Travel

Rule 061 | Getting Away Creates Space For Great Love

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We’re back for Season Five with lots of fun stuff to tell you! First -- tune in for a BIG announcement about our next Great Love Getaway in Puerto Vallarta, and then head to our vacation page to find out how to join us on the trip.

This week’s show is a story-filled recap of everything we learned on our anniversary trip to Morocco, Spain + Portugal in September. Adventure lovers will learn from our silly mistakes and seasoned travelers will laugh at all the ridiculous blunders... A must-listen for anyone who missed our insta-stories and is dying to hear (or willing to tolerate) the full rundown.  

Meanwhile -- we’re so excited to be back for another season and thank you so much to our generous Great Love Gang who is making this show possible! Find out how to get involved on the support page of our site and don’t forget to come hang out on twitter and instagram while you listen!

QUICK BITES:

  • Check out the highlights of our Summer Travel Series for the full itinerary and all of our BEST adventure tips.
  • If Tomorrow Gerard has a problem, then Tomorrow Jessie has a problem too. (Unfortunately, Today Gerard likes to save money without thinking of the consequences and that can sometimes cause a lot of problems for both of them.)
  • Jessie’s new favorite travel sleeping contraption is called a trtl pillow and the irony of that name is not lost on either one of us.
  • The Peppers packed for two whole weeks in just two tiny carry-ons! Proof that when you pair a stylist with an actuary, they can combine their packing powers for the good of suitcases everywhere.
  • Our trip to The Blue City of Chefchaouen got cancelled after a rough night on the overnight train.
  • Jessie’s refuses to rest her head on any questionable surfaces so she MacGuyvered herself a sleeping situation using some extra flat sheets and her trusty leather backpack.
  • Who doesn’t love sleeping on a mattress that reminds you of a greasy-spoon diner booth?! (Jessie doesn’t. In case that isn’t clear from the episode or the sarcasm of this question.)
  • If you ever find yourself on the coast of Central Portugal, please go try the buttered cheese and pesto from Azenhas do Mar.
  • If you ever find yourself eating too much buttered cheese at Azenhas do Mar, we recommend chasing it with a digestive enzyme and a couple of charcoal pills.
  • Despite any rumors you may have heard, Jessie has NOT switched over to Team Nap.
  • Gerard hates to leave a country with their local currency, so Jessie has gotten quite good at spending it out to the very last dirham.

 

Lessons From Our Anniversary Adventure: 

  1. Sometimes it’s ok to pay a little extra money to fly direct.

  2. We could all probably stand to do a lot less laundry in our lives

  3. Switzerland is really expensive.

  4. Never force your wife to ride on an overnight train in Morocco.

  5. It’s always ok to change your plans in the middle of the trip. Sometimes it’s worth it to go with the flow and change your plans at the last minute.

  6. Never ever (4x) travel without antibacterial wipes.

  7. The world isn’t going to end if you occasionally indulge in really good bread while on vacation.

  8. Check the weather before you go on special excursions, and be flexible on dates in order to make it work.

  9. The world would be a better place if everyone anchored their days around a siesta.

  10. Always change your money to the local currency if you want to get the best exchange rate.

  11. Getting outside your typical routine is a great way to experience special moments with your partner.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  1. Which is worse? Being stuck in a small airplane seat for a short amount of time OR having extra leg room in a big seat for a really long flight with lots of layovers?
  2. What is your all time favorite food indulgence that you reserve especially for travel or other special occasions.
  3. Where is the best spot in your neighborhood to take a blanket and a bottle of wine for date night?

Rule 060 | Don't Get Your Bikini Waxed The Day Before A Beach Trip

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The big finale of our special Summer Travel Series! Jessie + Gerard dive deep into their hardshell rollerbags to bring you the absolute best of their biggest travel tips. This episode is all about efficiency while adventuring, and please consider it a personal survival guide packed with resources just for you!

Thank you so much for tuning in this Summer... We would LOVE to have your support for our upcoming episodes and you can find out how to get involved with the show right over here

In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...

The Official "Marriage is Funny" Travel Manual

 


Jessie's 6 Points to Smart Packing:

  1. Capsule wardrobes are key. The Peppers discuss this discovery in Episode 59 and it proves the love that both partners have for form, function, and ultimate efficiency.

  2. Choose a color scheme. Let the season and the destination determine your selection, and don’t forget that complimentary colors make it much easier to mix and match all of your pieces.

  3. Multifunctional clothing is key. Jessie loves pieces like this drapey cardigan, and of course the Pepper Dress was literally MADE for feeling stylish on your next big trip.

  4. Choose a uniform. Figure out what you love to wear most at certain points of transit and then OWN IT instead of trying to get creative each time. Jessie says that a great pair of compression leggings makes for the perfect base layer, and Gerard swears by his fancy leather backpack to keep his personal belongings in tow.

