Special Guests

Rule 040 | Custom Domain Names Make Horrible Baby Gifts

This episode is a long-awaited answer to the most frequently asked question of our entire podcast... Why the heck don't The Peppers have any kids?! Jessie's little brother stops in as our special guest, and he keeps us both in line as the emotions start to flow.

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QUICK BITES: 

  • You might remember our special guest from last season when he crashed our closet in NYC, and promptly divulged the story behind one of our dirtiest fights.

  • Jessie tries to be nice when people ask her about having kids, but it’s usually way too tempting to pull out the smart-assery instead.

  • Gerard gets annoyed when people make assumptions about our decision, but Joey reminds us that excitement loves company.

  • The Peppers would have to start sleeping in the same bed again if they had to make room for a nursery.

  • Pre-engagement counseling (yes, that is a thing) was the moment we realized that we saw eye to eye about starting a family.

  • Jessie is worried that her grandmotherly daydreams are never going to happen, but Gerard reassures her that he’ll always be around to pluck her chin hairs.

  • Both sets of our parents have been incredibly understanding about the decision not to have kids, but their own friends have not stopped trying to force the issue.

  • Gerard makes the clear distinction between a decision and a diagnosis.

  • Jessie loses her shit over losing dear friends over such a decisive choice.

  • The Peppers insist that they love hosting families as Casa de Pepper, but parents are better off bringing sippie cups and outlet covers since the baby-proofing has yet to happen.

  • Gerard’s top two celebrity crushes have a baby together, and the wife’s outlook on kids has given Jessie permission to embrace the feeling of a complete family.

  • A shocking admission at the end of the show leaves both Jessie + G with a ton of resolve towards our desire to bless and nurture others.  

 

LOOKING FOR OTHER WAYS TO MAKE AN IMPACT?

The Great Love Gang has shared so many wonderful resources with us over in the Facebook group, and we would love to pass along some of the many ways that YOU can make an impact on the lives of children and families who need extra guidance and support:

  • Impacting Hearts - Weekly mentorship for children currently living in a foster home. (Los Angeles / Orange County)
  • Safe Families - Short term foster care and family assistance. (70 US Cities)
  • CASA - An organization that connects volunteers with at-risk youth who need the constant adult presence that many of them lack. (49 US states)
  • Buckner International - Volunteer opportunities for four different types of family ministries. (Texas + Abroad)
  • The Call - Connecting foster care and adoptive families to children in need. (Arkansas)
  • AdoptUS Kids - Raising public awareness and providing resources for both states and families who are hoping to adopt or foster children.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is your opinion on how much or how little some parents share of their kids online?
     
  2. Regardless of whether or not you are a parent now, can you remember visualizing yourself as a mom or dad when you were little?
     
  3. Have you ever lost a friend because of the addition of kids? (Either yours or theirs.) How did this happen and how did it make you feel?

We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then. 

Rule 039.5 | Talking About Sex Makes It Even Better (Part II)

Part II of the sex series on Marriage is Funny! Gerard and Jessie share their thoughts on important things like abstinence, foreplay, and experimenting in the bedroom. The Peppers are joined by expert Kate McCombs, and her wisdom continues to inspire the Great Love Gang to be more intentional toward intimacy. (Be sure to listen to Episode 39 for Part I with Kate!)

Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!

QUICK BITES:

  • Q1: My husband says he isn’t a kissing guy, but I need foreplay in order to have sex. How can I fulfill his needs without making him do something that he doesn’t want to do?

  • Cooking is like sex. Creativity and variety are two ways to be very good at it.

  • AASECT.org is a great resource for finding a sex therapist that you can visit with your partner.

  • Jessie’s adventures in finding a counselor continue to be entertaining. (You may notice that Ep 9 in Season One is starting to sound familiar.)

  • Q2: How can we build up more courage in the bedroom? Is there an easy way to tell my partner I think they are boring in bed?

  • Creating a “sex lab” could be the best way to start experimenting in the bedroom... Check out Kate's article about how to set the mood in your own home.

