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Rule 060 | Don't Get Your Bikini Waxed The Day Before A Beach Trip

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The big finale of our special Summer Travel Series! Jessie + Gerard dive deep into their hardshell rollerbags to bring you the absolute best of their biggest travel tips. This episode is all about efficiency while adventuring, and please consider it a personal survival guide packed with resources just for you!

Thank you so much for tuning in this Summer... We would LOVE to have your support for our upcoming episodes and you can find out how to get involved with the show right over here

In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...

The Official "Marriage is Funny" Travel Manual

 


Jessie's 6 Points to Smart Packing:

  1. Capsule wardrobes are key. The Peppers discuss this discovery in Episode 59 and it proves the love that both partners have for form, function, and ultimate efficiency.

  2. Choose a color scheme. Let the season and the destination determine your selection, and don’t forget that complimentary colors make it much easier to mix and match all of your pieces.

  3. Multifunctional clothing is key. Jessie loves pieces like this drapey cardigan, and of course the Pepper Dress was literally MADE for feeling stylish on your next big trip.

  4. Choose a uniform. Figure out what you love to wear most at certain points of transit and then OWN IT instead of trying to get creative each time. Jessie says that a great pair of compression leggings makes for the perfect base layer, and Gerard swears by his fancy leather backpack to keep his personal belongings in tow.

  5. Keep your neutrals in check. Most accessories are either leather (or leather-like) and differing shades can cause a bit of clashing depending what else you bring to wear. Optimize the options by selecting one color (or two that are complimentary) and Jessie personally loves sticking with black and/or camel... with the occasional pop of red.

  6. Leave the heavy stuff behind. Shoes and handbags should be as light as possible (especially when empty), but it also makes sense to leave out bulky bras, hats, and other cumbersome pieces that you can live without.

 

  • Grab Gerard’s style faves here:  red chinos, barracuda jacket, and a suede bomber.

  • Jessie’s favorite boutique is Moss Designer Consignment in Austin, Texas, and here is what she wore on the day she bought the world's heaviest bag.

  • Gerard explains that planning ahead in the food department is key to keeping Jessie healthy when they’re away from home. Things like grapefruit/oranges, sugar snap peas, protein bars and mixed nuts will keep you full and happy.

  • The Peppers reminisce about the time when Jessie almost got detained at customs because of a lesser-known Jamaican export.

  • Jessie uses this ginger tea to keep away the tummy problems and Gerard prefers the stronger method of immodium ad.

  • Listen in for the secret to getting a mini-fridge delivered to your hotel room so that you can hit up a local grocery store or keep your fancy leftovers cold.

  • Gerard can’t live without these fancy licorice bites. Or Mountain Dew Code Red. Or Smuckers Uncrustables.

  • Jessie realizes that Gerard accommodates her food needs so that he can LATER gripe about the make-up and skincare obsession that we’ve talked about on past episodes.


TOILETRY TIPS:


PACKET PRODUCTS YOU CAN’T PASS UP:

Nail polish remover pads
Murad Resurfacing Peel
Starbucks "Via" instant coffee
Leaner Creamer
Collagen powder
Hand + Face Wipes
Acure Coconut + Argan Oil wipes
Whiskey
Mac + Cheese
 

  • We’ve talked about travel rewards points on the show before but Gerard uses this opportunity to dive even deeper into his favorite topic. No word yet on whether he can redeem the frozen yogurt frequent-shopper cards that Jessie has collected from across the country.

  • The Peppers prefer Southwest Airlines when it comes to a credit card with great earning options. The Chase credit card has extremely versatile points that can be redeemed for almost anything, and we use our American Express to get 6% cash back on our purchases. JetBlue offers family accounts in case you'd like to accrue points as a crew, but regardless of where you start: please SPEND RESPONSIBLY and don’t email us with complaints about your debt bill. (But DO message us here with any questions/additional advice.)

  • The Points Guy is Gerard’s go-to resource for learning, but the best place to start is with a simple sign up. We love SPG, Marriott + Kimpton for hotel stays, and most of these have transferrable or gifting options.

  • Download your binge-able content from Netflix or Amazon Prime instead of staring at the in-flight magazine for the umpteenth time.

  • Get a kindle or e-reader and then download the Overdrive app for FREE e-books (as long as you have a valid library card)! Using your prime membership will also give access to tons of free books + magazines that can come straight to your device!

  • Figuring out your international data plan ahead of time is the right idea, but if you want to conserve data while you’re abroad: be sure to download the Google Translate app before you go! Duolingo is also a fun way to learn the basics in many languages. (Added Bonus: Their app doubles as an iPhone game and we talk about this more in depth on Episode 18.)

