Schedules

Rule 039 | When In Doubt, Just Ask A Sexpert (Part I)

This week, Jessie and Gerard are chatting with Sex & Relationships Expert, Kate McCombs. They excitedly pepper her with a handful of questions submitted by the Great Love Gang, but you'll also hear a tiny bit about their own intimacy adventures as well. (If you enjoy this conversation, be sure to subscribe to Marriage is Funny on your favorite podcast player, and listen in for Part II that will go live on Friday!)

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QUICK BITES:

  • You guys blew us away with your 70+ responses to our sex survey! Missed the chance to weigh in? Feel free to share your thoughts right here and we’ll do it again if there’s enough interest.
     
  • The Peppers are currently sleeping in separate beds, and Kate confirms that there’s nothing wrong with a good night’s rest.
     
  • Q1: How can a couple make time for sex when they both want it, but one (or both) partners feel tired or blah?
     
  • Kate (figuratively) drops the mic with a helpful tip about reframing the way you set up a sex date.
     
  • Gerard blurts out his own secret idea for how he setting the scene in order to get busy.
     
  • Q2: How can someone overcome the challenge of painful sex?
     
  • The best lube is made from Good Clean Love. (And that's probably the only thing about us that you’ve never wanted to know.)
     
  • Finding the right Dr. or physical therapist should be the first step towards treating painful sex… Check the National Vulvodynia Association to find a practitioner near you.
     
  • Q3: I like making love, but can rarely get myself to make the first move. How am I supposed to initiate sex when I never feel horny?
     
  • The book Come As You Are by Emily Nagaski is next up on The Peppers “to read” list.
     
  • Q4: I’m anxious about having sex, and we hardly do it anymore. How can I get back to actually craving physical intimacy with my husband (as much as I used to)?
     
  • Q5: How does hormonal birth control have an impact on a women’s libido?
     
  • Q6: What are some ways to try and reverse a low libido?
     
  • Q7: Is there any way to intensify a man’s orgasm?
     
  • Q8: How can my partner and I climax at the same time?
     
  • Kate confirms that eight out of every 10 women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm.
     
  • Jessie and Gerard read YOUR sex-related wish-list in a rapid fire succession.
     
  • In many cases, having a conversation about what you want out of sex can actually feel more intimate than actually having sex.
     
  • Q9: What are some ways we bring up sex with our partner without making things awkward.
     
  • Start small and share things that give you some context for your chats! Kate's website is a great resource and we love her rundown of how to add more empathy to your everyday. 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Name one thing that tends to "press down on the brakes" of your sexual desire.
  2. What is your favorite (most optimal) time of the day to have sex?
  3. Describe your experience of sex-education (either at home or school) from when you were young.

We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then. 

Rule 037 | Avoid Conflict By Color Coding Your Calendars

Gerard is stressed about his always-crammed calendar, but still wants to find the time for sailing lessons this summer. Jessie learns that there are many effective systems for keeping a tight schedule, and decides to accept the reality of having an optimistic husband.

Hard to believe we're nearing the end of another season, but that means we're now accepting sponsors for our next round of the show!

Contact us directly for more info, and be sure to save the date for our finale party on May 29th.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Follow along with our Las Vegas antics on snapchat by finding Jessie at the username styleandpepper.

  • Submit your sex-questions now! Send them in through the contact form on our page, OR leave an anonymous comment on the show notes page for this episode at meetthepeppers.com.

  • Gerard’s schedule is snowballing and he feels stressed by too much “stuff” on the agenda... The Peppers decide to create a system for staying on the same page with their calendars.

  • Optimism vs. realism when it comes to time management -- Which one wins?

  • The big reveal of Brea Olinda’s Mr. + Mrs. Most Optimistic!

  • Jessie makes a case for building their schedules based on order of priority, while Gerard claims that the podcast feels a little like an albatross hanging around his neck.

  • The Peppers play a game of roulette with obscure references.

  • Jessie is skeptical about taking sailing lessons this summer… She doesn’t want to squelch a dream, but the cost, timing and lack of dock-space seem like pretty big challenges.

  • Gerard wants to become Master Sailors together as their next shared project. Jessie is on-board as long as she gets to dress up like Gilligan's Mary Ann in order to play the part.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Ask your partner what is currently stressing them out...
     
  2. When was the last time you got so nervous that it made your pits sweat?
     
  3. What are the big rocks, gravel, and grains of sand in your bucket?

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Rule 031 | Strangers Are Just Friends That You Haven't Met Yet

It’s been a while... but this week The Peppers are sharing a "quickie" listener-Q+A episode, and it's all about how they navigate friendships as a married couple. Tune in to hear them chat about prioritizing time for their favorite pals, and how to avoid an acquaintance that sometimes makes you feel like less than yourself.

Don't Forget: We are headed on vacation together in April and we want YOU to come with us! Some of our fabulous listeners are joining us in Puerto Vallarta next month, and we can already tell that it is going to be EPIC... There is room for just one more couple, so snag your spot before registration closes on March 20th.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Take a listen to Episode 18 to hear us share our play-by-play for making friends with strangers.
     
