop up as a reoccurring theme... Colby + Chelsea share about the story of how they met, and why it informs their daily choices to love others.
  • Spare rooms go fast when amusement parks are just a stone's throw away and cute kiddos are an absolutely legitimate selling point when you're listing a shared space for rent.
  • Jessie's dream house includes a nice cozy bed for our future guests and turn-down service complete with wine and chocolate. (She also promises not to use the Ninja Blender before 6am. Ok, fine - 7am.)
  • Crazy Statistic: Two-thirds of the international students in the US never get a chance to set foot inside an American home.
  • Gerard's bond with his host family in Guatemala was rooted in their humor and extensive hospitality. (Hear more in Episode 18.)
  • Not surprising that inflatable tubes and pool floating would surprise-and-delight someone visiting from out of the country.
  • Being considerate becomes the norm when you're constantly having to think of the comfort of others.
  • Chelsea drops a knowledge bomb from Brene Brown: "You can choose comfort or you can choose courage, but you can't have them both at the same time." Opening your home might feel like it takes some courage, but as our new friends explain: It can consistently bring benefits that far outweigh the risks.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What is the most embarrassing plumbing issue you've ever encountered while traveling?
  • If you had an entire extra room of the house all to yourself (and could do whatever you wanted), what would you use it for?
  • What are some creative ideas that you could use as ways to make new guests feel welcome in your home?

 

Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, sign up for our mailing list and keep in touch between seasons by joining us in the private Facebook group!

 

Rule 018 | Cute Haircuts Are The Way To A New Friend's Heart

This week, The Peppers learn a few do’s and don’ts of connecting with strangers. Jessie finds out why hot-shotting in a different language can easily end up in embarrassment, and then explains to Gerard how generous compliments are an easy way to break the ice with new friends. 

THIS WEEK’S EPISODE WAS BROUGHT TO YOU BY AIRBNB! JOIN US BY LISTING YOUR OWN SPACE ON THE SITE, AND NEW USERS WILL GET A $25 CREDIT TOWARDS YOUR NEXT ADVENTURE.

QUICK BITES:

  • We are so grateful to Sprint for making our On The Road tour possible! Be sure to check out the special highlights of our trip as we share them over on their feed, and follow along with styleandpepper on snapchat for more fun clips of our behind the scenes. ;)
  • RSVP to our PHX event and you'll be there to listen as we record the Season One finale!
  • In October, The Peppers are heading to Guatemala with Unbound, and we would love to encourage our community to consider finding their own sponsored friend!
  • Gerard’s Spanish immersion program was wonderful and he would recommend it to anyone.
  • Jessie reflects on the breakdown she experienced after getting braces for the fourth time in a row.
  • Duolingo FEELS like just another fun game on your phone, but has actually been a super helpful way for us to brush up on our Spanish.
  • Pepper-bestie Sara B was met by twinning with Jessie in the same pair of jeans.
  • This week’s episode was brought to you by Airbnb! Join us by listing your own space on the site, and new users will get a $25 credit towards your next adventure. 

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What is the longest amount of time you’ve ever spent away from your partner? How did that experience affect your communication as a whole?
  • What’s the craziest way that you’ve ever started up a conversation with a new friend?
  • Would you ever consider hosting travelers in your own home?

Rule 017 | Don't Get A Puppy Unless You're Ready To Be A Parent

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The Peppers are in the middle of their On The Road tour, and this episode comes to you from the basement of some of their gracious hosts. Gerard tells Jessie he wants to add another member to the family, but she explains why she's not so ready. They discuss how co-hosting a podcast about marriage has impacted their own life, and agree that taking a quick break in the fall will give them a chance to get caught up on creating season two.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Many thanks to our generous hosts and the listeners who’ve come out to support us so far! BIG extra-special bear hugs go to...
    • Erin + Matt for giving us a gorgeous place to stay and serving up a beautiful spread for the first event of the tour
    • Allie + Adam for letting us gather in their creative space in Columbus
    • Chris + Sarah for opening up their home in Grand Rapids and throwing a backyard BBQ to celebrate the end of summer
    • Merl + Bobby for sharing a place to rest our heads AND a lovely studio to host a handful of the sweetest Chicago listeners
       
  • Special thanks to Sprint for helping to make our On The Road tour possible! Be sure to check out the special highlights of our trip that we're sharing over on their feed, and follow along with styleandpepper on snapchat for more fun clips of our behind the scenes. ;)
     
  • Don't forget: you can find our full tour details right here... We'd love to meet you, so come out and hug us if you dare!
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • If you could live out of any vehicle (while driving across the country) for three weeks, what would it be and why?
  • Does your own family currently seem complete? What would it take to make it feel that way?
  • What topics would you cover if you had your own podcast?