  • Sleeping on airplanes suck no matter what, but Jessie is going to test out the Trtl Pillow to see if it makes a difference in getting her beauty sleep while on-the-go. It's part scarf / part neckbrace and will hopefully lull Jessie into a reasonable about of rest.

  • Magnesium supplements act as natural relaxants for tired/tense muscles and you can use the powdered or pill form depending on whatever is most convenient. Gerard swears by melatonin for this same purpose, but it makes some people groggy so you may need to test it out first. 

  • And finally: Some say that you can speed up the jet-lag recovery process by grounding yourself in the grass with bare feet. Gerard plans to try it on our trip to Europe/Africa this fall, and Jessie is happy to have some validation of her inner hippie-girl. 
     

Three Things We’ve Learned From Our Biggest Travel Mistakes:

  1. Always Pack Underwear In Your Carry-on Bag

  2. Never Leave Home Without Anti-Nausea Medication

  3. Don’t Get Your Bikini Waxed On The Day Before A Beach Trip

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you have a typical travel uniform that you rely on while flying or driving long distances?
     
  2. What is your road trip junk food of choice?
     
  3. If you could have tiny, individually wrapped packets of any product, what would it be?


We will miss you guys so much while we're on our next break! ❤️ Come hang out with us online by following along with our insta-stories, and join the private FB group to connect with the rest of our Great Love Gang!

Rule 055 | Superheroes Never Have More Than One Sidekick

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Jessie + Gerard return from a long podcasting break, and this show is a recap of what the last several months have been like for The Peppers. Tune in as we kick-off the upcoming special travel series, and don't forget to share your Summer moments by using #marriageisfunnyontheroad on your favorite social media platforms! 

We REALLY missed the Great Love Gang... Thank you so much for your enthusiastic support, and you can find out how to join our Dollar Drive for Season Five right over here


In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...


QUICK BITES:

  • The Highs + Lows game can be traumatizing to anyone who experienced it as a tween, so The Peppers play their own version and want YOUR help in giving it a new name. (Thanks to inspiration from the hosts of The Popcast Podcast and That’s So Retrograde!)

  • Jessie launched a new business while we were away! Check out her ethically-made multi-functional dress design called Season, and watch the short film to get the full story behind the brand.

  • Gerard just finished a two-month stint of commuting back and forth to the East Coast each week, and we agree that it was one of the hardest periods of our entire 10 years of marriage. Jessie accuses him of flirting with the flight attendants to get better seat upgrades, and he interestingly does not deny this point. 

  • The chance to travel around and speak on stage together is always such a highlight! February took us back to Kansas City for a big event, and we’re excited to add new dates to our calendar for appearances during the rest of 2017.

  • Gerard starts wearing a helmet while riding his bike to work, and Jessie calms down because they finally figured out how to get their armoire through the bedroom window.

  • Jessie gets excited about Gerard performing with a legit (local) rock and roll band, and we love it when our listeners come to the gigs!

  • The Peppers give you the dish on the neighborhood black sheep: Unit #3. Jessie’s warmth drives away the unfriendly tenants and then she accidentally enables the ones who do drugs right outside their bedroom window.

  • Sleeping arrangements have shifted yet again... After splitting up for their snooze-time (hear more about that in Ep 36), Jessie has snuck back into the master bedroom by disguising herself as a sea creature.  

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What has your partner done in the last 6 months that made you very proud
  2. Have you stopped nagging your spouse about anything lately? Is there anything you WISH you could stop nagging them about?
  3. Who is your favorite neighbor and why do you love them so much?

Rule 039 | When In Doubt, Just Ask A Sexpert (Part I)

This week, Jessie and Gerard are chatting with Sex & Relationships Expert, Kate McCombs. They excitedly pepper her with a handful of questions submitted by the Great Love Gang, but you'll also hear a tiny bit about their own intimacy adventures as well. (If you enjoy this conversation, be sure to subscribe to Marriage is Funny on your favorite podcast player, and listen in for Part II that will go live on Friday!)

Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!

QUICK BITES:

  • You guys blew us away with your 70+ responses to our sex survey! Missed the chance to weigh in? Feel free to share your thoughts right here and we’ll do it again if there’s enough interest.
     
  • The Peppers are currently sleeping in separate beds, and Kate confirms that there’s nothing wrong with a good night’s rest.
     
  • Q1: How can a couple make time for sex when they both want it, but one (or both) partners feel tired or blah?
     
  • Kate (figuratively) drops the mic with a helpful tip about reframing the way you set up a sex date.
     
  • Gerard blurts out his own secret idea for how he setting the scene in order to get busy.
     
  • Q2: How can someone overcome the challenge of painful sex?
     
  • The best lube is made from Good Clean Love. (And that's probably the only thing about us that you’ve never wanted to know.)
     
  • Finding the right Dr. or physical therapist should be the first step towards treating painful sex… Check the National Vulvodynia Association to find a practitioner near you.
     