  • Q3: Is there a right way or a wrong way to suggest the use of toys and tools?

  • Never break the laws of bad sexual etiquette... The pleasure of your partner matters just as much as your own.

  • Gerard and Jessie were sure to park in the back when they drove to the sex shop in Episode 20.

  • Q4: What do I do when my husband wants it and I don’t? Is faking it ok?

  • It’s important to tell our partners exactly when and how they’ve blessed us in order to build up their "cushion" when times are good.

  • Q5: How can I initiate sex when I know my partner doesn’t feel like it?

  • Kate explains the difference between justification vs clarification when it comes to turning down your partner when they’re making a move.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is the most surprising thing that your partner has ever done in bed?
  2. When was the last time you talked to your partner about sex? When was the last time you talked to someone besides your partner about sex?
  3. What was the most intimate moment that you had with your partner this week?

We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then. 

    Rule 039 | When In Doubt, Just Ask A Sexpert (Part I)

    This week, Jessie and Gerard are chatting with Sex & Relationships Expert, Kate McCombs. They excitedly pepper her with a handful of questions submitted by the Great Love Gang, but you'll also hear a tiny bit about their own intimacy adventures as well. (If you enjoy this conversation, be sure to subscribe to Marriage is Funny on your favorite podcast player, and listen in for Part II that will go live on Friday!)

    Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!

    QUICK BITES:

    • You guys blew us away with your 70+ responses to our sex survey! Missed the chance to weigh in? Feel free to share your thoughts right here and we’ll do it again if there’s enough interest.
       
    • The Peppers are currently sleeping in separate beds, and Kate confirms that there’s nothing wrong with a good night’s rest.
       
    • Q1: How can a couple make time for sex when they both want it, but one (or both) partners feel tired or blah?
       
    • Kate (figuratively) drops the mic with a helpful tip about reframing the way you set up a sex date.
       
    • Gerard blurts out his own secret idea for how he setting the scene in order to get busy.
       
    • Q2: How can someone overcome the challenge of painful sex?
       
    • The best lube is made from Good Clean Love. (And that's probably the only thing about us that you’ve never wanted to know.)
       
    • Finding the right Dr. or physical therapist should be the first step towards treating painful sex… Check the National Vulvodynia Association to find a practitioner near you.
       
    • Q3: I like making love, but can rarely get myself to make the first move. How am I supposed to initiate sex when I never feel horny?
       
    • The book Come As You Are by Emily Nagaski is next up on The Peppers “to read” list.
       
    • Q4: I’m anxious about having sex, and we hardly do it anymore. How can I get back to actually craving physical intimacy with my husband (as much as I used to)?
       
    • Q5: How does hormonal birth control have an impact on a women’s libido?
       
    • Q6: What are some ways to try and reverse a low libido?
       
    • Q7: Is there any way to intensify a man’s orgasm?
       
    • Q8: How can my partner and I climax at the same time?
       
    • Kate confirms that eight out of every 10 women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm.
       
    • Jessie and Gerard read YOUR sex-related wish-list in a rapid fire succession.
       
    • In many cases, having a conversation about what you want out of sex can actually feel more intimate than actually having sex.
       
    • Q9: What are some ways we bring up sex with our partner without making things awkward.
       
    • Start small and share things that give you some context for your chats! Kate's website is a great resource and we love her rundown of how to add more empathy to your everyday. 

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    1. Name one thing that tends to "press down on the brakes" of your sexual desire.
    2. What is your favorite (most optimal) time of the day to have sex?
    3. Describe your experience of sex-education (either at home or school) from when you were young.

    We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

    Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then. 

    Rule 032 | Separate Closets Are The Key To A Happy Marriage

    You might already know our guests Damien + Grasie from their pop-culture status, but The Peppers simply know them as a couple of fun friends who are always loaded with laughs. Listen in as Jessie + Gerard chat with them about improv comedy, mischievous cats, and that one time when Damien got mad enough to throw a chair. 