Rule 015 | Never Try To Paint Your Nails While Riding In The Car

The Peppers are excited to welcome a very special guest on this week's show... Our roommate (who is also Jessie's younger brother) Joey is here to give you a sneak peek at what it’s like to live with the nuttiest married couple you know.

QUICK BITES:

  • MIF On the Road starts in just over a week! We're announcing a handful of new cities this week, so sign up for our newsletter if you want to come say hey.

  • SO much good stuff going on in the FB group lately... Join us over there to be a part of the conversation.

  • Joey kicks things off with a story by throwing Jessie under the bus. She promptly stuffs him into the glove box to get revenge.

  • Having a third wheel brings accountability AND comic relief, and both are bits of the past year that feel more valuable than we imagined.

  • Mealtime is too important to waste with a fight. Figure it all out before the forks get picked up.

  • Fostering a 23 year old has taught us that honesty puts out fires like a high-powered hose.

  • Little brother’s make the best sounding boards. Who knew?

  • Joey is the freaking best. You guys are going to fall in love with him and probably wish that this were his podcast instead of ours.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • Do you ever feel embarrassed to fight in front of family members?
  • Who is the one person (besides your partner) that knows your own kind of "crazy" the most thoroughly?
  • What is one way you would try to keep your partner sane during a cross-country road trip? (Bonus points for sending the best ideas our way.)

Rule 014 | Connection Is Easier When You Have A Good Cushion

Another mid-week quickie that features three listener questions: How-to, when-to, and why-to connect with your partner.

In this episode, we also announce the first six cities of our Marriage is Funny On the Road tour, and talk about how having a good cushion is important when setting out on any adventure.  

QUICK BITES:

  • We are finally ready to tell you some details about our cross-country trip! Sign up here to get on the list, and check out our tour page to see where we’ll be popping up next.

  • Question One comes from Erika L. on twitter, and she asks: "How do you create space to truly be alone in a crowded city and a small apartment?"

  • Takeaways: It doesn't mean that there is something wrong if you feel like you want space, and extroverts need time alone too.

  • Question Two comes from Stacey in our FB group, and she asks: "What are some ways that you have learned to reconnect in the midst of busy schedules?"

  • Takeaways: We are anti-date-night, pro snapchat, and always trying to make sure we intentionally protect a special part of our day (or week) together.

  • Spending time together is like grocery shopping… Some people would rather go frequently in shorter trips, and others plan to make a big haul because they know it will last them for weeks at a time.

  • Question Three comes from Courtney M. in our FB group, and she asks: "How do you handle time apart when one person of the pair travels a lot?"

  • Takeaways: We're not very good at leaving each other on trips (see Episode 8), so we try make sure that re-entry is handled with care. Also, we use an app called Voxer to keep in touch while we're apart -- Total life-saver if you don't like to talk on the phone.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What are some things that make your cushion feel fluffed?
  • Describe your ideal version of daily alone time: Time of day, location, etc. Include as many details as possible!
  • Date Nights... Helpful practice or way too much pressure?

Rule 013 | Airplanes Are Not The Place To Point Out Gray Hairs

Gerard freaks out about his new pair of glasses, and finds deeper meaning in the panic behind a couple of gray hairs. Jessie remembers that forgiveness is a gift everyone deserves, but wishes that hurt feelings were easier to brush under the rug.

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard gets glasses, promptly panics and considers plucking his gray hairs. Jessie swoons, even still.

  • We all get older, but it’s time to dive into why “losing our youth” seems to shake G to the core.

  • Spoiler alert: Tears ahead. It’s not unusual for us to cry on planes, but this is nothing like the travel challenges we talked about earlier this Summer.

  • Jessie is ignoring her wrinkles by throwing on a kimono and “pretending” to be a crazy plant lady. (Might only be a few leaves short.)

  • The topic of mortality makes a cameo, but Gerard hangs on to his youth by claiming to be a kid at heart.

  • To Mr. or NOT to Mr?

  • One foolproof way to make you feel less old: Always make sure you’re the youngest friend.

  • Jessie justifies her indulgent self-care habits by claiming preventative measures.

  • Gray eye-brows got you down? Please pass the tweezers.

  • You know that adorable older couple that walks down the street holding hands? We secretly want to be them. (As long as he has good hygiene and she’s wearing cute shoes.)

  • It hurts when forgiveness from friends is hard to come by.

  • Jessie disappointed a girlfriend recently (#oops), and struggles through the experience of having her apology refused.