  • Q3: I like making love, but can rarely get myself to make the first move. How am I supposed to initiate sex when I never feel horny?
     
  • The book Come As You Are by Emily Nagaski is next up on The Peppers “to read” list.
     
  • Q4: I’m anxious about having sex, and we hardly do it anymore. How can I get back to actually craving physical intimacy with my husband (as much as I used to)?
     
  • Q5: How does hormonal birth control have an impact on a women’s libido?
     
  • Q6: What are some ways to try and reverse a low libido?
     
  • Q7: Is there any way to intensify a man’s orgasm?
     
  • Q8: How can my partner and I climax at the same time?
     
  • Kate confirms that eight out of every 10 women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm.
     
  • Jessie and Gerard read YOUR sex-related wish-list in a rapid fire succession.
     
  • In many cases, having a conversation about what you want out of sex can actually feel more intimate than actually having sex.
     
  • Q9: What are some ways we bring up sex with our partner without making things awkward.
     
  • Start small and share things that give you some context for your chats! Kate's website is a great resource and we love her rundown of how to add more empathy to your everyday. 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Name one thing that tends to "press down on the brakes" of your sexual desire.
  2. What is your favorite (most optimal) time of the day to have sex?
  3. Describe your experience of sex-education (either at home or school) from when you were young.

We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then. 

Rule 036 | The Lifespan Of A Mattress Is Only Eight Years

Jessie wants to experiment with sleeping in other beds, but Gerard cares more about earning reward points while doing it. The Peppers commit to filling their year with travel, and they both decide to be more intentional about tucking each other in at night.

Hard to believe we're nearing the end of another season, but that means we're now accepting sponsors for Season Three of the show!

Contact us directly for more info, and be sure to save the date for our finale party on May 29th.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Sharing so many of our favorite things this week, but no money has exchanged hands in the making of this episode.
     
  • Listen to Episodes 23 + 27 to catch up on Gerard’s crazy work schedule and frequent travel situation.
     
  • Jessie admits that there are many benefits to having the whole house to herself.
     
  • We’re still on a mission to get Lester Holt and his wife Carol on an episode of Marriage is Funny... Send him a tweet and let's swarm him with some social media love!
     
  • Jessie’s mornings begin with her fancy french press and a simpler version of this Rocket Fuel Latte.
     
  • Check out The Points Guy and find out how to earn a Southwest Companion Pass for free.
     
  • No cross-county tour for us this summer, but we ARE excited to pop around to a few of our favorite US cities! We want to hang out with you, so let us know if you'd like to host a little shindig.
     
  • Gerard packs his "whole shebang" in his killer travel set from Vessel.
     
  • No one is surprised that Jessie’s meticulous systems apply to her travel snacks as much as her regular eating schedule.
     
  • Tree-huggers will love the Make A Green Choice plan from all Starwood Hotels.
     
  • The conversation about separate beds is sure to ruffle a lot of feathers, but one thing we know for sure is that flipping over in a squishy bed is very inefficient.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. If you could fly with your partner to any place in the world for free, where would it be?
     
  2. Do you know any other couples who sleep in separate beds? Have you ever considered it?
     
  3. How do you usually pass the time on an airplane?

Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!

Rule 030 | Gulping Your Drink Will Get You In Trouble Every Time

Jessie + Gerard are officially inviting YOU to come on vacation with us in April! We’re taking some listeners to Puerto Vallarta next month, and we can already tell that it is going to be EPIC.

The Peppers break their own rule from Episode 004 by deciding to air their dirty laundry secrets. When it comes to fighting stains, Gerard is a sneaky son of a bleach, and Jessie turns a little crazy when she hears tiny sounds. The misophonia struggle is real at Casa de Pepper, and this couple learns that desperate times call for desperate drinking measures.

QUICK BITES:

  • Thank you so much for sharing this show with your friends! We’re hovering amidst the iTunes recommended section for our category, and it’s all because of you.
     
  • Vacation with us in Mexico next month! We have room for two more couples on the Great Love Getaway… Grab your sweetie and come hang out with us in the sun.
     
  • Gerard breaks the rule from Episode 004 and decides to revive the secret deleted content.
     
  • Jessie is a wuss and refuses to use bleach on her clothes.
     
  • You didn’t want the free steak knives from Episode 011 so we didn’t bother asking if you wanted a free microwave too.
     
  • Did you know there are over 300 different colors of white paint? Pretty sure we’ve sampled them all at our local Home Depot.
     
  • Gerard happens to be brilliant at stain removal, but Jessie finally uncovers his ulterior motives (while he figures out a way to expose her torso).
     
  • Jessie is plagued by the hatred of sound -- Otherwise known as Misophonia.
     