    CONNECT WITH THE DUO ONLINE:

    Find Damien on Twitter / Snapchat / Instagram - @damienfahey
    Find Grasie on Instagram / Snapchat / Twitter - @grasiemercedes
    (+ be sure to check out her style blog for endless amounts of inspiration!)

    Don't Forget: We are headed on vacation together in April and we want YOU to come with us! A group of our fabulous listeners are joining us in Puerto Vallarta next month, and we can already tell that it is going to be EPIC... We have room for just one more couple, so snag your spot and let's hit the beach.

    QUICK BITES: 

    • The fun in the FB group included words from Mark the mailman, a fairy-godcouple that sent us on our flea market date, and FINALLY the recipe for Jessie's eggplant tacos.
       
    • Save the Date for our big party in Long Beach on May 29th! The Peppers will be celebrating the wrap of Season Two, and we can't wait kick off the summer together. 
       
    • Damien tells us what it's like to always and forever be "The MTV Guy." (Among other things!)
       
    • Consider this a friendly reminder that your husband might be funnier on twitter than he is in real life.
       
    • Being coupled-up has given this pair a serious advantage on the comedy stage. (More proof of our theory that things are better when we're together!)
       
    • This duo AND their friend Dave Holmes recommend iOWest for improv classes in LA.
       
    • The Faheys biggest fight involved a chair being thrown. But other than that, they hardly ever argue...
       
    • A neo-neat-freak admits she has a problem, and that is the first step. 
       
    • The secret to a happy marriage is most definitely keeping separate closets.
       
    • The collective form of the word "MY" applies to parents, weddings, bedrooms and favorite pets.
       
    • Cats are nearly impossible to control. Cute as they may be, having one at home is not for the faint of heart.
     
    Dakota The Narcoleptic Cat

    Dakota The Narcoleptic Cat

     
    • The Peppers share about how their first kitten ruined their first Christmas and simultaneously made them an official "dog family."
       
    • Family frames of reference can have a huge impact on marriage roles, and both couples have let strong connections with their parents be a part of their kitchen duties.
       
    • Snapchat Husband Shaming has to be a thing. Is it a thing?
       
    • Art imitates life when Peter + Lois fight for the toaster.

     

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    1. If you had to choose one, would you be on Team Dog or Team Cat?
       
    2. Have you ever secretly (or not so secretly) re-done a household chore because you didn't like how your partner did it the first time?
       
    3. Can you think of a time when you have ever felt competitive towards your spouse? (Creatively, professionally, playfully, etc.)

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    Rule 026 | Keep Your Marriage Spicy By Heating Up The Kitchen

    Gerard and Jessie are joined by Sonja and Alex Overhiser who share their story of going from a fast-food duo to becoming the bloggers and podcasters behind A Couple Cooks. In this episode, you'll hear us chat about shopping carts full of cereal, adopting a flexitarian eating style, and how to form some serious solidarity around food. 

    Connect with the Overhisers at the following links, and let us know if you have suggestions for a couple you'd like to hear on a future episode of the show!

    Recipes: www.acouplecooks.com 
    Podcast: www.acouplecooks.com/podcast 
    Instagram: @acouplecooks
    Facebook: @acouplecooks
    Twitter: @acouplecooks

    Quick reminder that the registration for our Great Love Getaway opens on Sunday, February 14th! Mark your calendars and sign up to come on vacation with us in April!

     

    Alex's Dinner Party tips from episode 26:

    1. Find a partner! Spouse, friend, sister… Probably not your clumsy little brother, but totally fine in a pinch.

    2. Remember the reason for gathering. Guests aren’t coming to judge, they’re coming to hang out. (Food is important, but quality time comes first.)

    3. No new recipes. Try out the fancy stuff on sweetheart before busting it out to impress guests.

    4. Ingredient check-in. Email guests about their current eating preferences, pick a main dish that you’re excited about and build a hearty list of side dishes from there.