  5. Keep your neutrals in check. Most accessories are either leather (or leather-like) and differing shades can cause a bit of clashing depending what else you bring to wear. Optimize the options by selecting one color (or two that are complimentary) and Jessie personally loves sticking with black and/or camel... with the occasional pop of red.

  6. Leave the heavy stuff behind. Shoes and handbags should be as light as possible (especially when empty), but it also makes sense to leave out bulky bras, hats, and other cumbersome pieces that you can live without.

 

  • Grab Gerard’s style faves here:  red chinos, barracuda jacket, and a suede bomber.

  • Jessie’s favorite boutique is Moss Designer Consignment in Austin, Texas, and here is what she wore on the day she bought the world's heaviest bag.

  • Gerard explains that planning ahead in the food department is key to keeping Jessie healthy when they’re away from home. Things like grapefruit/oranges, sugar snap peas, protein bars and mixed nuts will keep you full and happy.

  • The Peppers reminisce about the time when Jessie almost got detained at customs because of a lesser-known Jamaican export.

  • Jessie uses this ginger tea to keep away the tummy problems and Gerard prefers the stronger method of immodium ad.

  • Listen in for the secret to getting a mini-fridge delivered to your hotel room so that you can hit up a local grocery store or keep your fancy leftovers cold.

  • Gerard can’t live without these fancy licorice bites. Or Mountain Dew Code Red. Or Smuckers Uncrustables.

  • Jessie realizes that Gerard accommodates her food needs so that he can LATER gripe about the make-up and skincare obsession that we’ve talked about on past episodes.


TOILETRY TIPS:


PACKET PRODUCTS YOU CAN’T PASS UP:

Nail polish remover pads
Murad Resurfacing Peel
Starbucks "Via" instant coffee
Leaner Creamer
Collagen powder
Hand + Face Wipes
Acure Coconut + Argan Oil wipes
Whiskey
Mac + Cheese
 

  • We’ve talked about travel rewards points on the show before but Gerard uses this opportunity to dive even deeper into his favorite topic. No word yet on whether he can redeem the frozen yogurt frequent-shopper cards that Jessie has collected from across the country.

  • The Peppers prefer Southwest Airlines when it comes to a credit card with great earning options. The Chase credit card has extremely versatile points that can be redeemed for almost anything, and we use our American Express to get 6% cash back on our purchases. JetBlue offers family accounts in case you'd like to accrue points as a crew, but regardless of where you start: please SPEND RESPONSIBLY and don’t email us with complaints about your debt bill. (But DO message us here with any questions/additional advice.)

  • The Points Guy is Gerard’s go-to resource for learning, but the best place to start is with a simple sign up. We love SPG, Marriott + Kimpton for hotel stays, and most of these have transferrable or gifting options.

  • Download your binge-able content from Netflix or Amazon Prime instead of staring at the in-flight magazine for the umpteenth time.

  • Get a kindle or e-reader and then download the Overdrive app for FREE e-books (as long as you have a valid library card)! Using your prime membership will also give access to tons of free books + magazines that can come straight to your device!

  • Figuring out your international data plan ahead of time is the right idea, but if you want to conserve data while you’re abroad: be sure to download the Google Translate app before you go! Duolingo is also a fun way to learn the basics in many languages. (Added Bonus: Their app doubles as an iPhone game and we talk about this more in depth on Episode 18.)

  • Sleeping on airplanes suck no matter what, but Jessie is going to test out the Trtl Pillow to see if it makes a difference in getting her beauty sleep while on-the-go. It's part scarf / part neckbrace and will hopefully lull Jessie into a reasonable about of rest.

  • Magnesium supplements act as natural relaxants for tired/tense muscles and you can use the powdered or pill form depending on whatever is most convenient. Gerard swears by melatonin for this same purpose, but it makes some people groggy so you may need to test it out first. 

  • And finally: Some say that you can speed up the jet-lag recovery process by grounding yourself in the grass with bare feet. Gerard plans to try it on our trip to Europe/Africa this fall, and Jessie is happy to have some validation of her inner hippie-girl. 
     

Three Things We’ve Learned From Our Biggest Travel Mistakes:

  1. Always Pack Underwear In Your Carry-on Bag

  2. Never Leave Home Without Anti-Nausea Medication

  3. Don’t Get Your Bikini Waxed On The Day Before A Beach Trip

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you have a typical travel uniform that you rely on while flying or driving long distances?
     
  2. What is your road trip junk food of choice?
     
  3. If you could have tiny, individually wrapped packets of any product, what would it be?


We will miss you guys so much while we're on our next break! ❤️ Come hang out with us online by following along with our insta-stories, and join the private FB group to connect with the rest of our Great Love Gang!

Rule 057 | Tourist Traps Are Rarely Worth The Trip

The Peppers are taking a 10-year anniversary trip in September and are finding that the road to planning everything out is a little rockier than they expected. Tune in as they navigate the nitty gritty of nailing down a perfect itinerary and please send recommendations if you have any can’t-miss spots that you think we’d love!