  • There is tons of fun going on with the Great Love Gang in the facebook group... Come hang out over there!
     
  • We had a blast with The Dluxes last weekend, and it made us SO excited to have them treat our Getaway couples to a complimentary Creative Marriages session in Mexico next month.
     
  • Q1: Do you guys ever have trouble divvying up time between his and her friends? Also, do you feel like you get enough guy-time/girl-time, or do you ever feel guilty needing that?
     
  • Q2: How do you balance time with just the two of us and with other people?
     
  • Q3: How do you deal with your spouse’s friends? Friends from past, new friends, friends you tolerate, friends you love most?
     
  • As promised, here's a link to Jessie’s Pepper Letter about flower + wreaths + faraway friends.
     
  • Anyone up for an in-real-life dinner party? We’re doing some serious daydreaming about this, and will keep you posted as the prepping continues.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. When is the next chance that you and your partner could invite another couple for a double date? 
     
  2. Which of your own friends would your partner choose as their favorite?
     
  3. Have you ever wished you could ask your spouse to stop hanging out with a certain friend?

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Rule 023 | There Is No Such Thing As A Free Date

The Peppers learn that leaving your wallet at home when you go to the flea market is a lot like working an 80-hour week... Either way, your wife's definitely going to find a way to b*tch about it.

QUICK BITES:

  • An update on our budget-building drama... Three words: store brand pickles.
     
  • The FB group exploded with suggestions and ideas for managing personal finances! Hop over there to learn and share your own.
     
  • Financial Goals for The Peppers: Building up our emergency fund, buy Jessie a pair of rollerblades (because G already got his new belt), and start saving up for The Great Love Getaway.
     
  • Join in the conversation by tweeting at us while you listen!
     
  • Jessie made a special present to commemorate a random anniversary... Get your reminder of Great Love over at meetthepeppers.com.
     
  • Gerard wants to go to the Flea Market, and Jessie shoots him down because she has no self control. (Get caught up by listening in on our budget discussion in Episode 22.) 
     
  • Jessie is on the hunt for the perfect new coffee table, an antique watch, and a handful of other things… ADD ‘EM TO THE WISHLIST.
     
  • Coffee-shopping might soon become the most romantic moment of our week.
     
  • Jessie checks in with Gerard about his busy week, and is surprised to find herself feeling a little bit stung.
     
  • Gerard is learning to balance client work and self-care. It's much harder to get used to than he thought it would be.
     
  • We changed our lives after reading The 4-Hour Work Week a few years ago, but based on the current situation -- It might be time for a little refresher.
     
  • Jessie's admits to how her recent business changes have made her crave the career momentum she's used to.
     
  • The Peppers are reminded of the main reason they call the West Coast "The Best Coast" and Gerard gets angry (and curses!) for the very first time on the show.

We're pumped to invite you to join us on the Great Love Getaway! SAVE THE DATE for April 7-10 of 2016, and get excited by grabbing one of our new goodies right here.  
 

TRIGGER QUESTOINS:

  • Re-tell the story of your first kiss and share us with it here!
     
  • What would your DREAM DATE be if money were no object? 
     
  • Do you or your partner ever feel burned-out in your jobs? How does the other person react when that happens?

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Rule 014 | Connection Is Easier When You Have A Good Cushion

Another mid-week quickie that features three listener questions: How-to, when-to, and why-to connect with your partner.

In this episode, we also announce the first six cities of our Marriage is Funny On the Road tour, and talk about how having a good cushion is important when setting out on any adventure.  

QUICK BITES:

  • We are finally ready to tell you some details about our cross-country trip! Sign up here to get on the list, and check out our tour page to see where we’ll be popping up next.

  • Question One comes from Erika L. on twitter, and she asks: "How do you create space to truly be alone in a crowded city and a small apartment?"

  • Takeaways: It doesn't mean that there is something wrong if you feel like you want space, and extroverts need time alone too.

  • Question Two comes from Stacey in our FB group, and she asks: "What are some ways that you have learned to reconnect in the midst of busy schedules?"

  • Takeaways: We are anti-date-night, pro snapchat, and always trying to make sure we intentionally protect a special part of our day (or week) together.

  • Spending time together is like grocery shopping… Some people would rather go frequently in shorter trips, and others plan to make a big haul because they know it will last them for weeks at a time.

  • Question Three comes from Courtney M. in our FB group, and she asks: "How do you handle time apart when one person of the pair travels a lot?"

  • Takeaways: We're not very good at leaving each other on trips (see Episode 8), so we try make sure that re-entry is handled with care. Also, we use an app called Voxer to keep in touch while we're apart -- Total life-saver if you don't like to talk on the phone.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What are some things that make your cushion feel fluffed?
  • Describe your ideal version of daily alone time: Time of day, location, etc. Include as many details as possible!
  • Date Nights... Helpful practice or way too much pressure?