Connection

Rule 025 | Valentine's Day Doesn't Owe You Anything

The Peppers have a unique approach to Valentine's Day that can sometimes feel like a bit of a drag. Find out how we stay connected during a lapse of romance, and listen as we stumble towards a system for divvying up the household chores.

QUICK BITES:

  • Puerto Vallarta here we come! Start packing your flip flops and get all of the Great Love Getaway details right here. Stay tuned for registration to open on February 14th!
     
  • Each couple that comes with us gets a comp Creative Marriages shoot with our friends Michelle + Kelly -- Come hang out with us and get bear hugged at their launch event on Valentine's Day in Orange County.
     
  • Gerard kicks things off with a very directed question, and Jessie tries to skirt around the answer by picking on his semantics.
     
  • Jessie wants Valentine’s Day to be about celebrating love, not comparing each other to societal norms... No fancy restaurants. No jewelry. (Gerard is elated at the fact that this has now been recorded on tape.)
     
  • Gerard understands there is always room for creativity and growth, and wants to be able to give Jessie something to look forward to. He also wants a backrub, but his fingers will be crossed until then.
     
  • The Peppers realize that the whole point of Valentine’s Day is to feel more connected to the ones that you love... There are endless opportunities to shower your partner with romance, but it doesn't have to stop at special occasions.
     
  • Jessie throws in the towel on dish duty. (After a mere 4 DAYS of giving it her all.) She’s confused about the chores around the house because of Gerard’s change of schedule... except for vacuuming. She’s very clear on who vacuums.
     
  • Gerard engineered a tin can tower that has spurred on some feelings of passive aggressiveness.
     
  • At the root of it, we both prefer deep connections over a dozen roses. (But let’s be honest, Jessie would NEVER turn down her favorite chocolate bar.)

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • When was the last time you felt romanced by your partner?
     
  • What is your least favorite chore of allllll time? 
     
  • Would you rather celebrate Valentine's Day with a really good back rub or the darkest chocolate that money can buy?

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Rule 014 | Connection Is Easier When You Have A Good Cushion

Another mid-week quickie that features three listener questions: How-to, when-to, and why-to connect with your partner.

In this episode, we also announce the first six cities of our Marriage is Funny On the Road tour, and talk about how having a good cushion is important when setting out on any adventure.  

QUICK BITES:

  • We are finally ready to tell you some details about our cross-country trip! Sign up here to get on the list, and check out our tour page to see where we’ll be popping up next.

  • Question One comes from Erika L. on twitter, and she asks: "How do you create space to truly be alone in a crowded city and a small apartment?"

  • Takeaways: It doesn't mean that there is something wrong if you feel like you want space, and extroverts need time alone too.

  • Question Two comes from Stacey in our FB group, and she asks: "What are some ways that you have learned to reconnect in the midst of busy schedules?"

  • Takeaways: We are anti-date-night, pro snapchat, and always trying to make sure we intentionally protect a special part of our day (or week) together.

  • Spending time together is like grocery shopping… Some people would rather go frequently in shorter trips, and others plan to make a big haul because they know it will last them for weeks at a time.

  • Question Three comes from Courtney M. in our FB group, and she asks: "How do you handle time apart when one person of the pair travels a lot?"

  • Takeaways: We're not very good at leaving each other on trips (see Episode 8), so we try make sure that re-entry is handled with care. Also, we use an app called Voxer to keep in touch while we're apart -- Total life-saver if you don't like to talk on the phone.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What are some things that make your cushion feel fluffed?
  • Describe your ideal version of daily alone time: Time of day, location, etc. Include as many details as possible!
  • Date Nights... Helpful practice or way too much pressure?