Thank you so much for tuning in to the MIF Summer Travel Series... We would LOVE to have your support for our upcoming episodes, and you can find out how to get involved with our Season Five Dollar Drive right over here


In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...

QUICK BITES:

  • We’ve been married for almost 10 years and haven’t really planned a trip for just the two of us yet! (Unless you count the Great Love Getaways with our listeners or the cross country tour in 2015?)

  • We’re experiencing the speculation that The Keels talked about in Episode 8: sometimes both partners define a trip differently from a vacation.

  • Gerard almost gave Jessie a heart attack while his finger hovered over the purchase button of some spendy European flights... At this point, we’re both thankful for his deep love of airline points which you may remember from back in Episode 36.

  • The Peppers are flying in and out of Switzerland from the U.S. and then will explore the countries of Spain, Portugal + Morocco from there. (One of the two finally concedes that an upgrade is necessary when you’re married to someone with absurdly long legs.)

  • Jessie and Gerard have differing approaches to budgeting for their big trip, but setting an initial number provides a helpful launching pad for the cost break down.

  • Gerard is the money guy in this family, but you’ll hear our budgeting deficit start to re-emerge from back in Episode 22. Hear him start to squirm when Jessie presses for exact numbers, while she also simultaneously admits to her unavoidable cheapskater-y.

  • The Peppers nab some travel books for each of the different locations that they’re going to visit, but want to make sure that they cross-reference with personal recommendations in order to avoid the tourist traps. 

  • Jessie confesses that she hates museums and Gerard professes a preference for monuments. The two agree that a fat tire bike tour is the best way to see a new city, and they had a fabulous experience when they tried it in Paris.

  • The Peppers walk through their individual “best day” scenario for their upcoming trip... Thankfully, both have pretty similar expectations and the results will probably depend on access to a swanky SPG hotel gym OR a nice Airbnb kitchen.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What’s your favorite travel splurge when it comes to a long trip?

  2. Which partner in your relationship typically takes the reins on planning for vacation?

  3. What was the most disappointing travel experience that you've ever had with your spouse?

 

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Rule 056 | Never Change A Policy While Your Partner Is Out Of Town

Two months apart has taken a serious toll on the Pepper’s connection, so they do what ALL married millennials do: they talk about it on their podcast! The Peppers have discussed the topic of work travel in the past, but this latest experience has easily been the hardest one so far. Jessie makes massive changes to the house policies while Gerard is away, and this results in the need to ban an entire phrase from her vocabulary.

Thank you so much for tuning in to the MIF Summer Travel Series... We would LOVE to have your support for our upcoming episodes, and you can find out how to get involved with our Season Five Dollar Drive right over here


In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Jessie admits that her life (while pretending to be a savvy-single woman) is vastly different from her life when Gerard is still in town.

  • Can Lifestyle Design be considered a healthy coping mechanism? You be the judge.

  • The Peppers discuss how the latest binge-worthy TV show is a mini-series called Big Little Lies. (Pretty ironic that Jessie *almost* catches Gerard in one while they’re talking about it.) In case you decide to check it out for yourself, please be warned that there ARE gratuitous sex scenes (and some violence) up ahead.

  • Jessie fesses up to her treat-yourself splurges: expensive workout classes, fancier-than-normal groceries, and spoiling Sadie with new puppy toys. There could be far worse vices, but her revengeful attitude is a little unnerving.

  • Gerard acknowledges that their “cushion” has worn extremely thin... Probably more accurate to say that the cushion has been blown to smithereens, and they are currently trying to rebuild the house that once surrounded the cushion. As you might expect, abandonment issues abound.

  • Tune in to the following past episodes for more about navigating work + travel as a couple: how to love your partner through a rewards point addiction, keeping yourself entertained while one spouse is away, and what to do if you feel like a work-widow.

  • Part of the challenge from the duo’s time apart was caused by the stress of Jessie’s recent Kickstarter campaign -- A business project that no entrepreneur should have to go alone!

  • Gerard (accidentally) blurts out that his least favorite part about the travel was when he actually had to come back home to the tension each week. Everyone makes a note that insulting your wife is not the best way to woo her into quality time.

  • Jessie explains how her routine is different while Gerard is gone, and the two begin to hunt for a solution to running the house in a more streamlined way at all times. Basically, Gerard needs to do a better job of keeping up with the chores and Jessie needs to offer up WAY more grace than she has in the past.

  • There are STILL dishes in the sink as these show notes are being recorded. Not much has changed since we talked about this in Ep 44: Wine Glasses Are Not Meant To Be Washed By Hand.

  • Gerard explains the unfairness of Jessie changing the policy while he was away and he begs her to ditch the exclamatory approach.

  • The Peppers have big plans to repair their relationship by filling the Summer with joy and adventure together... This is the perfect pursuit as they launch into The MIF Summer Travel Series!


TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is your favorite way to indulge while your partner is out of town?
     