    Sonja's round-up of healthy Comfort Foods: 

    Crispy Baked Fries

    So Cal Pizza

    Healthier Chocolate Milkshake

    Raw Brownies

    Spinach Artichoke Grilled Cheese

    More quick bites:

    • Getting shamed in the check out line at Trader Joe’s... Is this a thing?
    • Jessie can’t live without this pantry staple, and Gerard freaks out when he finds out that she’s secretly been buying in bulk.
    • Cereal stands in as the "crouton" in this healthy Vegan Kale Ceasar recipe on S+P!
    • Sonja + Jessie geek out over a reality show indulgence, but the inspiration for their kitchen success is much more refined
    • Decoding dietary restrictions for dinner parties is not always easy. Listen in for tips from two couples who are quite familiar with this delicate dance.
    • Alex suggests letting veggies be the star, and Jessie is always getting inspired by the meatless ideas at A Couple Cooks.  
    • Flexitarians need friends too. The Peppers are pleased to know they're not alone when it comes to opinionated eating.
    • Picky partners are pulled apart by pulp preferences.
    • We’re all still figuring out how to navigate eating and cooking choices when our families are regularly confused. (Parents: If you’re listening, we love veggie burgers just a little less than you think.)
    • Jessie spills the beans about loving her greens. (Or anything that grows out of the ground, really.)
    • The Overhisers answer a question sent in by a listener named Jeff. He asked about how to best support his spouse through her healthy eating and weight loss changes.
    • Roasted celery IS delish. Chop coarsely with onion and cauliflower, add turmeric, garlic + salt/pepper. Pop under the broiler for 25 mins. (Add cannelini beans at the end, throw the whole thing onto a bed of fresh greens, toss with balsamic vinegar and you've got Jessie’s favorite weekday lunch!)
    • Turgor Pressure: The pressure of water pushing the plasma membrane against the cell wall of a plant cell. (You might be surprised at which Pepper turns out to be this week's biggest nerd.)
    • Lentils are one of our favorite superfoods! This recipe for Lentil + Artichoke Stew on ACC is a staple at Casa de Pepper. If you’re looking for something that feels a little more splurgey, go for Sonja’s crispy baked french fries without the guilt.
    • Listen in to hear why The Overhisers kicked calorie counting and ignoring the nutrients in order to prioritize a healthy relationship with food.
    • Back in Ep 11, we talk about how much we suck at cooking together, but Sonja + Alex have inspired us to try again! (Will report back on how that goes.)
    • We use a word association game to get to the bottom of why The Overhisers are better together.
    • Sonja grew up training to be a classical musician, and Alex’s creative childhood makes him a little more "freeform" in the kitchen.
    • Great Love looks different for everyone, but our favorite couple that cooks have some pretty beautiful things to say about what it means for them.

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

    • If you could fill an entire Trader Joe’s shopping cart with one item (completely free), what would it be?

    • Have your eating habits changed at all since getting together with your partner? 

    • Which indulgent comfort food needs to be "healthified" next? (Share your answers with Sonja + Jessie in the FB group and we'll try to whip up a recipe for an upcoming episode!)

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    Rule 024 | Use Caution When Giving Your Real Last Name To Strangers

    MIF Rule 24

    This week, The Peppers are chatting with a dynamic duo that they know you will love! Michelle + Kelly DLux are fellow love enthusiasts, and the husband / wife team behind a new photo series called Creative Marriages

    We are so excited to introduce you to two of our favorite friends, and can't wait to have them share the heart behind their own search for Great Love. In this episode, we talk about taking an intentional approach to a weekly sabbath, what it means to balance social media with being an attentive spouse, and how interracial relationships can be the cause of both blessings and challenges.

    The Peppers AND The Dluxes would LOVE to hang with you over the upcoming weeks, so join us for the Creative Marriages gallery showing on Sunday, February 14th and get excited for the Great Love Getaway coming up in April!

