Fighting

Rule 034 | Come Up With A Code Word To Avoid Conflict

An accidental-repeat topic that you won’t want to miss. Gerard claims he has an urgent issue with his in-laws, and Jessie is hoping to protect both Peppers from getting badly burned on the Great Love Getaway in Mexico this week. Catch snippets from our trip on social media: we're @styleandpepper on snapchat/insta and @meetthepeppers on twitter.

Hard to believe we're nearing the end of another season, but that means we're now accepting sponsors for Season Three of the show!

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QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard compares Jessie’s proficiency for packing to the athleticism of an olympic athlete. Flattering, but highly inaccurate.
     
  • We do our packing much like we do our laundry... As far away from each other as humanly possible.
     
  • Jessie is fanatical about sunscreen application. She has favorites for both face and body, and even uses one that comes infused with bug spray.
     
  • Gerard denies that he has rules for his approach to sun exposure, but Jessie points out that history says otherwise.
     
  • The Peppers find out that taking care of yourself applies to both skincare AND fast food.
     
  • Gerard tries to uncover why he sometimes acts rude when they visit Jessie’s parents.
     
  • A snippy comment after a rough day can end up being the straw that breaks the wifey’s back.
     
  • Hilarious brothers are sometimes a blessing in disguise. We’ll prove it by pointing you toward the episode with little bro Joey from last season.
     
  • The Peppers tend to revert to their childlike selves whenever they visit their families. The Mom’s love to dote, but Jessie insists on pitching in. (And ruining Gerard’s vacations at the same time.)
     
  • Come up with a code-word to avoid conflict, and remember that co-piloting a situation is always the best plan.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  1. When you’re taking a trip together, do you pack separately or in the same suitcase? How did this approach come about?
     
  2. Have you ever gotten so sunburned that it actually made you sick?
     
  3. What is one self-care habit that you wish your partner would be better at?

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Rule 032 | Separate Closets Are The Key To A Happy Marriage

You might already know our guests Damien + Grasie from their pop-culture status, but The Peppers simply know them as a couple of fun friends who are always loaded with laughs. Listen in as Jessie + Gerard chat with them about improv comedy, mischievous cats, and that one time when Damien got mad enough to throw a chair. 

CONNECT WITH THE DUO ONLINE:

Find Damien on Twitter / Snapchat / Instagram - @damienfahey
Find Grasie on Instagram / Snapchat / Twitter - @grasiemercedes
(+ be sure to check out her style blog for endless amounts of inspiration!)

Don't Forget: We are headed on vacation together in April and we want YOU to come with us! A group of our fabulous listeners are joining us in Puerto Vallarta next month, and we can already tell that it is going to be EPIC... We have room for just one more couple, so snag your spot and let's hit the beach.

QUICK BITES: 

  • The fun in the FB group included words from Mark the mailman, a fairy-godcouple that sent us on our flea market date, and FINALLY the recipe for Jessie's eggplant tacos.
     
  • Save the Date for our big party in Long Beach on May 29th! The Peppers will be celebrating the wrap of Season Two, and we can't wait kick off the summer together. 
     
  • Damien tells us what it's like to always and forever be "The MTV Guy." (Among other things!)
     
  • Consider this a friendly reminder that your husband might be funnier on twitter than he is in real life.
     
  • Being coupled-up has given this pair a serious advantage on the comedy stage. (More proof of our theory that things are better when we're together!)
     
  • This duo AND their friend Dave Holmes recommend iOWest for improv classes in LA.
     
  • The Faheys biggest fight involved a chair being thrown. But other than that, they hardly ever argue...
     
  • A neo-neat-freak admits she has a problem, and that is the first step. 
     
  • The secret to a happy marriage is most definitely keeping separate closets.
     
  • The collective form of the word "MY" applies to parents, weddings, bedrooms and favorite pets.
     
  • Cats are nearly impossible to control. Cute as they may be, having one at home is not for the faint of heart.
 
