Personality Test

Rule 012 | Always Act Impressed When Your Partner Flexes Their Muscles

This week's episode features our first listener question, and a new show format -- The Quickie. ;) Listen in as we chat about how working together has shaped our relationship, and why sleeping your way to the top is almost always a bad idea.

QUICK BITES:

  • Megan from Oroville, CA runs a Crossfit gym with her husband Santos, and she wrote in to ask about the best way to make decisions as a dynamic duo. 
  • The Peppers talk through what it's like to build a business together when both partners handle work differently.
  • Jessie shares about the time that her working relationship with Gerard came crashing down in the middle of a dinner date. He quit his position as her business confidante in between big bites of sushi.
  • When Jessie presents her new ideas to Gerard, he feels like he’s playing an impossible game of pinball. (And then he admits that pulling the plug sometimes just feels easier.)
  • Learn what it's like to have multiple creative orgasms a day.
  • The adventures of working together has weighed on The Pepper's relationship, but embracing differences in problem solving can help to alleviate the stress.
  • Be sure to listen to the end for a recap complete with three bonus tidbits!

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • How would you describe your partner's biggest strength as it relates to their work?
  • Do you crave the need to get credit for your big beautiful ideas, or does it feel more important to simply experience whatever cool things you’ve come up with?
  • If you could only pick one frozen yogurt topping for the rest of your life, what would it be?! 

We're falling even more in love with our little community every week... Let's keep this conversation going over in the FB group, and in the meantime -- Go squeeze your sweetie pie today, and don't forget to share this episode with your favorite co-working duo!

Rule 008 | Nothing Really Rhymes With Husband

The Peppers finally get a chance to take this show on the road! Episode 8 was recorded live in front of a studio audience, so thanks for hanging in there on some less-than-stellar audio quality. Listen in as we feature our best method to get your spouse to do what you want without nagging (no joke), and hear us ask some dear married friends what it looks like to explore the world while surviving the stresses of summer travel.

QUICK BITES:

  • A week in Kansas City, MO with friends brought us back to where our marriage began. Hear the full story in Episode 1.

  • Special friends join the show! Mimi & Tim KeelTricia & Jeremy CollinsAlan & Shanna Keller. How did we get so lucky?!

  • We’d love to have you check out the work of the brilliant minds above, and are sending special thanks to everyone who came to our very first LIVE recording!

  • Let’s face it: Nagging is hardly ever cute. We’ve come up with a framework to navigate the balance between effectiveness and gentleness when (repeatedly) requesting a favor from your spouse.

  • Jessie spent the last several years trying to avoid the “nagging-wife” stereotype, and it unfortunately turned her into a Passive Aggressor. (This is real life, and NOT a reference to one of the scary specimens on Jurassic World.)

  • Packing is overwhelming! Sharing the load of an endless to-do list makes it easier.

  • Asking for you what you actually need is far more effective than a temper-tantrum. (Imagine that! Mom was right.) You may remember when Jessie put this concept to work in Episode 7... Tears and bikini-talk ensued.

  • Gerard bottles up his feelings and nearly makes Jessie barf by barreling around the bends of a wind-y road.
     
  • Tim Keel - "There is a difference between a vacation and a trip. A vacation is when I let myself relax and do nothing, and it's replenishing. I feel more like myself when it's over. A trip is when we go DO something, and it might be fun, but I don't always feel refreshed. I often feel like it costs something."
     
  • Jeremy Collins - "The farther you get away from home, the more you open up. When you know it's an 8 minute trip, you talk about 8 minute stuff. When it's an 8 hour drive, you talk about 8 hour stuff. And 8 hour stuff is 8 year stuff, because the farther we get into the trip the more the conversation is real and true, and instead of 'What do you want to do for dinner?' it's 'What do you want to do with your life?'... The farther away you get from your reality and your life - that's when the conversation gets really interesting and memorable."
     
  • Happy wife, happy life... It was bound to come up sooner or later.
     
