Getaway

Rule 035 | Too Much Twerking May Get You Into Trouble

We're back and the Great Love Getaway was a huge success! Listen in for the highlights of our trip: Bear-hugging, fire-dancing, pants-splitting, guacamole-eating, tequila-drinking, pool-dipping... The list goes on and we're already getting excited for next time. In this week's discussion, The Peppers talk about why it's important to daydream together, and they come up with a list of the things that you shouldn't do when looking for another duo to be your marriage mentors.

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QUICK BITES:

  • The GLG guests give a recap of the best moments in their own words.
     
  • Watch the full video by Kelly Dlux to pretend like you were there, and start getting excited to join us for the next trip.
     
  • Taking our guests along with us for a dreamlining exercise... Courtesy of Tim Ferris and his book, The 4-Hour Work Week.
     
  • Gerard sets out to start working on his fitness, but Jessie thought he might have been polishing his comedy craft instead. See his inspiration photo here:
  • Becoming conversational in Spanish is still on our minds from Episode 18.
     
  • Jessie is dreaming about having a vegetable garden, becoming the author of a published book, and hosting another Great Love Getaway in the fall... Lofty goals, but it feels good to get them off her chest.
     
  • Being a full-time podcaster might feel daunting, but Gerard encourages Jessie to go for it anyway. You can get a teeny-tiny sneak peek at her upcoming project right here.
     
  • The Peppers are already excited to plan another GLG, and the only problem now will be reigning in the vision.
     
  • “Marriage isn’t something that should be done in isolation. If having us share our stories can give other people comfort or encouragement or a jumping off point for their own relationships, then that’s wonderful -- and this getaway is the in-person version of that.” -G
     
  • Marriage mentors can certainly be a blessing, but digging into life with a strong community of married couples can be just as life-giving.
     
  • Jessie shares three things NOT to do when looking for marriage mentors.
     
  • The differences in diverse relationships create so many wonderful opportunities for learning from each other.
     
  • You may remember Tim + Mimi Keel from Episode 8... We're lucky enough to call them friends, and they've inspired and encouraged us ever since our years at Jacob’s Well.
     
  • The Peppers feel so grateful for their community that has grown since they first got married, but being blessed means that they want to turn around and pour themselves out into other married couples.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. If it really came down to it, would you rather have a six-pack of abs or a six-pack of beer?
     
  2. What is one splurge-y thing that you could daydreaming about having in the next six months?
     
  3. Can you think of one couple you know that might be blessed by spending some quality time with you and your partner?

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Rule 024 | Use Caution When Giving Your Real Last Name To Strangers

MIF Rule 24

This week, The Peppers are chatting with a dynamic duo that they know you will love! Michelle + Kelly DLux are fellow love enthusiasts, and the husband / wife team behind a new photo series called Creative Marriages

We are so excited to introduce you to two of our favorite friends, and can't wait to have them share the heart behind their own search for Great Love. In this episode, we talk about taking an intentional approach to a weekly sabbath, what it means to balance social media with being an attentive spouse, and how interracial relationships can be the cause of both blessings and challenges.

The Peppers AND The Dluxes would LOVE to hang with you over the upcoming weeks, so join us for the Creative Marriages gallery showing on Sunday, February 14th and get excited for the Great Love Getaway coming up in April!

QUICK BITES:

  • Having an altar-ego keeps things spicy... It can also keep away they identity thieves.
  • In case you’re curious, here is the 90’s throwback coca-cola commercial that inspired Kelly's personal brand.
  • Check out Kelly and some of his hot DJ moves right here.
  • Michelle decides to embrace the Dlux handle after reading Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert.
  • Hear the story behind how Gerard and Jessie became The Peppers, and you'll also get some background on Gerard’s corresponding break-down.
  • Kelly + Michelle tell us how the idea for a #DLUXSABBATH came to be... Follow along with the hashtag in order to live vicariously through their weekly adventures!
  • They recently visited the Rancho Bernardo Winery and filled a random Monday with taste-testing and hot tubbing and traipsing around in the rain with friends.
  • Find Michelle on snapchat by searching the username: michellekphoto
  • Find Kelly on Periscope by searching the username: @kelly_dlux
  • Jessie’s snapchat is styleandpepper and our collective Periscope handle is @meetthepeppers!
  • In Episode 9, we talked about our own struggles with social media. (So glad to know we're not alone.)
  • Having an interracial relationship has provided the Dluxes with both challenges and blessings, but their efforts to convey grace (no matter what) is so inspiring!
  • Michelle shares honestly about feeling like her wedding doesn't always match up to what she’s exposed to in her day to day business.
     

TRIGGER QuestionS:

  • Does your partner have any major fears that you've learned to accept? 
  • How do you and your partner prioritize rest together? What would your own version of a #dluxsabbath look like?
  • Do you believe in the concept of having one singular soul mate on the entire planet?
     
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More Dlux Details:

Kelly is the owner of the DJ/MC company Dlux Entertainment, and is currently pursuing his masters degree in Apologetics at Talbot Seminary. Michelle is a wedding and portrait photographer who you may also recognize as a former Nickelodeon star (on Ned's Declassifed School Survival Guide). They both love exploring Southern CA and volunteering their time on the leadership team at Emmaus Church in Santa Ana. 

Say hello to Michelle + Kelly on Instagram:

@creativemarriages
@michellekimphoto
@kellydlux
@dLUXent
@kelly_dlux
@streetphotoist
@roamingnatives
@broamingnatives

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Rule 022 | Take Care Of Your Assets In Case You Become A Widow

The Peppers talk about being transparent with their finances and the importance of finding a good butt workout. Jessie tries to trade in her Christmas gift for something with way more wheels, and Gerard finally agrees that it's time to start using a budget. 

