Quickie

Rule 031 | Strangers Are Just Friends That You Haven't Met Yet

It’s been a while... but this week The Peppers are sharing a "quickie" listener-Q+A episode, and it's all about how they navigate friendships as a married couple. Tune in to hear them chat about prioritizing time for their favorite pals, and how to avoid an acquaintance that sometimes makes you feel like less than yourself.

Don't Forget: We are headed on vacation together in April and we want YOU to come with us! Some of our fabulous listeners are joining us in Puerto Vallarta next month, and we can already tell that it is going to be EPIC... There is room for just one more couple, so snag your spot before registration closes on March 20th.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Take a listen to Episode 18 to hear us share our play-by-play for making friends with strangers.
     
  • There is tons of fun going on with the Great Love Gang in the facebook group... Come hang out over there!
     
  • We had a blast with The Dluxes last weekend, and it made us SO excited to have them treat our Getaway couples to a complimentary Creative Marriages session in Mexico next month.
     
  • Q1: Do you guys ever have trouble divvying up time between his and her friends? Also, do you feel like you get enough guy-time/girl-time, or do you ever feel guilty needing that?
     
  • Q2: How do you balance time with just the two of us and with other people?
     
  • Q3: How do you deal with your spouse’s friends? Friends from past, new friends, friends you tolerate, friends you love most?
     
  • As promised, here's a link to Jessie’s Pepper Letter about flower + wreaths + faraway friends.
     
  • Anyone up for an in-real-life dinner party? We’re doing some serious daydreaming about this, and will keep you posted as the prepping continues.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. When is the next chance that you and your partner could invite another couple for a double date? 
     
  2. Which of your own friends would your partner choose as their favorite?
     
  3. Have you ever wished you could ask your spouse to stop hanging out with a certain friend?

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Rule 014 | Connection Is Easier When You Have A Good Cushion

Another mid-week quickie that features three listener questions: How-to, when-to, and why-to connect with your partner.

In this episode, we also announce the first six cities of our Marriage is Funny On the Road tour, and talk about how having a good cushion is important when setting out on any adventure.  

QUICK BITES:

  • We are finally ready to tell you some details about our cross-country trip! Sign up here to get on the list, and check out our tour page to see where we’ll be popping up next.

  • Question One comes from Erika L. on twitter, and she asks: "How do you create space to truly be alone in a crowded city and a small apartment?"

  • Takeaways: It doesn't mean that there is something wrong if you feel like you want space, and extroverts need time alone too.

  • Question Two comes from Stacey in our FB group, and she asks: "What are some ways that you have learned to reconnect in the midst of busy schedules?"

  • Takeaways: We are anti-date-night, pro snapchat, and always trying to make sure we intentionally protect a special part of our day (or week) together.

  • Spending time together is like grocery shopping… Some people would rather go frequently in shorter trips, and others plan to make a big haul because they know it will last them for weeks at a time.

  • Question Three comes from Courtney M. in our FB group, and she asks: "How do you handle time apart when one person of the pair travels a lot?"

  • Takeaways: We're not very good at leaving each other on trips (see Episode 8), so we try make sure that re-entry is handled with care. Also, we use an app called Voxer to keep in touch while we're apart -- Total life-saver if you don't like to talk on the phone.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What are some things that make your cushion feel fluffed?
  • Describe your ideal version of daily alone time: Time of day, location, etc. Include as many details as possible!
  • Date Nights... Helpful practice or way too much pressure?

Rule 012 | Always Act Impressed When Your Partner Flexes Their Muscles

This week's episode features our first listener question, and a new show format -- The Quickie. ;) Listen in as we chat about how working together has shaped our relationship, and why sleeping your way to the top is almost always a bad idea.

QUICK BITES:

  • Megan from Oroville, CA runs a Crossfit gym with her husband Santos, and she wrote in to ask about the best way to make decisions as a dynamic duo. 
  • The Peppers talk through what it's like to build a business together when both partners handle work differently.
  • Jessie shares about the time that her working relationship with Gerard came crashing down in the middle of a dinner date. He quit his position as her business confidante in between big bites of sushi.
  • When Jessie presents her new ideas to Gerard, he feels like he’s playing an impossible game of pinball. (And then he admits that pulling the plug sometimes just feels easier.)
  • Learn what it's like to have multiple creative orgasms a day.
  • The adventures of working together has weighed on The Pepper's relationship, but embracing differences in problem solving can help to alleviate the stress.
  • Be sure to listen to the end for a recap complete with three bonus tidbits!

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • How would you describe your partner's biggest strength as it relates to their work?
  • Do you crave the need to get credit for your big beautiful ideas, or does it feel more important to simply experience whatever cool things you’ve come up with?
  • If you could only pick one frozen yogurt topping for the rest of your life, what would it be?! 

We're falling even more in love with our little community every week... Let's keep this conversation going over in the FB group, and in the meantime -- Go squeeze your sweetie pie today, and don't forget to share this episode with your favorite co-working duo!