    QUICK BITES:

    • Having an altar-ego keeps things spicy... It can also keep away they identity thieves.
    • In case you’re curious, here is the 90’s throwback coca-cola commercial that inspired Kelly's personal brand.
    • Check out Kelly and some of his hot DJ moves right here.
    • Michelle decides to embrace the Dlux handle after reading Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert.
    • Hear the story behind how Gerard and Jessie became The Peppers, and you'll also get some background on Gerard’s corresponding break-down.
    • Kelly + Michelle tell us how the idea for a #DLUXSABBATH came to be... Follow along with the hashtag in order to live vicariously through their weekly adventures!
    • They recently visited the Rancho Bernardo Winery and filled a random Monday with taste-testing and hot tubbing and traipsing around in the rain with friends.
    • Find Michelle on snapchat by searching the username: michellekphoto
    • Find Kelly on Periscope by searching the username: @kelly_dlux
    • Jessie’s snapchat is styleandpepper and our collective Periscope handle is @meetthepeppers!
    • In Episode 9, we talked about our own struggles with social media. (So glad to know we're not alone.)
    • Having an interracial relationship has provided the Dluxes with both challenges and blessings, but their efforts to convey grace (no matter what) is so inspiring!
    • Michelle shares honestly about feeling like her wedding doesn't always match up to what she’s exposed to in her day to day business.
       

    TRIGGER QuestionS:

    • Does your partner have any major fears that you've learned to accept? 
    • How do you and your partner prioritize rest together? What would your own version of a #dluxsabbath look like?
    • Do you believe in the concept of having one singular soul mate on the entire planet?
       
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    More Dlux Details:

    Kelly is the owner of the DJ/MC company Dlux Entertainment, and is currently pursuing his masters degree in Apologetics at Talbot Seminary. Michelle is a wedding and portrait photographer who you may also recognize as a former Nickelodeon star (on Ned's Declassifed School Survival Guide). They both love exploring Southern CA and volunteering their time on the leadership team at Emmaus Church in Santa Ana. 

    Say hello to Michelle + Kelly on Instagram:

    @creativemarriages
    @michellekimphoto
    @kellydlux
    @dLUXent
    @kelly_dlux
    @streetphotoist
    @roamingnatives
    @broamingnatives

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    Rule 021 | You Don't Need An Excuse To Throw A Big Party

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    We're back and we missed you guys more than you know! It's finally time for Season Two, and there are a lot of reasons to party so we're diving right in.

    Be sure to listen for our very special guests, and we're sending big bear hugs to the dear friends who are helping us celebrate this week:

    QUICK BITES:

    • Would you ever have guessed the most requested topic of all time? Jessie spills the beans and then promises to talk about kiddos in the near future.
       
    • Our Great Love Getaway is coming in Spring 2016! Sign up at meetthepeppers.com to be the first to know about dates and details.
       
    • We finally found a place to live and are loving our little bungalow in Long Beach (especially because the owner has turned out to be our fairy landlordmother). Back in Episode #5, we talk about how it never hurts to ask for a price cut, and recently had a big win by following one of our own rules.
       
    • Gerard has started traveling a lot more with his new job, and Jessie is getting used to being home alone with nothing but reality TV and a queen-size bed to keep her company. #heavenonearth
       
    • Our trip to Guatemala with Unbound.org was a huge blessing, but Jessie’s animal-arch-nemesis kept crawling right up and creeping her out.
       
    • Gerard brags on Jessie for finishing her first triathlon, and then calls her out for waiting to learn her road bike until the last minute.
       
    • Sadie gets major surgery and we end up learning what it’s (probably) like to take care of a drunken toddler.
       
    • Gerard admits to getting 7 bottles of fancy liquor in his Christmas stocking. (Thanks, Santa!)
       
    • Hosting big parties make the Peppers happy, so we use Epiphany as an excuse to throw the biggest bash of the year.
       
    • Gerard is obsessed with ambiance and has learned everything he knows from party expert (and comedian) Todd Glass.
       
    • More backstory (and unexpected challenges) from the wacky costume party that we talked about in Episode 20.
       
