Great Love

Rule 055 | Superheroes Never Have More Than One Sidekick

marriage is funny episode 55

Jessie + Gerard return from a long podcasting break, and this show is a recap of what the last several months have been like for The Peppers. Tune in as we kick-off the upcoming special travel series, and don't forget to share your Summer moments by using #marriageisfunnyontheroad on your favorite social media platforms! 

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QUICK BITES:

  • The Highs + Lows game can be traumatizing to anyone who experienced it as a tween, so The Peppers play their own version and want YOUR help in giving it a new name. (Thanks to inspiration from the hosts of The Popcast Podcast and That’s So Retrograde!)

  • Jessie launched a new business while we were away! Check out her ethically-made multi-functional dress design called Season, and watch the short film to get the full story behind the brand.

  • Gerard just finished a two-month stint of commuting back and forth to the East Coast each week, and we agree that it was one of the hardest periods of our entire 10 years of marriage. Jessie accuses him of flirting with the flight attendants to get better seat upgrades, and he interestingly does not deny this point. 

  • The chance to travel around and speak on stage together is always such a highlight! February took us back to Kansas City for a big event, and we’re excited to add new dates to our calendar for appearances during the rest of 2017.

  • Gerard starts wearing a helmet while riding his bike to work, and Jessie calms down because they finally figured out how to get their armoire through the bedroom window.

  • Jessie gets excited about Gerard performing with a legit (local) rock and roll band, and we love it when our listeners come to the gigs!

  • The Peppers give you the dish on the neighborhood black sheep: Unit #3. Jessie’s warmth drives away the unfriendly tenants and then she accidentally enables the ones who do drugs right outside their bedroom window.

  • Sleeping arrangements have shifted yet again... After splitting up for their snooze-time (hear more about that in Ep 36), Jessie has snuck back into the master bedroom by disguising herself as a sea creature.  

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What has your partner done in the last 6 months that made you very proud
  2. Have you stopped nagging your spouse about anything lately? Is there anything you WISH you could stop nagging them about?
  3. Who is your favorite neighbor and why do you love them so much?

Rule 033 | Never Forget That You're On The Same Team

The Peppers get real about their vows and open up about the challenge of living with chronic pain. Jessie woos Gerard with some baked salmon and a basketball game, but when the going gets tough he throws her under the team bus.

If you happen to have a friend who experiences or is married to someone who has chronic health issues, would you please consider sharing this episode with them?

We're happy to pour out our hearts as a way to encourage others, and we would love your help in making sure that this show reaches exactly the right ears. 
 

QUICK BITES:

  • A General Note: Our marriage isn’t perfect, but our commitment is real. Hear the full run-down in the first few minutes of this week’s show.
     
  • Jessie didn’t get invited to fill our a March Madness bracket this year, and the KU Jayhawks will probably win because of it.
     
  • Becky Murphy Simpson should win an ESPY for her clever YAY SPORTS t-shirt.
     
  • The Sweet Sixteen tournament has nothing to do with the MTV show of the  same name. (Most wives would be way more excited about watching big games if there were fireworks and fancy dresses involved.)
     
  • The Peppers very first Valentine’s Day together set a precedent for our sports watching habits, and now you’ll hear why Gerard has been trying to make up for it ever since.
     
  • Jessie pulls a "Barney Stinson" by wooing Gerard with a home-cooked meal and a half-time make-out session.
     
  • His and hers henleys… Are these still a thing? We should make these a thing.
     
  • The Jayhawks mascot is NOT the same thing as Foghorn Leghorn from Looney Tunes. The Peppers send many apologies to all of our fellow Rock Chalk fans.
     
  • Jessie tries to explain that there is a distinct difference between “not loving a sport” and “hating a sport.”Gerard throws Jessie under the bus when it comes to whether or not she really loves the teams that have his heart.
     
  • Twitter makes it a lot easier to keep up with the commentary, but nothing beats plopping down in a recliner to enjoy your favorite teams. Bonus points if you bust out the killer bean dip.
     
  • Do they still make TVs with picture in picture? We will check into this and report back. (Thank goodness for the ability to watch sports on our special “appy-things.”)
     
  • Listening to Science Mike on The Liturgists Podcast gives some helpful perspective on processing thoughts and emotions.
     
  • Jessie dives right in and describes what she calls The Six Layers of Chronic Pain. Her health challenges have been a part of The Peppers relationship for longer than they’ve even been married, and they're still getting used to having it as their fairly unfortunate third-wheel.
     
  • If you haven't met Debbie Downer from Saturday Night Live, you're in for a real "treat" and you can thank us later.
     
  • The book Daring Greatly by Brene Brown gives us helpful language around identifying and dealing with our emotions of shame.
     
  • Jessie learns that noticing patterns within her interactions with Gerard can teach her a lot about how to heal the mishaps. (No matter how annoying they may be.)
     