  2. When has been the hardest time period in your entire marriage? What has allowed you to heal from that experience?
     
  3. What is one phrase that you wish you could BAN from your partner’s entire vocabulary?


Come hang out with us online by following along with our insta-stories, and join the private FB group to connect with the rest of our Great Love Gang!

Rule 055 | Superheroes Never Have More Than One Sidekick

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Jessie + Gerard return from a long podcasting break, and this show is a recap of what the last several months have been like for The Peppers. Tune in as we kick-off the upcoming special travel series, and don't forget to share your Summer moments by using #marriageisfunnyontheroad on your favorite social media platforms! 

We REALLY missed the Great Love Gang... Thank you so much for your enthusiastic support, and you can find out how to join our Dollar Drive for Season Five right over here


In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...


QUICK BITES:

  • The Highs + Lows game can be traumatizing to anyone who experienced it as a tween, so The Peppers play their own version and want YOUR help in giving it a new name. (Thanks to inspiration from the hosts of The Popcast Podcast and That’s So Retrograde!)

  • Jessie launched a new business while we were away! Check out her ethically-made multi-functional dress design called Season, and watch the short film to get the full story behind the brand.

  • Gerard just finished a two-month stint of commuting back and forth to the East Coast each week, and we agree that it was one of the hardest periods of our entire 10 years of marriage. Jessie accuses him of flirting with the flight attendants to get better seat upgrades, and he interestingly does not deny this point. 

  • The chance to travel around and speak on stage together is always such a highlight! February took us back to Kansas City for a big event, and we’re excited to add new dates to our calendar for appearances during the rest of 2017.

  • Gerard starts wearing a helmet while riding his bike to work, and Jessie calms down because they finally figured out how to get their armoire through the bedroom window.

  • Jessie gets excited about Gerard performing with a legit (local) rock and roll band, and we love it when our listeners come to the gigs!

  • The Peppers give you the dish on the neighborhood black sheep: Unit #3. Jessie’s warmth drives away the unfriendly tenants and then she accidentally enables the ones who do drugs right outside their bedroom window.

  • Sleeping arrangements have shifted yet again... After splitting up for their snooze-time (hear more about that in Ep 36), Jessie has snuck back into the master bedroom by disguising herself as a sea creature.  

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What has your partner done in the last 6 months that made you very proud
  2. Have you stopped nagging your spouse about anything lately? Is there anything you WISH you could stop nagging them about?
  3. Who is your favorite neighbor and why do you love them so much?

Rule 036 | The Lifespan Of A Mattress Is Only Eight Years

Jessie wants to experiment with sleeping in other beds, but Gerard cares more about earning reward points while doing it. The Peppers commit to filling their year with travel, and they both decide to be more intentional about tucking each other in at night.

Hard to believe we're nearing the end of another season, but that means we're now accepting sponsors for Season Three of the show!

Contact us directly for more info, and be sure to save the date for our finale party on May 29th.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Sharing so many of our favorite things this week, but no money has exchanged hands in the making of this episode.
     
  • Listen to Episodes 23 + 27 to catch up on Gerard’s crazy work schedule and frequent travel situation.
     
  • Jessie admits that there are many benefits to having the whole house to herself.
     
  • We’re still on a mission to get Lester Holt and his wife Carol on an episode of Marriage is Funny... Send him a tweet and let's swarm him with some social media love!
     
  • Jessie’s mornings begin with her fancy french press and a simpler version of this Rocket Fuel Latte.
     
  • Check out The Points Guy and find out how to earn a Southwest Companion Pass for free.
     
  • No cross-county tour for us this summer, but we ARE excited to pop around to a few of our favorite US cities! We want to hang out with you, so let us know if you'd like to host a little shindig.
     
  • Gerard packs his "whole shebang" in his killer travel set from Vessel.
     
  • No one is surprised that Jessie’s meticulous systems apply to her travel snacks as much as her regular eating schedule.
     
  • Tree-huggers will love the Make A Green Choice plan from all Starwood Hotels.
     
  • The conversation about separate beds is sure to ruffle a lot of feathers, but one thing we know for sure is that flipping over in a squishy bed is very inefficient.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. If you could fly with your partner to any place in the world for free, where would it be?
     
  2. Do you know any other couples who sleep in separate beds? Have you ever considered it?
     
  3. How do you usually pass the time on an airplane?

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Rule 034 | Come Up With A Code Word To Avoid Conflict

An accidental-repeat topic that you won’t want to miss. Gerard claims he has an urgent issue with his in-laws, and Jessie is hoping to protect both Peppers from getting badly burned on the Great Love Getaway in Mexico this week. Catch snippets from our trip on social media: we're @styleandpepper on snapchat/insta and @meetthepeppers on twitter.

Hard to believe we're nearing the end of another season, but that means we're now accepting sponsors for Season Three of the show!

Contact us directly for more info, and be sure to save the date for our finale party on May 29th.

 

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard compares Jessie’s proficiency for packing to the athleticism of an olympic athlete. Flattering, but highly inaccurate.
     
