Personality Types

Rule 074 | Venting Is The Best Way To Let Out Hot Air

The Peppers discuss the distinct value of having a group of friends who can love you despite the occasional need for an honest debrief. Gerard asserts that drinking scotch with dudes makes a great backdrop for discussing scripture* while Jessie agrees that having close friendships are a key element to the pursuit of Great Love. Their conversation proves that gender stereotypes do not matter when it comes to communication and despite some overanalyzing, the two learn a ton from completing the full-loop together.

*No confidentiality codes were harmed in the making of this episode.

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QUICK BITES:

  • Jessie + Gerard have very different approaches when it comes to walking into a party. Take the Strengthsfinder test to find out if you’re a woo or a relator.

  • Men deal with chronic loneliness more than most people might think. Gerard referenced this piece about masculinity after telling about the men’s retreat that he went on with our church. → “What’s the problem with men in America?”

  • Venting is not an excuse to slap the other person across the face with an insult, it’s about releasing of internal pressure and understanding each other more fully.

  • Take a peek at the full definition of the term triangulation to find out if it could be something that happens in your own marriage.

  • Jessie is a stickler for restaurant service, but she sometimes needs some help when it comes to speaking her mind.

  • Gerard vents his work frustrations when he gets home from work, and Jessie is keen to let him so that they can get it out of the way and get on with their evenings.

  • Using a protective forcefield is key when your partner needs to share but you don’t want your feelings to get hurt. Whether it’s a preface or a footnote: give your partner a head’s up before you launch into a diatribe.

  • Being honest with each other about faith has been something that tends to trip us up when it comes to venting. Waiting until the other person is open to receiving the feedback is the only way we’ve been able to navigate this space, but it’s tempting to blurt things out before your partner is ready to talk.

  • We loved reading The Zim Zum of Love to get a better idea of the connection between us... The idea is this: Marriage is like a magnetic force that deserves to be protected.


TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you consider yourself to be more of a woo or a relator?

  2. If the the wrong meal gets delivered to you at a restaurant, are you more likely to send back your food or just eat it anyway?

  3. How would you describe the difference between venting and complaining?

  4. Who are the people in your life that provide space for accountability and emotional safety?

Rule 022 | Take Care Of Your Assets In Case You Become A Widow

The Peppers talk about being transparent with their finances and the importance of finding a good butt workout. Jessie tries to trade in her Christmas gift for something with way more wheels, and Gerard finally agrees that it's time to start using a budget. 

QUICK BITES:

  • Listen for a quick recap of our Epiphany Party from last weekend, including a rundown of the neighborhood royalty that showed up with a trio of gifts!
     
  • Anyone else daydreaming of warmer weather or a beachy drink of some sort? Okay, how about both. Get excited for the Great Love Getaway, and join us for a vacation in April!
     
  • The best couples are even better when they get to "do life" in community with other great pairs... Our listeners have helped us to feel less alone and that's one of the many reasons why we're excited to hang out with the MIF community in real life.
     
  • Jessie tries to trade in her tiny Christmas gift by asking Gerard to buy her something different. Rude, yes... But he surprisingly (and graciously) understands.
     
  • Our gift-giving track record with one another is admittedly ROUGH... Bumpier than a mountain bike trail, with a dangerously high injury level. (Ok fine. We’ll quit with the puns.)
     
  • Jessie cries about Gerard finally listening to her Christmas list.
     
  • With the wind in her hair and blades on her feet, Jessie promises she would not need Gerard to be her blading buddy.
     
  • Jessie cries again about Gerard gifting her with “the thought that counts.”
     
  • A HUGE financial confession makes us sound like total idiots. (If you’re an accountant or financial planner, you might want to switch to a different show at this point.)
     
  • Our buddies at Being Boss recently interviewed Mr. Jesse Mecham and Ms. Jessie Pepper is intrigued by the YNAB software.
     
  • Gerard relies on his “Perceiver” tendencies to make sure we don’t overspend. Jessie prefers to stash her cash for a rainy day, and says that saving up makes spontaneous splurges feel extra fun.
     
  • Kelly Clarkson was not on Gerard's radar in the early-Oughts, but Jessie auto-tunes some sense back into him. Thank goodness.

This episode was a doozy, but we're pumped to invite you to join us on the Great Love Getaway! SAVE THE DATE for April 7-10 of 2016, and start saving your pennies for the best vacation you’ve taken in a while. ;) 
 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  • Who are some of the married couples that make you and your partner feel better together?
     
  • Which makes you feel more loved by your partner:  When they give you a gift you really want OR shower you with quality time?
     
  • Most relationships have one spouse who carries more responsibility with the finances… Did your person take the role in an unspoken way or was it something that you officially decided on together?

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