  • We assure you that Jessie has not actually ever received medical treatment from a man standing on a corner, but we cannot make any promises about the future at this point.

     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Does your spouse have a special interest that you could blow them away by getting excited about?
     
  2. Have you ever pretended to be jazzed about a sporting event in order to impress a date?
     
  3. What brings you the most comfort when you're feeling sick or in physical pain?

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Rule 026 | Keep Your Marriage Spicy By Heating Up The Kitchen

Gerard and Jessie are joined by Sonja and Alex Overhiser who share their story of going from a fast-food duo to becoming the bloggers and podcasters behind A Couple Cooks. In this episode, you'll hear us chat about shopping carts full of cereal, adopting a flexitarian eating style, and how to form some serious solidarity around food. 

Connect with the Overhisers at the following links, and let us know if you have suggestions for a couple you'd like to hear on a future episode of the show!

Recipes: www.acouplecooks.com 
Podcast: www.acouplecooks.com/podcast 
Instagram: @acouplecooks
Facebook: @acouplecooks
Twitter: @acouplecooks

Quick reminder that the registration for our Great Love Getaway opens on Sunday, February 14th! Mark your calendars and sign up to come on vacation with us in April!

 

Alex's Dinner Party tips from episode 26:

  1. Find a partner! Spouse, friend, sister… Probably not your clumsy little brother, but totally fine in a pinch.

  2. Remember the reason for gathering. Guests aren’t coming to judge, they’re coming to hang out. (Food is important, but quality time comes first.)

  3. No new recipes. Try out the fancy stuff on sweetheart before busting it out to impress guests.

  4. Ingredient check-in. Email guests about their current eating preferences, pick a main dish that you’re excited about and build a hearty list of side dishes from there.

Sonja's round-up of healthy Comfort Foods: 

Crispy Baked Fries

So Cal Pizza

Healthier Chocolate Milkshake

Raw Brownies

Spinach Artichoke Grilled Cheese

More quick bites:

  • Getting shamed in the check out line at Trader Joe’s... Is this a thing?
  • Jessie can’t live without this pantry staple, and Gerard freaks out when he finds out that she’s secretly been buying in bulk.
  • Cereal stands in as the "crouton" in this healthy Vegan Kale Ceasar recipe on S+P!
  • Sonja + Jessie geek out over a reality show indulgence, but the inspiration for their kitchen success is much more refined
  • Decoding dietary restrictions for dinner parties is not always easy. Listen in for tips from two couples who are quite familiar with this delicate dance.
  • Alex suggests letting veggies be the star, and Jessie is always getting inspired by the meatless ideas at A Couple Cooks.  
  • Flexitarians need friends too. The Peppers are pleased to know they're not alone when it comes to opinionated eating.
  • Picky partners are pulled apart by pulp preferences.
  • We’re all still figuring out how to navigate eating and cooking choices when our families are regularly confused. (Parents: If you’re listening, we love veggie burgers just a little less than you think.)
  • Jessie spills the beans about loving her greens. (Or anything that grows out of the ground, really.)
  • The Overhisers answer a question sent in by a listener named Jeff. He asked about how to best support his spouse through her healthy eating and weight loss changes.
  • Roasted celery IS delish. Chop coarsely with onion and cauliflower, add turmeric, garlic + salt/pepper. Pop under the broiler for 25 mins. (Add cannelini beans at the end, throw the whole thing onto a bed of fresh greens, toss with balsamic vinegar and you've got Jessie’s favorite weekday lunch!)
  • Turgor Pressure: The pressure of water pushing the plasma membrane against the cell wall of a plant cell. (You might be surprised at which Pepper turns out to be this week's biggest nerd.)
  • Lentils are one of our favorite superfoods! This recipe for Lentil + Artichoke Stew on ACC is a staple at Casa de Pepper. If you’re looking for something that feels a little more splurgey, go for Sonja’s crispy baked french fries without the guilt.
  • Listen in to hear why The Overhisers kicked calorie counting and ignoring the nutrients in order to prioritize a healthy relationship with food.
  • Back in Ep 11, we talk about how much we suck at cooking together, but Sonja + Alex have inspired us to try again! (Will report back on how that goes.)
  • We use a word association game to get to the bottom of why The Overhisers are better together.
  • Sonja grew up training to be a classical musician, and Alex’s creative childhood makes him a little more "freeform" in the kitchen.
  • Great Love looks different for everyone, but our favorite couple that cooks have some pretty beautiful things to say about what it means for them.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  • If you could fill an entire Trader Joe’s shopping cart with one item (completely free), what would it be?

  • Have your eating habits changed at all since getting together with your partner? 

  • Which indulgent comfort food needs to be "healthified" next? (Share your answers with Sonja + Jessie in the FB group and we'll try to whip up a recipe for an upcoming episode!)

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