  • We do our packing much like we do our laundry... As far away from each other as humanly possible.
     
  • Jessie is fanatical about sunscreen application. She has favorites for both face and body, and even uses one that comes infused with bug spray.
     
  • Gerard denies that he has rules for his approach to sun exposure, but Jessie points out that history says otherwise.
     
  • The Peppers find out that taking care of yourself applies to both skincare AND fast food.
     
  • Gerard tries to uncover why he sometimes acts rude when they visit Jessie’s parents.
     
  • A snippy comment after a rough day can end up being the straw that breaks the wifey’s back.
     
  • Hilarious brothers are sometimes a blessing in disguise. We’ll prove it by pointing you toward the episode with little bro Joey from last season.
     
  • The Peppers tend to revert to their childlike selves whenever they visit their families. The Mom’s love to dote, but Jessie insists on pitching in. (And ruining Gerard’s vacations at the same time.)
     
  • Come up with a code-word to avoid conflict, and remember that co-piloting a situation is always the best plan.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  1. When you’re taking a trip together, do you pack separately or in the same suitcase? How did this approach come about?
     
  2. Have you ever gotten so sunburned that it actually made you sick?
     
  3. What is one self-care habit that you wish your partner would be better at?

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Rule 029 | Salads Aren't Meant To Make You Feel Guilty

The Peppers are officially inviting YOU to come on vacation with us in April! We’re taking some listeners to Puerto Vallarta next month, and we can already tell that it is going to be EPIC.

In this week’s episode, Jessie professes her commitment to the grocery store up the street. While she’d rather stroll the aisles than make a trip to the spa, we learn that Gerard definitely prefers the spa, but expects to get his massages from within the comforts of his own home.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • A Marriage is Funny proposal! What the what?! Help us celebrate with Ashley and her man in the private MIF Facebook group!
     
  • Jessie kicked her commitment issues and joined the frequent shopper club at her fave local grocery store. Listen in for her prioritized list of supermarket criteria, and get her expert instructions for buying the best type of kale. 
     
  • Gerard’s healthy eating goes out the window when Jessie leaves town. How does that saying go? When the wife’s away, the husband eats junk food...
     
  • Jessie would easily drive across town for her favorite fake ice cream. Arctic Zero and a piece of dark chocolate is a nightly ritual at Casa de Pepper.
     
  • Gerard shares a special recipe for something that only HE can create: Guilt Salad. (With extra parmesan and a side of preservatives, please.)
     
  • The last thing Jessie needs before leaving on a trip is another to-do item… As you may have heard in Episode 8, we’re still working on smoothing out our pre-travel send off.
     
  • The Melt Massage courses have significantly upped our back-rubbing game. Now all we need to do is harness a bit of heartfelt motivation.
     
  • Gerard bounces back from a bad massage experience, and now Jessie is stuck bearing the brunt of his trauma.
     
  • Give Jessie a head of cauliflower and a fully stocked pantry, and she'll gladly make you a healthy feast!

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. When it comes to grocery stores, are you more of a “wander the aisles” kind of person or do you prefer to make a plan and have your list delivered?
     
  2. What is your favorite way to receive physical connection from your partner?
     
  3. Would you rather have a fully stocked fridge filled with all of your favorite ingredients or a super-luxurious back rub that you never have to reciprocate?

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Rule 028 | Magazine Clippings Belong In The Bathroom

In this episode, The Peppers discuss the merits of being totally fresh faced or having two-week scruff. Jessie reveals her complex system for magazine organization, and they both try to decide if they were conned by the friendliest scam artist ever.

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QUICK BITES:

  • Good news for our parents…Finally: a clean episode!
     
  • We love hearing about your love and lives over on the private FB group. Share photos, questions, ideas, jokes and have fun getting to know the other couples in our growing fam!
     
  • Gerard needs to start brushing up on his Spanish, because we’re going to Mexico! He might want to start by re-listening to our conversation in Episode 18.
     
  • Travel-fights are NOT happening before the big trip. (We uncover why they happen back in Episode 8.)
     
  • Hair-removal woes are not just for women. Gerard's real question is: To beard, or not to beard?
     
  • Jessie comes from a long line of bad-ass moustaches, and Gerard realizes he may never live up to the hype.
     
  • Back in Episode 16 we talk about why "Lipstick Is The Quickest Way To Keep Away The Kisses"… (This week we learn that a few week’s scruff does the exact same thing.)
     
  • Gerard’s passport photo makes him look like a terrorist.
     
  • Jessie needs a magazine intervention. Do these exist? How do we sign her up?
     
  • Bon Appetit makes things like brussels sprouts and ice cubes feel way more fun.
     
  • The Pepper's Sunday morning routine involves fresh coffee, Meet The Press and the latest issue of Bloomberg Businessweek.
     
  • Sadie’s a superstar! Check out her first HGTV Magazine appearance right here.
     