    • Jessie’s friend Erin created a helpful guide to use as the day-of timeline for a big party
       
    • Gerard shares the traditional meaning behind why we celebrate the ancient holiday of Epiphany. Prepare yourself for a little preaching.
       
    • Our special guests weigh in on the following prompts:
      • What does Great Love look like within your own marriage?
      • What is it about your partner that makes you better together?
      • What makes up the right mix for your own marriage recipe?

     

    Trigger Questions:

    • Which is more embarrassing: Accidentally showing up to a dinner party an hour early or an hour late?
       
    • What songs were your favorite additions to the dance jams of 2015?  
       
    • Describe your idea of the perfect "party ambiance"... Do you and your partner have differing views?

     

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    Rule 019 | Make Sure Your Bathroom Works Before Hosting Overnight Guests

    Gerard + Jessie switch things up this week by inviting another couple to weigh in on the show... Colby + Chelsea are a sweet Southern Californian duo who make it a priority to invite strangers into their home. After a heartfelt chat, The Peppers left feeling like they'd gained two new friends and are now even MORE excited to list their future space on Airbnb.  

    "Something that I'm thankful for everyday is that Colby and I share the values of community and a permeable boundary of the definition of family. Opening our home and heart blesses us and challenges us and changes us for the better." - Chelsea L. 

    This week’s episode was brought to you by Airbnb! Join us by listing your own space on the site, and new users will get a $25 credit towards your next adventure.

     

    QUICK BITES:

    • Huge thanks to the guests who came out to our taping of the Season One finale!
    • Subscribe to the show on iTunes and join the FB group to keep in touch while we're in between seasons.
    • We made it to CA! Still house-hunting, and the adventures in living with Gerard's wonderful parents are going quite well. (Especially since they have a pool.)
    • When experiencing the world together is the basis of a budding relationship, it seems likely that it would continue to pop up as a reoccurring theme... Colby + Chelsea share about the story of how they met, and why it informs their daily choices to love others.
    • Spare rooms go fast when amusement parks are just a stone's throw away and cute kiddos are an absolutely legitimate selling point when you're listing a shared space for rent.
    • Jessie's dream house includes a nice cozy bed for our future guests and turn-down service complete with wine and chocolate. (She also promises not to use the Ninja Blender before 6am. Ok, fine - 7am.)
    • Crazy Statistic: Two-thirds of the international students in the US never get a chance to set foot inside an American home.
    • Gerard's bond with his host family in Guatemala was rooted in their humor and extensive hospitality. (Hear more in Episode 18.)
    • Not surprising that inflatable tubes and pool floating would surprise-and-delight someone visiting from out of the country.
    • Being considerate becomes the norm when you're constantly having to think of the comfort of others.
    • Chelsea drops a knowledge bomb from Brene Brown: "You can choose comfort or you can choose courage, but you can't have them both at the same time." Opening your home might feel like it takes some courage, but as our new friends explain: It can consistently bring benefits that far outweigh the risks.

     

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    • What is the most embarrassing plumbing issue you've ever encountered while traveling?
    • If you had an entire extra room of the house all to yourself (and could do whatever you wanted), what would you use it for?
    • What are some creative ideas that you could use as ways to make new guests feel welcome in your home?

     

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    Rule 015 | Never Try To Paint Your Nails While Riding In The Car

    The Peppers are excited to welcome a very special guest on this week's show... Our roommate (who is also Jessie's younger brother) Joey is here to give you a sneak peek at what it’s like to live with the nuttiest married couple you know.

    QUICK BITES:

    • MIF On the Road starts in just over a week! We're announcing a handful of new cities this week, so sign up for our newsletter if you want to come say hey.

    • SO much good stuff going on in the FB group lately... Join us over there to be a part of the conversation.

    • Joey kicks things off with a story by throwing Jessie under the bus. She promptly stuffs him into the glove box to get revenge.

    • Having a third wheel brings accountability AND comic relief, and both are bits of the past year that feel more valuable than we imagined.

