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Rule 046 | Don't Let The Dog On The Duvet

*Thankfully, Gerard was ONLY sick when we recorded the intro for this one... Hang in there for the first few minutes, and you’ll be past the nasally voice in no time.*

This week, we consider the opposing values of puppy cuddle time vs. perfectly clean sheets. Gerard gets excited about hopping back on stage to play the bass in a band, and The Peppers discuss pros and cons of pursuing distinctly separate hobbies.

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QUICK BITES:

  • Listen to Episode 36 to find out why The Peppers are not currently sleeping in the same bed.

  • Sadie Mae reminds us of Slinky Dog in the Toy Story movies… Family Halloween costume idea, perhaps?

  • The fan we wish we had, and the fan we would NOT recommend are both proof of why we should ALWAYS listen to Cameron -- our friendly guy at the local Home Depot.

  • The Santa Ana winds have us sweating during dinner, and we’re left daydreaming about an AC unit that fits on our super-old windows.

  • Gerard’s concern with dog-hair splinters makes Jessie break down and agree he needs to wear his stylish Birkenstocks more often. 

  • Jessie realizes that she should take full advantage of the chance to shop for her faves at West Elm and CB2.

  • In case you're curious about our favorite white sheets... (They're durable, affordable, made from organic cotton, and easy to order online!)

  • We would do pretty much anything for our precious furry daughter… Find out why we aren’t parents by listening to Episode 40.

  • A sneak peek at our cheap gray coverlet will give you a glimpse at why we don’t care when our dog jumps on it for a snuggle.

  • Gerard gets schooled in the anatomy of a well-layered bed and then admits to one of his biggest fears that has us buying lint-rollers in bulk.

  • Jessie busts out into song while Gerard hums the bass… And now we both need to beg your eardrums for forgiveness.

  • Gerard gets excited about getting back up on stage to play his bass, and we both see the benefits of having distinctly separate hobbies... Listen to us chat about the benefits of having SHARED hobbies back in Episode 41.

  • Jessie is attracted to Gerard in spite of his (adorable) chocolate-chip-cookie-gut, and admits that being married to a musician is certainly something that counts as a turn-on.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you sleep with your pet(s) in the same bed? Have both partners always had the same preference about this decision?
     
  2. Can you come up with at least one way to encourage (or actually make it possible for) your spouse to pursue one of their own personal hobbies?
     
  3. What was one of the very first things that you can remember being attracted to about your sweetie pie?

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Rule 037 | Avoid Conflict By Color Coding Your Calendars

Gerard is stressed about his always-crammed calendar, but still wants to find the time for sailing lessons this summer. Jessie learns that there are many effective systems for keeping a tight schedule, and decides to accept the reality of having an optimistic husband.

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QUICK BITES:

  • Follow along with our Las Vegas antics on snapchat by finding Jessie at the username styleandpepper.

  • Submit your sex-questions now! Send them in through the contact form on our page, OR leave an anonymous comment on the show notes page for this episode at meetthepeppers.com.

  • Gerard’s schedule is snowballing and he feels stressed by too much “stuff” on the agenda... The Peppers decide to create a system for staying on the same page with their calendars.

  • Optimism vs. realism when it comes to time management -- Which one wins?

  • The big reveal of Brea Olinda’s Mr. + Mrs. Most Optimistic!

  • Jessie makes a case for building their schedules based on order of priority, while Gerard claims that the podcast feels a little like an albatross hanging around his neck.

  • The Peppers play a game of roulette with obscure references.

  • Jessie is skeptical about taking sailing lessons this summer… She doesn’t want to squelch a dream, but the cost, timing and lack of dock-space seem like pretty big challenges.

  • Gerard wants to become Master Sailors together as their next shared project. Jessie is on-board as long as she gets to dress up like Gilligan's Mary Ann in order to play the part.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Ask your partner what is currently stressing them out...
     