  • Forgiveness has the power to make a profound impact in any relationship. We try to remember that it is like a precious gift we are called to share generously with others.

  • Gerard lays down some convictions and Jessie realizes she needs to face the facts.

  • Saying “OK” vs. “I forgive you” when someone apologizes is NOT the same thing.

  • Two-part apologies were mandatory for Jessie growing up in the Artigue household, and the heartfelt process has carried over into her now adult life.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What do you love most about getting older? (Bonus points if your answer involves wearing black socks with sandals.)

  • Do you have someone that you go to when you need to talk through a sticky situation with friends? How do you keep from crossing the line from healthy venting to gossipy territory?

  • Have you ever had to forgive someone for a hurt that never got acknowledged?

 

Rule 012 | Always Act Impressed When Your Partner Flexes Their Muscles

This week's episode features our first listener question, and a new show format -- The Quickie. ;) Listen in as we chat about how working together has shaped our relationship, and why sleeping your way to the top is almost always a bad idea.

QUICK BITES:

  • Megan from Oroville, CA runs a Crossfit gym with her husband Santos, and she wrote in to ask about the best way to make decisions as a dynamic duo. 
  • The Peppers talk through what it's like to build a business together when both partners handle work differently.
  • Jessie shares about the time that her working relationship with Gerard came crashing down in the middle of a dinner date. He quit his position as her business confidante in between big bites of sushi.
  • When Jessie presents her new ideas to Gerard, he feels like he’s playing an impossible game of pinball. (And then he admits that pulling the plug sometimes just feels easier.)
  • Learn what it's like to have multiple creative orgasms a day.
  • The adventures of working together has weighed on The Pepper's relationship, but embracing differences in problem solving can help to alleviate the stress.
  • Be sure to listen to the end for a recap complete with three bonus tidbits!

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • How would you describe your partner's biggest strength as it relates to their work?
  • Do you crave the need to get credit for your big beautiful ideas, or does it feel more important to simply experience whatever cool things you’ve come up with?
  • If you could only pick one frozen yogurt topping for the rest of your life, what would it be?! 

We're falling even more in love with our little community every week... Let's keep this conversation going over in the FB group, and in the meantime -- Go squeeze your sweetie pie today, and don't forget to share this episode with your favorite co-working duo!

Rule 011 | You Can't Teach an Old Spouse New Tricks

Come take a seat on our second-hand couch, and we'll tell you why our friend "Craig" makes Jessie feel like an interior designer (and is always good for some cheap entertainment). Things get heated in the kitchen when Gerard burns the sweet potato fries, and The Peppers both admit that they're not great at learning new things when the other one is really just bossing them around. 

QUICK BITES:

  • As we continue to plan our cross-country tour, remember to sign up for the mailing list to hear about WHERE we'll be popping up and WHEN.

  • Marriage is Funny will be on Stitcher soon! Be sure to subscribe wherever you love to listen most.

  • Jessie’s shares her favorite second-hand shopping resources, over on her personal style site!

  • Gerard accidentally spills the beans about his recent trip to the nail salon with Jessie... Personal favor OR personal hygiene? YOU be the judge. 

  • Despite the insistence that Craigslist is safe, Gerard shares the story of a dining room table, a mysteriously dark house and a room full of creepy dolls.

  • Long term bike rentals, apartments, tutoring gigs, babysitting jobs, & pets!

  • Gerard is trying to sell everything on Craigslist before the big move, and Jessie suspects this is his way to force them into being minimalists.

  • Who wants a free set of Wusthof steak knives? Anyone? 

  • Gerard enjoys burnt sweet potatoes, but could do without a bossy wife.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What is one new thing that you’d like to learn how to cook? Do you prefer to have someone teach you, or are you planning to figure it out on your own?

  • Sweet potato fries: Burnt, tender, or perfectly crispy? (And more importantly -- WHICH DIPPING SAUCE?!)

  • How would you describe your preferred learning style to your partner?
     

Thanks for tuning in this week, and don't forget to help us out by sharing the show with your favorite married friends!

Rule 010 | Getting Across The Country Takes Longer Than You Might Think

Today, we're celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary, and bringing you an exciting episode that is filled with big news...

We’re going on tour! We’re moving to LA! We are coming to give you bear hugs in person!

Listen to this week’s show to find out about connecting with us in your hometown, and hear the most notable (and often outlandish) things we’ve learned about marriage over the last eight years.

Sign up at bit.ly/MIFlist so we can send you a rundown of all the details for our trip, and we truly cannot WAIT to meet you in September.

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard gets our intro confused with karaoke hour at the neighborhood dive bar.
     