QUICK BITES:

  • Listen for a quick recap of our Epiphany Party from last weekend, including a rundown of the neighborhood royalty that showed up with a trio of gifts!
     
  • Anyone else daydreaming of warmer weather or a beachy drink of some sort? Okay, how about both. Get excited for the Great Love Getaway, and join us for a vacation in April!
     
  • The best couples are even better when they get to "do life" in community with other great pairs... Our listeners have helped us to feel less alone and that's one of the many reasons why we're excited to hang out with the MIF community in real life.
     
  • Jessie tries to trade in her tiny Christmas gift by asking Gerard to buy her something different. Rude, yes... But he surprisingly (and graciously) understands.
     
  • Our gift-giving track record with one another is admittedly ROUGH... Bumpier than a mountain bike trail, with a dangerously high injury level. (Ok fine. We’ll quit with the puns.)
     
  • Jessie cries about Gerard finally listening to her Christmas list.
     
  • With the wind in her hair and blades on her feet, Jessie promises she would not need Gerard to be her blading buddy.
     
  • Jessie cries again about Gerard gifting her with “the thought that counts.”
     
  • A HUGE financial confession makes us sound like total idiots. (If you’re an accountant or financial planner, you might want to switch to a different show at this point.)
     
  • Our buddies at Being Boss recently interviewed Mr. Jesse Mecham and Ms. Jessie Pepper is intrigued by the YNAB software.
     
  • Gerard relies on his “Perceiver” tendencies to make sure we don’t overspend. Jessie prefers to stash her cash for a rainy day, and says that saving up makes spontaneous splurges feel extra fun.
     
  • Kelly Clarkson was not on Gerard's radar in the early-Oughts, but Jessie auto-tunes some sense back into him. Thank goodness.

This episode was a doozy, but we're pumped to invite you to join us on the Great Love Getaway! SAVE THE DATE for April 7-10 of 2016, and start saving your pennies for the best vacation you’ve taken in a while. ;) 
 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  • Who are some of the married couples that make you and your partner feel better together?
     
  • Which makes you feel more loved by your partner:  When they give you a gift you really want OR shower you with quality time?
     
  • Most relationships have one spouse who carries more responsibility with the finances… Did your person take the role in an unspoken way or was it something that you officially decided on together?

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Rule 008 | Nothing Really Rhymes With Husband

The Peppers finally get a chance to take this show on the road! Episode 8 was recorded live in front of a studio audience, so thanks for hanging in there on some less-than-stellar audio quality. Listen in as we feature our best method to get your spouse to do what you want without nagging (no joke), and hear us ask some dear married friends what it looks like to explore the world while surviving the stresses of summer travel.

QUICK BITES:

  • A week in Kansas City, MO with friends brought us back to where our marriage began. Hear the full story in Episode 1.

  • Special friends join the show! Mimi & Tim KeelTricia & Jeremy CollinsAlan & Shanna Keller. How did we get so lucky?!

  • We’d love to have you check out the work of the brilliant minds above, and are sending special thanks to everyone who came to our very first LIVE recording!

  • Let’s face it: Nagging is hardly ever cute. We’ve come up with a framework to navigate the balance between effectiveness and gentleness when (repeatedly) requesting a favor from your spouse.

  • Jessie spent the last several years trying to avoid the “nagging-wife” stereotype, and it unfortunately turned her into a Passive Aggressor. (This is real life, and NOT a reference to one of the scary specimens on Jurassic World.)

  • Packing is overwhelming! Sharing the load of an endless to-do list makes it easier.

  • Asking for you what you actually need is far more effective than a temper-tantrum. (Imagine that! Mom was right.) You may remember when Jessie put this concept to work in Episode 7... Tears and bikini-talk ensued.

  • Gerard bottles up his feelings and nearly makes Jessie barf by barreling around the bends of a wind-y road.
     
  • Tim Keel - "There is a difference between a vacation and a trip. A vacation is when I let myself relax and do nothing, and it's replenishing. I feel more like myself when it's over. A trip is when we go DO something, and it might be fun, but I don't always feel refreshed. I often feel like it costs something."
     
  • Jeremy Collins - "The farther you get away from home, the more you open up. When you know it's an 8 minute trip, you talk about 8 minute stuff. When it's an 8 hour drive, you talk about 8 hour stuff. And 8 hour stuff is 8 year stuff, because the farther we get into the trip the more the conversation is real and true, and instead of 'What do you want to do for dinner?' it's 'What do you want to do with your life?'... The farther away you get from your reality and your life - that's when the conversation gets really interesting and memorable."
     
  • Happy wife, happy life... It was bound to come up sooner or later.
     
  • Jessie loves personality tests. Next up on her to-do list? Discover appropriate Enneagram number and call Shanna immediately with results. 
     
  • Shanna Keller - "I spend a lot of my emotional bandwidth (whether I'm asked to or not) thinking about how to take care of us as a joint unit. When he asks me to all of a sudden change our plan, I think 'I don't know how to take care of us inside that new idea,' but when he can tell me, 'Actually, I've already thought of some of those things, so you can reserve some of emotional bandwidth for saying yes,' then that's when I've found that I can say yes more easily." 
     
  • The Marriage is Funny Getaway 2016 is born. ;)
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, do you typically prefer emotional support or tangible action?

  • Describe your ULTIMATE ideal trip together! Are you more of a laid-back vacationer or a adventure-seeking explorer?
     
  • Is it ok to spend time apart when you travel as a duo? What seems like a good balance between branching out on your own, and being attached at the hip?
     

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