  2. When was the last time you got so nervous that it made your pits sweat?
     
  3. What are the big rocks, gravel, and grains of sand in your bucket?

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Rule 035 | Too Much Twerking May Get You Into Trouble

We're back and the Great Love Getaway was a huge success! Listen in for the highlights of our trip: Bear-hugging, fire-dancing, pants-splitting, guacamole-eating, tequila-drinking, pool-dipping... The list goes on and we're already getting excited for next time. In this week's discussion, The Peppers talk about why it's important to daydream together, and they come up with a list of the things that you shouldn't do when looking for another duo to be your marriage mentors.

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QUICK BITES:

  • The GLG guests give a recap of the best moments in their own words.
     
  • Watch the full video by Kelly Dlux to pretend like you were there, and start getting excited to join us for the next trip.
     
  • Taking our guests along with us for a dreamlining exercise... Courtesy of Tim Ferris and his book, The 4-Hour Work Week.
     
  • Gerard sets out to start working on his fitness, but Jessie thought he might have been polishing his comedy craft instead. See his inspiration photo here:
  • Becoming conversational in Spanish is still on our minds from Episode 18.
     
  • Jessie is dreaming about having a vegetable garden, becoming the author of a published book, and hosting another Great Love Getaway in the fall... Lofty goals, but it feels good to get them off her chest.
     
  • Being a full-time podcaster might feel daunting, but Gerard encourages Jessie to go for it anyway. You can get a teeny-tiny sneak peek at her upcoming project right here.
     
  • The Peppers are already excited to plan another GLG, and the only problem now will be reigning in the vision.
     
  • “Marriage isn’t something that should be done in isolation. If having us share our stories can give other people comfort or encouragement or a jumping off point for their own relationships, then that’s wonderful -- and this getaway is the in-person version of that.” -G
     
  • Marriage mentors can certainly be a blessing, but digging into life with a strong community of married couples can be just as life-giving.
     
  • Jessie shares three things NOT to do when looking for marriage mentors.
     
  • The differences in diverse relationships create so many wonderful opportunities for learning from each other.
     
  • You may remember Tim + Mimi Keel from Episode 8... We're lucky enough to call them friends, and they've inspired and encouraged us ever since our years at Jacob’s Well.
     
  • The Peppers feel so grateful for their community that has grown since they first got married, but being blessed means that they want to turn around and pour themselves out into other married couples.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. If it really came down to it, would you rather have a six-pack of abs or a six-pack of beer?
     
  2. What is one splurge-y thing that you could daydreaming about having in the next six months?
     
  3. Can you think of one couple you know that might be blessed by spending some quality time with you and your partner?

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Rule 026 | Keep Your Marriage Spicy By Heating Up The Kitchen

Gerard and Jessie are joined by Sonja and Alex Overhiser who share their story of going from a fast-food duo to becoming the bloggers and podcasters behind A Couple Cooks. In this episode, you'll hear us chat about shopping carts full of cereal, adopting a flexitarian eating style, and how to form some serious solidarity around food. 

Connect with the Overhisers at the following links, and let us know if you have suggestions for a couple you'd like to hear on a future episode of the show!

Recipes: www.acouplecooks.com 
Podcast: www.acouplecooks.com/podcast 
Instagram: @acouplecooks
Facebook: @acouplecooks
Twitter: @acouplecooks

Quick reminder that the registration for our Great Love Getaway opens on Sunday, February 14th! Mark your calendars and sign up to come on vacation with us in April!

 

Alex's Dinner Party tips from episode 26:

  1. Find a partner! Spouse, friend, sister… Probably not your clumsy little brother, but totally fine in a pinch.

  2. Remember the reason for gathering. Guests aren’t coming to judge, they’re coming to hang out. (Food is important, but quality time comes first.)

  3. No new recipes. Try out the fancy stuff on sweetheart before busting it out to impress guests.

  4. Ingredient check-in. Email guests about their current eating preferences, pick a main dish that you’re excited about and build a hearty list of side dishes from there.