  • Cross-country tour? Don’t mind if we do! 125.4 hours of driving. That is not a typo.
     
  • We're hoping to pop up at a dinner party near you, and Jessie WILL make you dinner in exchange for a bear hug.
     
  • Excited to record the highlights from our trip on our new HTC Re camera, and if you've been enjoying the little videos in the FB group, just let us know and we’ll keep ‘em coming.
     
  • Meeting new friends, and finding good coffee on the road. The pros and cons of taking a month to drive nearly 4,000 miles.
     
  • Jessie shares a convincing list of the Eight Reasons You Should Come See Us On Tour.
     
  • Gerard’s shares that his fantasy dreams involve Louis CK. Yikes.
     
  • We want to hook up her single pals at upcoming MIF events! New matchmaking career in the works?
     
  • Sadie Mae Pepper is obviously coming with us! Can we bribe you to come see us by offering free puppy snuggles?
     
  • Sign-up for our newsletter to keep up with the entire rundown of tour details!
     
  • We plan out the celebrations for our 8th Anniversary on the air... This is new for us. We BOTH forgot about our 1st anniversary and ended up marking the occasion with a lame selfie and a buffet dinner. PROOF:
"Look Mom, no wrinkles!"

"Look Mom, no wrinkles!"

  • The Eight Things That We’ve Learned in Each Year of Marriage: Hang light-fixtures with caution. Everyone grieves differently. Friends move away. Finding a fulfilling career is important. Camping on the living room floor is fun. Scented candles suck. Workcations are the best. Great love is way better then perfect love.
     
  • We have decided that year nine is going to be our best yet, and we're REALLY excited to have you along for the ride.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What would your ideal Marriage is Funny event look like? Send us a note if you'd like to help by hosting us in your town!
     
  • Who are the people in your current city that help make it feel like a golden time?
     
  • Ask your partner to share a big thing they've been dreaming about, and then help them answer the question: What's the worst that could happen?
     

Thank you SO much for all of the generous feedback you've left us on iTunes...

We are almost at the end of Apple's launch period for new shows, and the more love we get over there, the higher we show up in the overall feed! 

You guys have been blowing us away with your kind emails and heartfelt questions, and we're hoping to have a special second episode for you a little later this week!

Rule 009 | Use Caution When Pouring Your Heart Out to a Narcoleptic

The Peppers start in on the topic of cell phones, and end up talking about Jessie's hurt feelings instead. Gerard insists his attention is just a glance away, but Jessie explains the feelings of being replaced by his addiction to Angel's Baseball. Instead of trying to continually check-in on what the world is experiencing, they seek to experience the world together. Jessie explains her belief in the importance of therapy, and Gerard is very in touch with his feelings about it being an extremely expensive hobby.

QUICK BITES:

  • New feature alert! Our upcoming listener Q+A won’t work unless you send in your questions… email them to jessie [at] styleandpepper [dot] com or use this handy form. (Please include specific details, and whether or not you'd like to remain Anon.)
     
  • We passed an exciting milestone at MIF Headquarters this week… No, Gerard did not finally win the Powerball. (But he does plan to keep playing.)
     
  • Jessie accidentally hi-jacks G’s original topic, and he never quite gets his groove back.
     
  • Diving into bed early to spend time together does not have the effect that either of us had hoped for.
     
  • Gerard claims that Jessie is only ever a glance away, but glances are a lot harder to come by when there is a baseball game to tweet about.
     
  • Caution: Deleting the social media apps from your phone MAY cause a nervous tick to occur. Plus, if you don't have twitter installed, you won't be able to follow along with our attempts at humor.
     
  • Settling in to the sounds of silence is the best way to prevent a relapse to addiction. (See: Episode #2)
     
  • Our phones prevent us from really feeling like we’re experiencing things together, because we end up checking in to see what the rest of the world is experiencing instead.
     
  • Gerard + Jessie share a few tips for managing phone-time while you’re spending quality time with your partner. (Hint: It DOESN’T involve keeping the mobile device locked away in a drawer.)
     
  • Jessie requests permission to seek professional help for her mental and emotional health. Gerard makes an argument for why watching HGTV together could be just as therapeutic as the real thing.
     
  • The psychologist around the corner should have been a guest on Episode #6. Yet another vote for the growing list of supporters on #TeamNap.
     
  • When the budget feels too tight to seek professional help? Don’t forget about flex spending and long talks with good friends
     
  • If your partner has resistance when it comes to joining you on “the couch,” Gerard’s suggestions might help them feel better about the fear-filled unknown.


TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • Have you ever gotten your feelings hurt by being “replaced” with a mobile device?
     
  • What are some existing technological boundaries that have worked well for your own relationship? (Share them right over here!)
     
  • Is there anything that could become a shared activity, where you use your phone to enjoy it together?
     
  • Do you view therapy an expensive hobby or important investment? 
     

As we mentioned in the show, next week is going to be HUGE!

Stay tuned for the big news, and come chat with us over in the facebook group until then!

Rule 008 | Nothing Really Rhymes With Husband

The Peppers finally get a chance to take this show on the road! Episode 8 was recorded live in front of a studio audience, so thanks for hanging in there on some less-than-stellar audio quality. Listen in as we feature our best method to get your spouse to do what you want without nagging (no joke), and hear us ask some dear married friends what it looks like to explore the world while surviving the stresses of summer travel.

QUICK BITES:

  • A week in Kansas City, MO with friends brought us back to where our marriage began. Hear the full story in Episode 1.

  • Special friends join the show! Mimi & Tim KeelTricia & Jeremy CollinsAlan & Shanna Keller. How did we get so lucky?!

  • We’d love to have you check out the work of the brilliant minds above, and are sending special thanks to everyone who came to our very first LIVE recording!

  • Let’s face it: Nagging is hardly ever cute. We’ve come up with a framework to navigate the balance between effectiveness and gentleness when (repeatedly) requesting a favor from your spouse.

  • Jessie spent the last several years trying to avoid the “nagging-wife” stereotype, and it unfortunately turned her into a Passive Aggressor. (This is real life, and NOT a reference to one of the scary specimens on Jurassic World.)

  • Packing is overwhelming! Sharing the load of an endless to-do list makes it easier.

  • Asking for you what you actually need is far more effective than a temper-tantrum. (Imagine that! Mom was right.) You may remember when Jessie put this concept to work in Episode 7... Tears and bikini-talk ensued.

  • Gerard bottles up his feelings and nearly makes Jessie barf by barreling around the bends of a wind-y road.
     
  • Tim Keel - "There is a difference between a vacation and a trip. A vacation is when I let myself relax and do nothing, and it's replenishing. I feel more like myself when it's over. A trip is when we go DO something, and it might be fun, but I don't always feel refreshed. I often feel like it costs something."
     
  • Jeremy Collins - "The farther you get away from home, the more you open up. When you know it's an 8 minute trip, you talk about 8 minute stuff. When it's an 8 hour drive, you talk about 8 hour stuff. And 8 hour stuff is 8 year stuff, because the farther we get into the trip the more the conversation is real and true, and instead of 'What do you want to do for dinner?' it's 'What do you want to do with your life?'... The farther away you get from your reality and your life - that's when the conversation gets really interesting and memorable."
     
  • Happy wife, happy life... It was bound to come up sooner or later.
     
  • Jessie loves personality tests. Next up on her to-do list? Discover appropriate Enneagram number and call Shanna immediately with results. 
     
  • Shanna Keller - "I spend a lot of my emotional bandwidth (whether I'm asked to or not) thinking about how to take care of us as a joint unit. When he asks me to all of a sudden change our plan, I think 'I don't know how to take care of us inside that new idea,' but when he can tell me, 'Actually, I've already thought of some of those things, so you can reserve some of emotional bandwidth for saying yes,' then that's when I've found that I can say yes more easily." 
     
  • The Marriage is Funny Getaway 2016 is born. ;)
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, do you typically prefer emotional support or tangible action?

  • Describe your ULTIMATE ideal trip together! Are you more of a laid-back vacationer or a adventure-seeking explorer?
     
  • Is it ok to spend time apart when you travel as a duo? What seems like a good balance between branching out on your own, and being attached at the hip?
     

You guys have been incredibly generous with your support so far, and we are seriously blushing to see Marriage is Funny top the charts on iTunes! 

Keep leaving those ratings and reviews right over here, and be sure to send us your burning questions so that we can answer them in an upcoming Q+A episode!

Rule 007 | Putting On A Bikini Is the Best Way to Cheer Up A Crying Husband

The Peppers are pro-bikini, but there are plenty of folks out there who might disagree. Jessie + Gerard open up about how body image affects their marriage, and why the idea of modesty means something different to so many people. Gerard is reminded that we are blessed to be a blessing, and realizes that being a bi-vocational pastor is more ingrained in his life than he originally thought.

