Sex

Rule 039.5 | Talking About Sex Makes It Even Better (Part II)

Part II of the sex series on Marriage is Funny! Gerard and Jessie share their thoughts on important things like abstinence, foreplay, and experimenting in the bedroom. The Peppers are joined by expert Kate McCombs, and her wisdom continues to inspire the Great Love Gang to be more intentional toward intimacy. (Be sure to listen to Episode 39 for Part I with Kate!)

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QUICK BITES:

  • Q1: My husband says he isn’t a kissing guy, but I need foreplay in order to have sex. How can I fulfill his needs without making him do something that he doesn’t want to do?

  • Cooking is like sex. Creativity and variety are two ways to be very good at it.

  • AASECT.org is a great resource for finding a sex therapist that you can visit with your partner.

  • Jessie’s adventures in finding a counselor continue to be entertaining. (You may notice that Ep 9 in Season One is starting to sound familiar.)

  • Q2: How can we build up more courage in the bedroom? Is there an easy way to tell my partner I think they are boring in bed?

  • Creating a “sex lab” could be the best way to start experimenting in the bedroom... Check out Kate's article about how to set the mood in your own home.

  • Q3: Is there a right way or a wrong way to suggest the use of toys and tools?

  • Never break the laws of bad sexual etiquette... The pleasure of your partner matters just as much as your own.

  • Gerard and Jessie were sure to park in the back when they drove to the sex shop in Episode 20.

  • Q4: What do I do when my husband wants it and I don’t? Is faking it ok?

  • It’s important to tell our partners exactly when and how they’ve blessed us in order to build up their "cushion" when times are good.

  • Q5: How can I initiate sex when I know my partner doesn’t feel like it?

  • Kate explains the difference between justification vs clarification when it comes to turning down your partner when they’re making a move.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is the most surprising thing that your partner has ever done in bed?
  2. When was the last time you talked to your partner about sex? When was the last time you talked to someone besides your partner about sex?
  3. What was the most intimate moment that you had with your partner this week?

We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then. 

    Rule 039 | When In Doubt, Just Ask A Sexpert (Part I)

    This week, Jessie and Gerard are chatting with Sex & Relationships Expert, Kate McCombs. They excitedly pepper her with a handful of questions submitted by the Great Love Gang, but you'll also hear a tiny bit about their own intimacy adventures as well. (If you enjoy this conversation, be sure to subscribe to Marriage is Funny on your favorite podcast player, and listen in for Part II that will go live on Friday!)

    Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!

    QUICK BITES:

    • You guys blew us away with your 70+ responses to our sex survey! Missed the chance to weigh in? Feel free to share your thoughts right here and we’ll do it again if there’s enough interest.
       
    • The Peppers are currently sleeping in separate beds, and Kate confirms that there’s nothing wrong with a good night’s rest.
       
    • Q1: How can a couple make time for sex when they both want it, but one (or both) partners feel tired or blah?
       
    • Kate (figuratively) drops the mic with a helpful tip about reframing the way you set up a sex date.
       
    • Gerard blurts out his own secret idea for how he setting the scene in order to get busy.
       
    • Q2: How can someone overcome the challenge of painful sex?
       
    • The best lube is made from Good Clean Love. (And that's probably the only thing about us that you’ve never wanted to know.)
       
    • Finding the right Dr. or physical therapist should be the first step towards treating painful sex… Check the National Vulvodynia Association to find a practitioner near you.
       
    • Q3: I like making love, but can rarely get myself to make the first move. How am I supposed to initiate sex when I never feel horny?
       
    • The book Come As You Are by Emily Nagaski is next up on The Peppers “to read” list.
       
    • Q4: I’m anxious about having sex, and we hardly do it anymore. How can I get back to actually craving physical intimacy with my husband (as much as I used to)?
       
    • Q5: How does hormonal birth control have an impact on a women’s libido?
       
    • Q6: What are some ways to try and reverse a low libido?
       
    • Q7: Is there any way to intensify a man’s orgasm?
       
    • Q8: How can my partner and I climax at the same time?
       
    • Kate confirms that eight out of every 10 women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm.
       
    • Jessie and Gerard read YOUR sex-related wish-list in a rapid fire succession.
       
    • In many cases, having a conversation about what you want out of sex can actually feel more intimate than actually having sex.
       
    • Q9: What are some ways we bring up sex with our partner without making things awkward.
       
    • Start small and share things that give you some context for your chats! Kate's website is a great resource and we love her rundown of how to add more empathy to your everyday. 

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    1. Name one thing that tends to "press down on the brakes" of your sexual desire.
    2. What is your favorite (most optimal) time of the day to have sex?
    3. Describe your experience of sex-education (either at home or school) from when you were young.

    We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

    Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then.