Sonja's round-up of healthy Comfort Foods: 

Crispy Baked Fries

So Cal Pizza

Healthier Chocolate Milkshake

Raw Brownies

Spinach Artichoke Grilled Cheese

More quick bites:

  • Getting shamed in the check out line at Trader Joe’s... Is this a thing?
  • Jessie can’t live without this pantry staple, and Gerard freaks out when he finds out that she’s secretly been buying in bulk.
  • Cereal stands in as the "crouton" in this healthy Vegan Kale Ceasar recipe on S+P!
  • Sonja + Jessie geek out over a reality show indulgence, but the inspiration for their kitchen success is much more refined
  • Decoding dietary restrictions for dinner parties is not always easy. Listen in for tips from two couples who are quite familiar with this delicate dance.
  • Alex suggests letting veggies be the star, and Jessie is always getting inspired by the meatless ideas at A Couple Cooks.  
  • Flexitarians need friends too. The Peppers are pleased to know they're not alone when it comes to opinionated eating.
  • Picky partners are pulled apart by pulp preferences.
  • We’re all still figuring out how to navigate eating and cooking choices when our families are regularly confused. (Parents: If you’re listening, we love veggie burgers just a little less than you think.)
  • Jessie spills the beans about loving her greens. (Or anything that grows out of the ground, really.)
  • The Overhisers answer a question sent in by a listener named Jeff. He asked about how to best support his spouse through her healthy eating and weight loss changes.
  • Roasted celery IS delish. Chop coarsely with onion and cauliflower, add turmeric, garlic + salt/pepper. Pop under the broiler for 25 mins. (Add cannelini beans at the end, throw the whole thing onto a bed of fresh greens, toss with balsamic vinegar and you've got Jessie’s favorite weekday lunch!)
  • Turgor Pressure: The pressure of water pushing the plasma membrane against the cell wall of a plant cell. (You might be surprised at which Pepper turns out to be this week's biggest nerd.)
  • Lentils are one of our favorite superfoods! This recipe for Lentil + Artichoke Stew on ACC is a staple at Casa de Pepper. If you’re looking for something that feels a little more splurgey, go for Sonja’s crispy baked french fries without the guilt.
  • Listen in to hear why The Overhisers kicked calorie counting and ignoring the nutrients in order to prioritize a healthy relationship with food.
  • Back in Ep 11, we talk about how much we suck at cooking together, but Sonja + Alex have inspired us to try again! (Will report back on how that goes.)
  • We use a word association game to get to the bottom of why The Overhisers are better together.
  • Sonja grew up training to be a classical musician, and Alex’s creative childhood makes him a little more "freeform" in the kitchen.
  • Great Love looks different for everyone, but our favorite couple that cooks have some pretty beautiful things to say about what it means for them.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  • If you could fill an entire Trader Joe’s shopping cart with one item (completely free), what would it be?

  • Have your eating habits changed at all since getting together with your partner? 

  • Which indulgent comfort food needs to be "healthified" next? (Share your answers with Sonja + Jessie in the FB group and we'll try to whip up a recipe for an upcoming episode!)

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Rule 017 | Don't Get A Puppy Unless You're Ready To Be A Parent

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The Peppers are in the middle of their On The Road tour, and this episode comes to you from the basement of some of their gracious hosts. Gerard tells Jessie he wants to add another member to the family, but she explains why she's not so ready. They discuss how co-hosting a podcast about marriage has impacted their own life, and agree that taking a quick break in the fall will give them a chance to get caught up on creating season two.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Many thanks to our generous hosts and the listeners who’ve come out to support us so far! BIG extra-special bear hugs go to...
    • Erin + Matt for giving us a gorgeous place to stay and serving up a beautiful spread for the first event of the tour
    • Allie + Adam for letting us gather in their creative space in Columbus
    • Chris + Sarah for opening up their home in Grand Rapids and throwing a backyard BBQ to celebrate the end of summer
    • Merl + Bobby for sharing a place to rest our heads AND a lovely studio to host a handful of the sweetest Chicago listeners
       