  • The Peppers discuss how this sensitivity plays out in their day to day, but are encouraged by the disorder's exposure in a documentary called Quiet Please (and this conversation between the creator and our friend Jessica Mernane).
     
  • Let's all just be thankful that Sadie's puppy-snores do not affect her parents.
     
  • Jessie gives up gum to avoid getting in trouble, and offers to glue Gerard’s feet together to keep him from fidgeting.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Have you or your partner ever ruined a load of the other person's laundry?
     
  2. What is your least favorite sound in the entire world?
     
  3. Which person would be better at picking out the perfect white paint color?

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Rule 021 | You Don't Need An Excuse To Throw A Big Party

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We're back and we missed you guys more than you know! It's finally time for Season Two, and there are a lot of reasons to party so we're diving right in.

Be sure to listen for our very special guests, and we're sending big bear hugs to the dear friends who are helping us celebrate this week:

QUICK BITES:

  • Would you ever have guessed the most requested topic of all time? Jessie spills the beans and then promises to talk about kiddos in the near future.
     
  • Our Great Love Getaway is coming in Spring 2016! Sign up at meetthepeppers.com to be the first to know about dates and details.
     
  • We finally found a place to live and are loving our little bungalow in Long Beach (especially because the owner has turned out to be our fairy landlordmother). Back in Episode #5, we talk about how it never hurts to ask for a price cut, and recently had a big win by following one of our own rules.
     
  • Gerard has started traveling a lot more with his new job, and Jessie is getting used to being home alone with nothing but reality TV and a queen-size bed to keep her company. #heavenonearth
     
  • Our trip to Guatemala with Unbound.org was a huge blessing, but Jessie’s animal-arch-nemesis kept crawling right up and creeping her out.
     
  • Gerard brags on Jessie for finishing her first triathlon, and then calls her out for waiting to learn her road bike until the last minute.
     
  • Sadie gets major surgery and we end up learning what it’s (probably) like to take care of a drunken toddler.
     
  • Gerard admits to getting 7 bottles of fancy liquor in his Christmas stocking. (Thanks, Santa!)
     
  • Hosting big parties make the Peppers happy, so we use Epiphany as an excuse to throw the biggest bash of the year.
     
  • Gerard is obsessed with ambiance and has learned everything he knows from party expert (and comedian) Todd Glass.
     
  • More backstory (and unexpected challenges) from the wacky costume party that we talked about in Episode 20.
     
  • Jessie’s friend Erin created a helpful guide to use as the day-of timeline for a big party
     
  • Gerard shares the traditional meaning behind why we celebrate the ancient holiday of Epiphany. Prepare yourself for a little preaching.
     
  • Our special guests weigh in on the following prompts:
    • What does Great Love look like within your own marriage?
    • What is it about your partner that makes you better together?
    • What makes up the right mix for your own marriage recipe?

 

Trigger Questions:

  • Which is more embarrassing: Accidentally showing up to a dinner party an hour early or an hour late?
     
  • What songs were your favorite additions to the dance jams of 2015?  
     
  • Describe your idea of the perfect "party ambiance"... Do you and your partner have differing views?

 

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Rule 003 | No One Likes to be Woken Up by a Vibrating Floor

This episode is (partially) about sleep, which is ironic because Jessie is up working on this very post at 3:16am, and Gerard is busy getting his beauty rest.  Keeping the summary short, so check out the bites below and we can't wait to hear what you think!

Quick Bites:

  • Differing sleep schedules cause us a bit of dissonance. Gerard is jealous of Jessie’s late mornings, but not so much of her insomnia.

  • Our first few months of marriage made for wake-up habits that have lasted for years. Gerard is the alarm-guy and Jessie is pretty much useless unless he wakes her up with snuggles and sweet-nothings.

  • Our alarm-clock frames of reference from growing up are as different as night and day. We are currently trying to track down Gerard's original 1980s classic white radio (with red lights).

  • The super-cool French neighbors downstairs get woken up with a vibrating surprise. Oops.

  • A challenge is presented: J plans to start waking up earlier so that we can spend time together before we start our days. G prefers to eat his egg sandwich and watch the news in peace, so we’ll keep you posted on how this pans out.

  • Last year we read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and the biggest benefit was learning to be fluent in each others feelings. During the show, we explore what Quality Time means to each of us, and in real-life we often DQ our devices when they get in the way of heartfelt conversations.

  • Shared projects and hobbies can include everything from comedy to cocktails to climbing, but we find that anything where learning meets fun turns out to be the best combo.

Trigger Questions:

  • How old were you when you first had to start waking up on your own?

  • Describe the version of quality time that makes you feel most loved. How can your partner make small steps toward making this happen?

  • If you had to choose one song to be woken up with for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Chat each other up, and then march on over to share your findings with us right here!