QUICK NOTES:

  • We survived Gerard’s family reunion at the lake, and there were no less than 19 references to thinly sliced deli meat throughout the entire weekend.
  • Huge thanks to everyone who has already shared their feedback for the show! We love hearing your thoughts, so keep 'em coming and feel free to leave us a review on iTunes in order to help us reach more wonderful humans.
  • Jessie has been popping up on a few other podcasts around the web this month: Listen to her chat about life as a creative entrepreneur on Dave Conrey’s Fresh Rag + making money online on The Lively Show.
  • The burden of how to wear a cute bathing suit without sinning. (Struggle’s real, y’all.)
  • Does showing too much skin in public take away from the mystery of intimate moments? Depends on the duo, apparently.
  • Modest musings, “mixed bathing” + making waves with an old rope.
  • Self-doubt is something that swims throughout both of our brains, but we hadn't talked about it until this episode.
  • Gerard almost gets punched for having a high metabolism.
  • Jessie shares her commitment to the mantra,“I am His,” and the two talk about what it means to embrace such a generous gift.
  • Do us a favor? Tell your partner how attractive they are to you. Right now.
  • Self-tanner is Jessie’s #1 tip for rocking a bathing suit with confidence.
  • Gerard’s lack of movement within his call to ministry is making him feel a bit bummed out. 
  • Metaphors about wells + pitchers + muscles (oh my!) are inspiring us to feel less stagnant as we pursue our purposes.
  • Jessie officially accepts Gerard as her latest lifestyle design client. She plans to promptly invoice him for the last eight years, and unfortunately does not offer a family discount.
  • If you ever feel like your purpose in life is not being realized, take stock of what the pursuit of that really means, and then find simple ways to embrace it everyday.
  • Passing the kleenex box and putting on a bikini are the best ways to cheer up a crying husband. You’re welcome. ;)

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  • Does your spouse have a preference on how much skin you show in public? How does this affect your decisions on getting dressed?
  • What do you NEED from your partner this week? Be honest!
  • Share some of the actions that make you feel most fulfilled, and talk about how to work them in to your day-to-day life.

Rule 006 | Never Serve Deli Meat to a Vegetarian

A timely episode, because most summers are filled to the brim with family time, picnic sammies, and lots and lots of weekend naps.

QUICK BITES:

  • Jessie powers through the latest recording sesh, despite her current "summer cold." She would like to acknowledge that this is definitely gross, and she's sorry for the nasal-y voice.
     
  • All the single ladies (well, two of them) send in their thoughts about the show, and we’re instantly smitten.
     
  • Gerard confesses to sleeping on the job. Horrible idea or brilliant strategy? Any listeners out there that feel daring enough to try this tactic?
     
  • Snoozers guilt is real, y’all. Justify your midday sleep sessions with our custom and compelling pro-nap research.
     
  • Our summer family reunion at the lake is next weekend.  Impending time with our loved ones leads to the need for a concrete strategy.
     
  • Send us your own in-law struggles right here, and we’d love to share a bit of feedback in an upcoming episode!
     
  • Jessie crumbles under the pressure of a simple sandwich. What’s the protocol for a vegetarian gal who adores her meat-eating mother-in-law?
     
  • The secret that could unlock your next holiday trip home: Always treat your partner just like you would a dinner party guest when you bring them to spend time with your family. 
     
  • Gerard uses a war metaphor to describe a helpful coping mechanism. This was apparently an accident, but it totally works. Ref: The Fog of War
     
  • As codependent as it sounds -- we always try to keep an eye on each other while at family functions, and making sure that food preferences, general activities + seating arrangements are coordinated certainly helps when it comes to feeling loved.
     
  • Gerard tells a LIE on the air for the first time ever... This weekend’s water balloon attacks at the lake will be documented, and Jessie will report back next week. Stay tuned. 
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • Ask your partner: "How can I make you feel more welcome when we're with my family?"
     
  • Are you on #TeamNap or #TeamAwake? Tweet at us with your vote! (And be sure to chat about it with your partner, too.)
     
  • Which member of your partner's family can you commit to connecting with, the next time you see them?
     

DON'T FORGET TO join us in THE FB group for behind-the-scenes videos and tons of new fun friends. ;)

Happy listening, and we'll catch ya next week!!! 

Rule 005 | It Never Hurts to Ask for a Price Cut

We may not be official Minimalists, but give us a chance to scale back on our bills, and we’ll take it. Episode 5 includes a round-up of our current TV favorites, tiny-house daydreaming + coming up with ways to get rid of clutter in order to live more simply.