  • Casa de Pepper is getting a NO SOLICITING sign. Do they make one that says, “Except for Girl Scout Cookies.” in tiny print at the bottom?  
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you have strong preferences around your partner’s physical appearance? Does it have anything to do with how they looked when you met?
     
  2. What’s your favorite bathroom reading material?
     
  3. Have you ever bought anything from a door to door salesperson?

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Rule 021 | You Don't Need An Excuse To Throw A Big Party

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We're back and we missed you guys more than you know! It's finally time for Season Two, and there are a lot of reasons to party so we're diving right in.

Be sure to listen for our very special guests, and we're sending big bear hugs to the dear friends who are helping us celebrate this week:

QUICK BITES:

  • Would you ever have guessed the most requested topic of all time? Jessie spills the beans and then promises to talk about kiddos in the near future.
     
  • Our Great Love Getaway is coming in Spring 2016! Sign up at meetthepeppers.com to be the first to know about dates and details.
     
  • We finally found a place to live and are loving our little bungalow in Long Beach (especially because the owner has turned out to be our fairy landlordmother). Back in Episode #5, we talk about how it never hurts to ask for a price cut, and recently had a big win by following one of our own rules.
     
  • Gerard has started traveling a lot more with his new job, and Jessie is getting used to being home alone with nothing but reality TV and a queen-size bed to keep her company. #heavenonearth
     
  • Our trip to Guatemala with Unbound.org was a huge blessing, but Jessie’s animal-arch-nemesis kept crawling right up and creeping her out.
     
  • Gerard brags on Jessie for finishing her first triathlon, and then calls her out for waiting to learn her road bike until the last minute.
     
  • Sadie gets major surgery and we end up learning what it’s (probably) like to take care of a drunken toddler.
     
  • Gerard admits to getting 7 bottles of fancy liquor in his Christmas stocking. (Thanks, Santa!)
     
  • Hosting big parties make the Peppers happy, so we use Epiphany as an excuse to throw the biggest bash of the year.
     
  • Gerard is obsessed with ambiance and has learned everything he knows from party expert (and comedian) Todd Glass.
     
  • More backstory (and unexpected challenges) from the wacky costume party that we talked about in Episode 20.
     
  • Jessie’s friend Erin created a helpful guide to use as the day-of timeline for a big party
     
  • Gerard shares the traditional meaning behind why we celebrate the ancient holiday of Epiphany. Prepare yourself for a little preaching.
     
  • Our special guests weigh in on the following prompts:
    • What does Great Love look like within your own marriage?
    • What is it about your partner that makes you better together?
    • What makes up the right mix for your own marriage recipe?

 

Trigger Questions:

  • Which is more embarrassing: Accidentally showing up to a dinner party an hour early or an hour late?
     
  • What songs were your favorite additions to the dance jams of 2015?  
     
  • Describe your idea of the perfect "party ambiance"... Do you and your partner have differing views?

 

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Rule 018 | Cute Haircuts Are The Way To A New Friend's Heart

This week, The Peppers learn a few do’s and don’ts of connecting with strangers. Jessie finds out why hot-shotting in a different language can easily end up in embarrassment, and then explains to Gerard how generous compliments are an easy way to break the ice with new friends. 

THIS WEEK’S EPISODE WAS BROUGHT TO YOU BY AIRBNB! JOIN US BY LISTING YOUR OWN SPACE ON THE SITE, AND NEW USERS WILL GET A $25 CREDIT TOWARDS YOUR NEXT ADVENTURE.

QUICK BITES:

  • We are so grateful to Sprint for making our On The Road tour possible! Be sure to check out the special highlights of our trip as we share them over on their feed, and follow along with styleandpepper on snapchat for more fun clips of our behind the scenes. ;)
  • RSVP to our PHX event and you'll be there to listen as we record the Season One finale!
  • In October, The Peppers are heading to Guatemala with Unbound, and we would love to encourage our community to consider finding their own sponsored friend!
  • Gerard’s Spanish immersion program was wonderful and he would recommend it to anyone.
  • Jessie reflects on the breakdown she experienced after getting braces for the fourth time in a row.
  • Duolingo FEELS like just another fun game on your phone, but has actually been a super helpful way for us to brush up on our Spanish.
  • Pepper-bestie Sara B was met by twinning with Jessie in the same pair of jeans.
  • This week’s episode was brought to you by Airbnb! Join us by listing your own space on the site, and new users will get a $25 credit towards your next adventure. 

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What is the longest amount of time you’ve ever spent away from your partner? How did that experience affect your communication as a whole?
  • What’s the craziest way that you’ve ever started up a conversation with a new friend?
  • Would you ever consider hosting travelers in your own home?

Rule 014 | Connection Is Easier When You Have A Good Cushion

Another mid-week quickie that features three listener questions: How-to, when-to, and why-to connect with your partner.

In this episode, we also announce the first six cities of our Marriage is Funny On the Road tour, and talk about how having a good cushion is important when setting out on any adventure.  