  • Jessie loves personality tests. Next up on her to-do list? Discover appropriate Enneagram number and call Shanna immediately with results. 
     
  • Shanna Keller - "I spend a lot of my emotional bandwidth (whether I'm asked to or not) thinking about how to take care of us as a joint unit. When he asks me to all of a sudden change our plan, I think 'I don't know how to take care of us inside that new idea,' but when he can tell me, 'Actually, I've already thought of some of those things, so you can reserve some of emotional bandwidth for saying yes,' then that's when I've found that I can say yes more easily." 
     
  • The Marriage is Funny Getaway 2016 is born. ;)
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, do you typically prefer emotional support or tangible action?

  • Describe your ULTIMATE ideal trip together! Are you more of a laid-back vacationer or a adventure-seeking explorer?
     
  • Is it ok to spend time apart when you travel as a duo? What seems like a good balance between branching out on your own, and being attached at the hip?
     

You guys have been incredibly generous with your support so far, and we are seriously blushing to see Marriage is Funny top the charts on iTunes! 

Keep leaving those ratings and reviews right over here, and be sure to send us your burning questions so that we can answer them in an upcoming Q+A episode!

Rule 002 | Always Keep Your Partner’s Favorite Mood Music On Hand

In episode two, we share our thoughts on the topics of well-placed silence + mis-matched last names. Living in a noisy city can have it’s downsides, but not many sounds are worse than a co-worker cutting his or her toenails at their desk. (EW!) After learning about a disorder called Misophonia from a noise-averse friend, Jessie quickly self-diagnoses herself to justify the inappropriate irritation she feels from minor day-to-day noises.

We discuss our “bedroom playlist” preferences for the first time, and invent an app that will make it easier to "turn something on" at a moments notice. While the differences between evenings with an introvert and an extrovert are considered, a third member of the family is introduced -- Hi, Joey! 

Gerard wants to figure out why people won't get over Jessie’s last name, and he finally admits to embracing his secret alter ego. We come clean about the story behind naming our podcast, and you'll hear a glimpse at how The Peppers first came to be.

References: The Todd Glass Show, Pete Holmes talking with Richard Rohr on You Made it Weird, One Part Plant by Jessica Mernane, The Meyers-Briggs Foundation, Jessie’s fashion and lifestyle blog called Style + Pepper, Being Boss Facebook group

QUICK BITES:

  • Pretty obsessed with podcasts. G loves these guys, and Jessie is hooked on way too many to name. (Ok, fine: Rob Bell's Robcast, Start Up, The Longest Shortest Time, The Lively Show, The Good Life Project, Being Boss, After the Jump, and the list goes on.)

  • Jessie slows down her super-speed listening when the words are extra special. (Richard Rohr + Pete Holmes even got a second listen!)

  • Misophonia is not the fear of ordering soup at a sushi restaurant, but might explain why you want to walk around with marshmallows in your ears.

  • Silence is sometimes a good thing, but we prefer music during dinner. And sex. We’ve learned that the same tunes often work well for both.

  • A killer idea for an app is invented. Stay tuned and (hopefully) you'll thank us later. 

  • Introversion vs. extraversion on a typical weeknight. Can you guess which one of us is which?

  • Gerard is perplexed by how many people are fascinated with our different last names. Specifically, our dry cleaning delivery guy.

  • We share the story behind how we became The Peppers. It involves a bit of style, and some self-discovery from Gerard.

  • Crowdsourcing some responses by checking in on social media... Send a request to join our facebook group and be sure to follow @meetthepeppers on social media!

  • Sharing several super-creative last-name stories from fellow fans of the podcast, Being Boss. (A must listen for any creative entrepreneur!)

Trigger Questions:

  • What is your absolute least favorite noise in the entire world?

  • What is the first thing that comes to mind when you meet a woman who has kept her maiden name?

  • When was the last time you experienced complete silence? Did it make you feel relief or discomfort?

Take a stab at answering the above, and we'll chat about it right over here!