    • Mealtime is too important to waste with a fight. Figure it all out before the forks get picked up.

    • Fostering a 23 year old has taught us that honesty puts out fires like a high-powered hose.

    • Little brother’s make the best sounding boards. Who knew?

    • Joey is the freaking best. You guys are going to fall in love with him and probably wish that this were his podcast instead of ours.

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    • Do you ever feel embarrassed to fight in front of family members?
    • Who is the one person (besides your partner) that knows your own kind of "crazy" the most thoroughly?
    • What is one way you would try to keep your partner sane during a cross-country road trip? (Bonus points for sending the best ideas our way.)

    Rule 008 | Nothing Really Rhymes With Husband

    The Peppers finally get a chance to take this show on the road! Episode 8 was recorded live in front of a studio audience, so thanks for hanging in there on some less-than-stellar audio quality. Listen in as we feature our best method to get your spouse to do what you want without nagging (no joke), and hear us ask some dear married friends what it looks like to explore the world while surviving the stresses of summer travel.

    QUICK BITES:

    • A week in Kansas City, MO with friends brought us back to where our marriage began. Hear the full story in Episode 1.

    • Special friends join the show! Mimi & Tim KeelTricia & Jeremy CollinsAlan & Shanna Keller. How did we get so lucky?!

    • We’d love to have you check out the work of the brilliant minds above, and are sending special thanks to everyone who came to our very first LIVE recording!

    • Let’s face it: Nagging is hardly ever cute. We’ve come up with a framework to navigate the balance between effectiveness and gentleness when (repeatedly) requesting a favor from your spouse.

    • Jessie spent the last several years trying to avoid the “nagging-wife” stereotype, and it unfortunately turned her into a Passive Aggressor. (This is real life, and NOT a reference to one of the scary specimens on Jurassic World.)

    • Packing is overwhelming! Sharing the load of an endless to-do list makes it easier.

    • Asking for you what you actually need is far more effective than a temper-tantrum. (Imagine that! Mom was right.) You may remember when Jessie put this concept to work in Episode 7... Tears and bikini-talk ensued.

    • Gerard bottles up his feelings and nearly makes Jessie barf by barreling around the bends of a wind-y road.
       
    • Tim Keel - "There is a difference between a vacation and a trip. A vacation is when I let myself relax and do nothing, and it's replenishing. I feel more like myself when it's over. A trip is when we go DO something, and it might be fun, but I don't always feel refreshed. I often feel like it costs something."
       
    • Jeremy Collins - "The farther you get away from home, the more you open up. When you know it's an 8 minute trip, you talk about 8 minute stuff. When it's an 8 hour drive, you talk about 8 hour stuff. And 8 hour stuff is 8 year stuff, because the farther we get into the trip the more the conversation is real and true, and instead of 'What do you want to do for dinner?' it's 'What do you want to do with your life?'... The farther away you get from your reality and your life - that's when the conversation gets really interesting and memorable."
       
    • Happy wife, happy life... It was bound to come up sooner or later.
       
    • Jessie loves personality tests. Next up on her to-do list? Discover appropriate Enneagram number and call Shanna immediately with results. 
       
    • Shanna Keller - "I spend a lot of my emotional bandwidth (whether I'm asked to or not) thinking about how to take care of us as a joint unit. When he asks me to all of a sudden change our plan, I think 'I don't know how to take care of us inside that new idea,' but when he can tell me, 'Actually, I've already thought of some of those things, so you can reserve some of emotional bandwidth for saying yes,' then that's when I've found that I can say yes more easily." 
       
    • The Marriage is Funny Getaway 2016 is born. ;)
       

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    • When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, do you typically prefer emotional support or tangible action?

    • Describe your ULTIMATE ideal trip together! Are you more of a laid-back vacationer or a adventure-seeking explorer?
       
    • Is it ok to spend time apart when you travel as a duo? What seems like a good balance between branching out on your own, and being attached at the hip?
       

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