Dakota The Narcoleptic Cat

Dakota The Narcoleptic Cat

 
  • The Peppers share about how their first kitten ruined their first Christmas and simultaneously made them an official "dog family."
     
  • Family frames of reference can have a huge impact on marriage roles, and both couples have let strong connections with their parents be a part of their kitchen duties.
     
  • Snapchat Husband Shaming has to be a thing. Is it a thing?
     
  • Art imitates life when Peter + Lois fight for the toaster.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. If you had to choose one, would you be on Team Dog or Team Cat?
     
  2. Have you ever secretly (or not so secretly) re-done a household chore because you didn't like how your partner did it the first time?
     
  3. Can you think of a time when you have ever felt competitive towards your spouse? (Creatively, professionally, playfully, etc.)

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Rule 028 | Magazine Clippings Belong In The Bathroom

In this episode, The Peppers discuss the merits of being totally fresh faced or having two-week scruff. Jessie reveals her complex system for magazine organization, and they both try to decide if they were conned by the friendliest scam artist ever.

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QUICK BITES:

  • Good news for our parents…Finally: a clean episode!
     
  • We love hearing about your love and lives over on the private FB group. Share photos, questions, ideas, jokes and have fun getting to know the other couples in our growing fam!
     
  • Gerard needs to start brushing up on his Spanish, because we’re going to Mexico! He might want to start by re-listening to our conversation in Episode 18.
     
  • Travel-fights are NOT happening before the big trip. (We uncover why they happen back in Episode 8.)
     
  • Hair-removal woes are not just for women. Gerard's real question is: To beard, or not to beard?
     
  • Jessie comes from a long line of bad-ass moustaches, and Gerard realizes he may never live up to the hype.
     
  • Back in Episode 16 we talk about why "Lipstick Is The Quickest Way To Keep Away The Kisses"… (This week we learn that a few week’s scruff does the exact same thing.)
     
  • Gerard’s passport photo makes him look like a terrorist.
     
  • Jessie needs a magazine intervention. Do these exist? How do we sign her up?
     
  • Bon Appetit makes things like brussels sprouts and ice cubes feel way more fun.
     
  • The Pepper's Sunday morning routine involves fresh coffee, Meet The Press and the latest issue of Bloomberg Businessweek.
     
  • Sadie’s a superstar! Check out her first HGTV Magazine appearance right here.
     
  • Casa de Pepper is getting a NO SOLICITING sign. Do they make one that says, “Except for Girl Scout Cookies.” in tiny print at the bottom?  
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you have strong preferences around your partner’s physical appearance? Does it have anything to do with how they looked when you met?
     
  2. What’s your favorite bathroom reading material?
     
  3. Have you ever bought anything from a door to door salesperson?

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Rule 015 | Never Try To Paint Your Nails While Riding In The Car

The Peppers are excited to welcome a very special guest on this week's show... Our roommate (who is also Jessie's younger brother) Joey is here to give you a sneak peek at what it’s like to live with the nuttiest married couple you know.

QUICK BITES:

  • MIF On the Road starts in just over a week! We're announcing a handful of new cities this week, so sign up for our newsletter if you want to come say hey.

  • SO much good stuff going on in the FB group lately... Join us over there to be a part of the conversation.

  • Joey kicks things off with a story by throwing Jessie under the bus. She promptly stuffs him into the glove box to get revenge.

  • Having a third wheel brings accountability AND comic relief, and both are bits of the past year that feel more valuable than we imagined.

  • Mealtime is too important to waste with a fight. Figure it all out before the forks get picked up.

  • Fostering a 23 year old has taught us that honesty puts out fires like a high-powered hose.

  • Little brother’s make the best sounding boards. Who knew?

  • Joey is the freaking best. You guys are going to fall in love with him and probably wish that this were his podcast instead of ours.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • Do you ever feel embarrassed to fight in front of family members?
  • Who is the one person (besides your partner) that knows your own kind of "crazy" the most thoroughly?
  • What is one way you would try to keep your partner sane during a cross-country road trip? (Bonus points for sending the best ideas our way.)