  • Special thanks to Sprint for helping to make our On The Road tour possible! Be sure to check out the special highlights of our trip that we're sharing over on their feed, and follow along with styleandpepper on snapchat for more fun clips of our behind the scenes. ;)
     
  • Don't forget: you can find our full tour details right here... We'd love to meet you, so come out and hug us if you dare!
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • If you could live out of any vehicle (while driving across the country) for three weeks, what would it be and why?
  • Does your own family currently seem complete? What would it take to make it feel that way?
  • What topics would you cover if you had your own podcast?

Rule 011 | You Can't Teach an Old Spouse New Tricks

Come take a seat on our second-hand couch, and we'll tell you why our friend "Craig" makes Jessie feel like an interior designer (and is always good for some cheap entertainment). Things get heated in the kitchen when Gerard burns the sweet potato fries, and The Peppers both admit that they're not great at learning new things when the other one is really just bossing them around. 

QUICK BITES:

  • As we continue to plan our cross-country tour, remember to sign up for the mailing list to hear about WHERE we'll be popping up and WHEN.

  • Marriage is Funny will be on Stitcher soon! Be sure to subscribe wherever you love to listen most.

  • Jessie’s shares her favorite second-hand shopping resources, over on her personal style site!

  • Gerard accidentally spills the beans about his recent trip to the nail salon with Jessie... Personal favor OR personal hygiene? YOU be the judge. 

  • Despite the insistence that Craigslist is safe, Gerard shares the story of a dining room table, a mysteriously dark house and a room full of creepy dolls.

  • Long term bike rentals, apartments, tutoring gigs, babysitting jobs, & pets!

  • Gerard is trying to sell everything on Craigslist before the big move, and Jessie suspects this is his way to force them into being minimalists.

  • Who wants a free set of Wusthof steak knives? Anyone? 

  • Gerard enjoys burnt sweet potatoes, but could do without a bossy wife.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What is one new thing that you’d like to learn how to cook? Do you prefer to have someone teach you, or are you planning to figure it out on your own?

  • Sweet potato fries: Burnt, tender, or perfectly crispy? (And more importantly -- WHICH DIPPING SAUCE?!)

  • How would you describe your preferred learning style to your partner?
     

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Rule 003 | No One Likes to be Woken Up by a Vibrating Floor

This episode is (partially) about sleep, which is ironic because Jessie is up working on this very post at 3:16am, and Gerard is busy getting his beauty rest.  Keeping the summary short, so check out the bites below and we can't wait to hear what you think!

Quick Bites:

  • Differing sleep schedules cause us a bit of dissonance. Gerard is jealous of Jessie’s late mornings, but not so much of her insomnia.

  • Our first few months of marriage made for wake-up habits that have lasted for years. Gerard is the alarm-guy and Jessie is pretty much useless unless he wakes her up with snuggles and sweet-nothings.

  • Our alarm-clock frames of reference from growing up are as different as night and day. We are currently trying to track down Gerard's original 1980s classic white radio (with red lights).

  • The super-cool French neighbors downstairs get woken up with a vibrating surprise. Oops.

  • A challenge is presented: J plans to start waking up earlier so that we can spend time together before we start our days. G prefers to eat his egg sandwich and watch the news in peace, so we’ll keep you posted on how this pans out.

  • Last year we read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and the biggest benefit was learning to be fluent in each others feelings. During the show, we explore what Quality Time means to each of us, and in real-life we often DQ our devices when they get in the way of heartfelt conversations.

  • Shared projects and hobbies can include everything from comedy to cocktails to climbing, but we find that anything where learning meets fun turns out to be the best combo.

Trigger Questions:

  • How old were you when you first had to start waking up on your own?

  • Describe the version of quality time that makes you feel most loved. How can your partner make small steps toward making this happen?

  • If you had to choose one song to be woken up with for the rest of your life, what would it be?

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