QUICK BITES:

  • Finally an “E” for explicit. Thanks to Jessie’s cursing.
  • Listener shout-outs! We learn that our show pairs well with beautiful weather, and also makes a great soundtrack for cooking Blue Apron meals.
  • Quote sent in from Tim Suttle... (Tattooable? You be the judge.)
  • To cable, or not to cable? That is Jessie’s question.
  • Landline telephones = The next hipster trend?
  • Our current must-watch-TV includes The Americans, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt + Parenthood.
  • Buildings go up, rent goes down. Brilliant. (Please DO try this at home.)
  • Negotiation nation. Gerard shares his secrets for lowering our bills right and left.
  • Must listen: The Minimalists + Rob Bell
  • The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
  • Our first giveaway! We are shamelessly preventing our own clutter by sending you presents... Enter to win by leaving a comment on the FB thread, and we’ll draw a winner at random and announce in the next episode.
  • Jessie says, "Have knives, will travel. But otherwise, don’t even count on it."
  • Gerard finally comes clean about the teeny-tiny ulterior motive he has for bringing up the topic of living simply.
  • The 100 Things Challenge from our friend Jess Lively

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What are some areas of spending or bills that you could  feasibly lower throughout the year? Commit to asking boldly, and let's see what happens!
  • Where would you put your tiny dream-house?
  • If you had to get rid of just 10 things in your home right this minute, what would they be?

Don't forget to leave a comment on the FB thread to enter our secret surprise backpack giveaway! Spoiler alert: We peeked at what’s inside and IT’S AWESOME.

(If you HAPPEN to like fresh new beauty supplies.)

Happy listening, and see ya next week!!! 

Rule 004 | Never Air Your Dirty Laundry in Public

This show was originally supposed to be about laundry, but Jessie has a melt down, so Gerard throws in the towel.

Quick Bites:

  • Episode 4 brings a funk, so we scrap the whole thing to bring you the most honest conversation yet.

  • Jessie’s voice gets a lot higher when she cries. This makes editing our levels very difficult.

  • Sifting through honest conversations to find the valuable nuggets has turned out to be much harder than real-life panning for gold.

  • On-tape fighting. Special request for our best friend, Ric.

  • Jessie has an epiphany while she’s running, and when she bursts into the room it rallies the wavering energy of the week.

  • We actually ARE really stoked about laundry detergent, but you’ll have to stay tuned for “the lost episode” to find out why.

  • Gerard’s comedy theory informs Jessie’s consulting for creative entrepreneurs… (We were just as surprised as you are.)

  • We share a big sneak peek at some of our upcoming topics, and then give YOU a chance to pick for an upcoming show. (Weigh in here.)

  • Don't forget to subscribe on iTunes, come say hello on twitter, and we’ll see you next week!

Trigger Question:

  • List three things that you’re excited to talk with your partner about… What is getting you fired up lately?!  Start your own chat-list!

Share your answers with us in the facebook group, and we love digging in with the lively bunch hanging out over there!

Rule 003 | No One Likes to be Woken Up by a Vibrating Floor

This episode is (partially) about sleep, which is ironic because Jessie is up working on this very post at 3:16am, and Gerard is busy getting his beauty rest.  Keeping the summary short, so check out the bites below and we can't wait to hear what you think!

Quick Bites:

  • Differing sleep schedules cause us a bit of dissonance. Gerard is jealous of Jessie’s late mornings, but not so much of her insomnia.

  • Our first few months of marriage made for wake-up habits that have lasted for years. Gerard is the alarm-guy and Jessie is pretty much useless unless he wakes her up with snuggles and sweet-nothings.

  • Our alarm-clock frames of reference from growing up are as different as night and day. We are currently trying to track down Gerard's original 1980s classic white radio (with red lights).

  • The super-cool French neighbors downstairs get woken up with a vibrating surprise. Oops.

  • A challenge is presented: J plans to start waking up earlier so that we can spend time together before we start our days. G prefers to eat his egg sandwich and watch the news in peace, so we’ll keep you posted on how this pans out.

  • Last year we read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and the biggest benefit was learning to be fluent in each others feelings. During the show, we explore what Quality Time means to each of us, and in real-life we often DQ our devices when they get in the way of heartfelt conversations.

  • Shared projects and hobbies can include everything from comedy to cocktails to climbing, but we find that anything where learning meets fun turns out to be the best combo.

Trigger Questions:

  • How old were you when you first had to start waking up on your own?

  • Describe the version of quality time that makes you feel most loved. How can your partner make small steps toward making this happen?

  • If you had to choose one song to be woken up with for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Chat each other up, and then march on over to share your findings with us right here!

Rule 002 | Always Keep Your Partner’s Favorite Mood Music On Hand

In episode two, we share our thoughts on the topics of well-placed silence + mis-matched last names. Living in a noisy city can have it’s downsides, but not many sounds are worse than a co-worker cutting his or her toenails at their desk. (EW!) After learning about a disorder called Misophonia from a noise-averse friend, Jessie quickly self-diagnoses herself to justify the inappropriate irritation she feels from minor day-to-day noises.