QUICK BITES:

  • We are finally ready to tell you some details about our cross-country trip! Sign up here to get on the list, and check out our tour page to see where we’ll be popping up next.

  • Question One comes from Erika L. on twitter, and she asks: "How do you create space to truly be alone in a crowded city and a small apartment?"

  • Takeaways: It doesn't mean that there is something wrong if you feel like you want space, and extroverts need time alone too.

  • Question Two comes from Stacey in our FB group, and she asks: "What are some ways that you have learned to reconnect in the midst of busy schedules?"

  • Takeaways: We are anti-date-night, pro snapchat, and always trying to make sure we intentionally protect a special part of our day (or week) together.

  • Spending time together is like grocery shopping… Some people would rather go frequently in shorter trips, and others plan to make a big haul because they know it will last them for weeks at a time.

  • Question Three comes from Courtney M. in our FB group, and she asks: "How do you handle time apart when one person of the pair travels a lot?"

  • Takeaways: We're not very good at leaving each other on trips (see Episode 8), so we try make sure that re-entry is handled with care. Also, we use an app called Voxer to keep in touch while we're apart -- Total life-saver if you don't like to talk on the phone.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What are some things that make your cushion feel fluffed?
  • Describe your ideal version of daily alone time: Time of day, location, etc. Include as many details as possible!
  • Date Nights... Helpful practice or way too much pressure?

Rule 013 | Airplanes Are Not The Place To Point Out Gray Hairs

Gerard freaks out about his new pair of glasses, and finds deeper meaning in the panic behind a couple of gray hairs. Jessie remembers that forgiveness is a gift everyone deserves, but wishes that hurt feelings were easier to brush under the rug.

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard gets glasses, promptly panics and considers plucking his gray hairs. Jessie swoons, even still.

  • We all get older, but it’s time to dive into why “losing our youth” seems to shake G to the core.

  • Spoiler alert: Tears ahead. It’s not unusual for us to cry on planes, but this is nothing like the travel challenges we talked about earlier this Summer.

  • Jessie is ignoring her wrinkles by throwing on a kimono and “pretending” to be a crazy plant lady. (Might only be a few leaves short.)

  • The topic of mortality makes a cameo, but Gerard hangs on to his youth by claiming to be a kid at heart.

  • To Mr. or NOT to Mr?

  • One foolproof way to make you feel less old: Always make sure you’re the youngest friend.

  • Jessie justifies her indulgent self-care habits by claiming preventative measures.

  • Gray eye-brows got you down? Please pass the tweezers.

  • You know that adorable older couple that walks down the street holding hands? We secretly want to be them. (As long as he has good hygiene and she’s wearing cute shoes.)

  • It hurts when forgiveness from friends is hard to come by.

  • Jessie disappointed a girlfriend recently (#oops), and struggles through the experience of having her apology refused.

  • Forgiveness has the power to make a profound impact in any relationship. We try to remember that it is like a precious gift we are called to share generously with others.

  • Gerard lays down some convictions and Jessie realizes she needs to face the facts.

  • Saying “OK” vs. “I forgive you” when someone apologizes is NOT the same thing.

  • Two-part apologies were mandatory for Jessie growing up in the Artigue household, and the heartfelt process has carried over into her now adult life.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What do you love most about getting older? (Bonus points if your answer involves wearing black socks with sandals.)

  • Do you have someone that you go to when you need to talk through a sticky situation with friends? How do you keep from crossing the line from healthy venting to gossipy territory?

  • Have you ever had to forgive someone for a hurt that never got acknowledged?

 

Rule 010 | Getting Across The Country Takes Longer Than You Might Think

Today, we're celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary, and bringing you an exciting episode that is filled with big news...

We’re going on tour! We’re moving to LA! We are coming to give you bear hugs in person!

Listen to this week’s show to find out about connecting with us in your hometown, and hear the most notable (and often outlandish) things we’ve learned about marriage over the last eight years.

Sign up at bit.ly/MIFlist so we can send you a rundown of all the details for our trip, and we truly cannot WAIT to meet you in September.

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard gets our intro confused with karaoke hour at the neighborhood dive bar.
     
  • Cross-country tour? Don’t mind if we do! 125.4 hours of driving. That is not a typo.
     
  • We're hoping to pop up at a dinner party near you, and Jessie WILL make you dinner in exchange for a bear hug.
     
  • Excited to record the highlights from our trip on our new HTC Re camera, and if you've been enjoying the little videos in the FB group, just let us know and we’ll keep ‘em coming.
     
  • Meeting new friends, and finding good coffee on the road. The pros and cons of taking a month to drive nearly 4,000 miles.
     
  • Jessie shares a convincing list of the Eight Reasons You Should Come See Us On Tour.
     
  • Gerard’s shares that his fantasy dreams involve Louis CK. Yikes.
     
  • We want to hook up her single pals at upcoming MIF events! New matchmaking career in the works?
     
