Rule 074 | Venting Is The Best Way To Let Out Hot Air
The Peppers discuss the distinct value of having a group of friends who can love you despite the occasional need for an honest debrief. Gerard asserts that drinking scotch with dudes makes a great backdrop for discussing scripture* while Jessie agrees that having close friendships are a key element to the pursuit of Great Love. Their conversation proves that gender stereotypes do not matter when it comes to communication and despite some overanalyzing, the two learn a ton from completing the full-loop together.
*No confidentiality codes were harmed in the making of this episode.
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QUICK BITES:
Jessie + Gerard have very different approaches when it comes to walking into a party. Take the Strengthsfinder test to find out if you’re a woo or a relator.
Men deal with chronic loneliness more than most people might think. Gerard referenced this piece about masculinity after telling about the men’s retreat that he went on with our church. → “What’s the problem with men in America?”
Venting is not an excuse to slap the other person across the face with an insult, it’s about releasing of internal pressure and understanding each other more fully.
Take a peek at the full definition of the term triangulation to find out if it could be something that happens in your own marriage.
Jessie is a stickler for restaurant service, but she sometimes needs some help when it comes to speaking her mind.
Gerard vents his work frustrations when he gets home from work, and Jessie is keen to let him so that they can get it out of the way and get on with their evenings.
Using a protective forcefield is key when your partner needs to share but you don’t want your feelings to get hurt. Whether it’s a preface or a footnote: give your partner a head’s up before you launch into a diatribe.
Being honest with each other about faith has been something that tends to trip us up when it comes to venting. Waiting until the other person is open to receiving the feedback is the only way we’ve been able to navigate this space, but it’s tempting to blurt things out before your partner is ready to talk.
We loved reading The Zim Zum of Love to get a better idea of the connection between us... The idea is this: Marriage is like a magnetic force that deserves to be protected.
TRIGGER QUESTIONS:
Do you consider yourself to be more of a woo or a relator?
If the the wrong meal gets delivered to you at a restaurant, are you more likely to send back your food or just eat it anyway?
How would you describe the difference between venting and complaining?
Who are the people in your life that provide space for accountability and emotional safety?