We discuss our “bedroom playlist” preferences for the first time, and invent an app that will make it easier to "turn something on" at a moments notice. While the differences between evenings with an introvert and an extrovert are considered, a third member of the family is introduced -- Hi, Joey! 

Gerard wants to figure out why people won't get over Jessie’s last name, and he finally admits to embracing his secret alter ego. We come clean about the story behind naming our podcast, and you'll hear a glimpse at how The Peppers first came to be.

References: The Todd Glass Show, Pete Holmes talking with Richard Rohr on You Made it Weird, One Part Plant by Jessica Mernane, The Meyers-Briggs Foundation, Jessie’s fashion and lifestyle blog called Style + Pepper, Being Boss Facebook group

QUICK BITES:

  • Pretty obsessed with podcasts. G loves these guys, and Jessie is hooked on way too many to name. (Ok, fine: Rob Bell's Robcast, Start Up, The Longest Shortest Time, The Lively Show, The Good Life Project, Being Boss, After the Jump, and the list goes on.)

  • Jessie slows down her super-speed listening when the words are extra special. (Richard Rohr + Pete Holmes even got a second listen!)

  • Misophonia is not the fear of ordering soup at a sushi restaurant, but might explain why you want to walk around with marshmallows in your ears.

  • Silence is sometimes a good thing, but we prefer music during dinner. And sex. We’ve learned that the same tunes often work well for both.

  • A killer idea for an app is invented. Stay tuned and (hopefully) you'll thank us later. 

  • Introversion vs. extraversion on a typical weeknight. Can you guess which one of us is which?

  • Gerard is perplexed by how many people are fascinated with our different last names. Specifically, our dry cleaning delivery guy.

  • We share the story behind how we became The Peppers. It involves a bit of style, and some self-discovery from Gerard.

  • Crowdsourcing some responses by checking in on social media... Send a request to join our facebook group and be sure to follow @meetthepeppers on social media!

  • Sharing several super-creative last-name stories from fellow fans of the podcast, Being Boss. (A must listen for any creative entrepreneur!)

Trigger Questions:

  • What is your absolute least favorite noise in the entire world?

  • What is the first thing that comes to mind when you meet a woman who has kept her maiden name?

  • When was the last time you experienced complete silence? Did it make you feel relief or discomfort?

Take a stab at answering the above, and we'll chat about it right over here!

Rule 001 | Don't Try to Hang a Chandelier Together in Your First Year of Marriage

We FINALLY kick off our first episode and can't help but hit the ground running. You'll hear a bit of backstory on how we met along with the reasons why starting a podcast feels like an important part of our current reality. (Spoiler: A few of the reasons are self-indulgent and we borrow a page from the book of one of our favorite married couples, Rob + Kristen Bell.) We also start to explore the big dreams and future plans for this little community, beginning with a private Facebook group that you can join right here.

Listen for the story of our first big fight, and a declaration that Rule #1 for marriage should be “Don’t try to hang a chandelier together in your first year.” Jessie shares about how being a wife sometimes make her want to throw things, and Gerard learns that he has set unattainable standards for himself as a husband. We decide together that searching for Great Love (instead of perfect love) is the best approach, and that the accountability of this show will be the best way to do just that.

References: The Zim Zum of Marriage by Rob + Kristen Bell

QUICK BITES:

  • We start the show exactly how Jessie starts her jogs. Which also elicits instant concern from the neighbors.

  • Rob + Kristen Bell’s book is next on our list. His killer podcast is already a shared favorite.

  • We’ve got big dreams for this little community... Join the MIF facebook group to take a podshot at Gerard.

  • The birthplace of our “idyllic” college courtship. (And the movie we saw on our first/accidental date.)

  • Jessie's favorite place to shop for chandeliers and Gerard’s favorite way to prevent electrocution.

  • See our current light fixture above, and get your own swag hooks to be fancy like us.

  • Jessie compares being a wife to this classic pastime and fesses up to temper-tantrum box throwing.

  • Gerard wants to earn a simple trophy for his art of husbandry.

  • We decide to set out on the hunt for Great Love, and then commit to putting our aspirations for perfection to rest.

Try 'em at home trigger Questions:

  • When was the first time that you can remember having a fight with your partner?

  • Which year of marriage has been your most difficult?

  • What does the phrase “Great Love” mean to you?

Talk it out amongst yourselves, and free to share your thoughts with us here!