  • Sadie Mae Pepper is obviously coming with us! Can we bribe you to come see us by offering free puppy snuggles?
     
  • Sign-up for our newsletter to keep up with the entire rundown of tour details!
     
  • We plan out the celebrations for our 8th Anniversary on the air... This is new for us. We BOTH forgot about our 1st anniversary and ended up marking the occasion with a lame selfie and a buffet dinner. PROOF:
"Look Mom, no wrinkles!"

"Look Mom, no wrinkles!"

  • The Eight Things That We’ve Learned in Each Year of Marriage: Hang light-fixtures with caution. Everyone grieves differently. Friends move away. Finding a fulfilling career is important. Camping on the living room floor is fun. Scented candles suck. Workcations are the best. Great love is way better then perfect love.
     
  • We have decided that year nine is going to be our best yet, and we're REALLY excited to have you along for the ride.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What would your ideal Marriage is Funny event look like? Send us a note if you'd like to help by hosting us in your town!
     
  • Who are the people in your current city that help make it feel like a golden time?
     
  • Ask your partner to share a big thing they've been dreaming about, and then help them answer the question: What's the worst that could happen?
     

Thank you SO much for all of the generous feedback you've left us on iTunes...

We are almost at the end of Apple's launch period for new shows, and the more love we get over there, the higher we show up in the overall feed! 

You guys have been blowing us away with your kind emails and heartfelt questions, and we're hoping to have a special second episode for you a little later this week!

Rule 008 | Nothing Really Rhymes With Husband

The Peppers finally get a chance to take this show on the road! Episode 8 was recorded live in front of a studio audience, so thanks for hanging in there on some less-than-stellar audio quality. Listen in as we feature our best method to get your spouse to do what you want without nagging (no joke), and hear us ask some dear married friends what it looks like to explore the world while surviving the stresses of summer travel.

QUICK BITES:

  • A week in Kansas City, MO with friends brought us back to where our marriage began. Hear the full story in Episode 1.

  • Special friends join the show! Mimi & Tim KeelTricia & Jeremy CollinsAlan & Shanna Keller. How did we get so lucky?!

  • We’d love to have you check out the work of the brilliant minds above, and are sending special thanks to everyone who came to our very first LIVE recording!

  • Let’s face it: Nagging is hardly ever cute. We’ve come up with a framework to navigate the balance between effectiveness and gentleness when (repeatedly) requesting a favor from your spouse.

  • Jessie spent the last several years trying to avoid the “nagging-wife” stereotype, and it unfortunately turned her into a Passive Aggressor. (This is real life, and NOT a reference to one of the scary specimens on Jurassic World.)

  • Packing is overwhelming! Sharing the load of an endless to-do list makes it easier.

  • Asking for you what you actually need is far more effective than a temper-tantrum. (Imagine that! Mom was right.) You may remember when Jessie put this concept to work in Episode 7... Tears and bikini-talk ensued.

  • Gerard bottles up his feelings and nearly makes Jessie barf by barreling around the bends of a wind-y road.
     
  • Tim Keel - "There is a difference between a vacation and a trip. A vacation is when I let myself relax and do nothing, and it's replenishing. I feel more like myself when it's over. A trip is when we go DO something, and it might be fun, but I don't always feel refreshed. I often feel like it costs something."
     
  • Jeremy Collins - "The farther you get away from home, the more you open up. When you know it's an 8 minute trip, you talk about 8 minute stuff. When it's an 8 hour drive, you talk about 8 hour stuff. And 8 hour stuff is 8 year stuff, because the farther we get into the trip the more the conversation is real and true, and instead of 'What do you want to do for dinner?' it's 'What do you want to do with your life?'... The farther away you get from your reality and your life - that's when the conversation gets really interesting and memorable."
     
  • Happy wife, happy life... It was bound to come up sooner or later.
     
  • Jessie loves personality tests. Next up on her to-do list? Discover appropriate Enneagram number and call Shanna immediately with results. 
     
  • Shanna Keller - "I spend a lot of my emotional bandwidth (whether I'm asked to or not) thinking about how to take care of us as a joint unit. When he asks me to all of a sudden change our plan, I think 'I don't know how to take care of us inside that new idea,' but when he can tell me, 'Actually, I've already thought of some of those things, so you can reserve some of emotional bandwidth for saying yes,' then that's when I've found that I can say yes more easily." 
     
  • The Marriage is Funny Getaway 2016 is born. ;)
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, do you typically prefer emotional support or tangible action?

  • Describe your ULTIMATE ideal trip together! Are you more of a laid-back vacationer or a adventure-seeking explorer?
     
  • Is it ok to spend time apart when you travel as a duo? What seems like a good balance between branching out on your own, and being attached at the hip?
     

You guys have been incredibly generous with your support so far, and we are seriously blushing to see Marriage is Funny top the charts on iTunes! 

Keep leaving those ratings and reviews right over here, and be sure to send us your burning questions so that we can answer them in an upcoming Q+A episode!