Courage

Rule 039.5 | Talking About Sex Makes It Even Better (Part II)

Part II of the sex series on Marriage is Funny! Gerard and Jessie share their thoughts on important things like abstinence, foreplay, and experimenting in the bedroom. The Peppers are joined by expert Kate McCombs, and her wisdom continues to inspire the Great Love Gang to be more intentional toward intimacy. (Be sure to listen to Episode 39 for Part I with Kate!)

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QUICK BITES:

  • Q1: My husband says he isn’t a kissing guy, but I need foreplay in order to have sex. How can I fulfill his needs without making him do something that he doesn’t want to do?

  • Cooking is like sex. Creativity and variety are two ways to be very good at it.

  • AASECT.org is a great resource for finding a sex therapist that you can visit with your partner.

  • Jessie’s adventures in finding a counselor continue to be entertaining. (You may notice that Ep 9 in Season One is starting to sound familiar.)

  • Q2: How can we build up more courage in the bedroom? Is there an easy way to tell my partner I think they are boring in bed?

  • Creating a “sex lab” could be the best way to start experimenting in the bedroom... Check out Kate's article about how to set the mood in your own home.

  • Q3: Is there a right way or a wrong way to suggest the use of toys and tools?

  • Never break the laws of bad sexual etiquette... The pleasure of your partner matters just as much as your own.

  • Gerard and Jessie were sure to park in the back when they drove to the sex shop in Episode 20.

  • Q4: What do I do when my husband wants it and I don’t? Is faking it ok?

  • It’s important to tell our partners exactly when and how they’ve blessed us in order to build up their "cushion" when times are good.

  • Q5: How can I initiate sex when I know my partner doesn’t feel like it?

  • Kate explains the difference between justification vs clarification when it comes to turning down your partner when they’re making a move.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is the most surprising thing that your partner has ever done in bed?
  2. When was the last time you talked to your partner about sex? When was the last time you talked to someone besides your partner about sex?
  3. What was the most intimate moment that you had with your partner this week?

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    Rule 019 | Make Sure Your Bathroom Works Before Hosting Overnight Guests

    Gerard + Jessie switch things up this week by inviting another couple to weigh in on the show... Colby + Chelsea are a sweet Southern Californian duo who make it a priority to invite strangers into their home. After a heartfelt chat, The Peppers left feeling like they'd gained two new friends and are now even MORE excited to list their future space on Airbnb.  

    "Something that I'm thankful for everyday is that Colby and I share the values of community and a permeable boundary of the definition of family. Opening our home and heart blesses us and challenges us and changes us for the better." - Chelsea L. 

    This week’s episode was brought to you by Airbnb! Join us by listing your own space on the site, and new users will get a $25 credit towards your next adventure.

     

    QUICK BITES:

    • Huge thanks to the guests who came out to our taping of the Season One finale!
    • Subscribe to the show on iTunes and join the FB group to keep in touch while we're in between seasons.
    • We made it to CA! Still house-hunting, and the adventures in living with Gerard's wonderful parents are going quite well. (Especially since they have a pool.)
    • When experiencing the world together is the basis of a budding relationship, it seems likely that it would continue to pop up as a reoccurring theme... Colby + Chelsea share about the story of how they met, and why it informs their daily choices to love others.
    • Spare rooms go fast when amusement parks are just a stone's throw away and cute kiddos are an absolutely legitimate selling point when you're listing a shared space for rent.
    • Jessie's dream house includes a nice cozy bed for our future guests and turn-down service complete with wine and chocolate. (She also promises not to use the Ninja Blender before 6am. Ok, fine - 7am.)
    • Crazy Statistic: Two-thirds of the international students in the US never get a chance to set foot inside an American home.
    • Gerard's bond with his host family in Guatemala was rooted in their humor and extensive hospitality. (Hear more in Episode 18.)
    • Not surprising that inflatable tubes and pool floating would surprise-and-delight someone visiting from out of the country.
    • Being considerate becomes the norm when you're constantly having to think of the comfort of others.
    • Chelsea drops a knowledge bomb from Brene Brown: "You can choose comfort or you can choose courage, but you can't have them both at the same time." Opening your home might feel like it takes some courage, but as our new friends explain: It can consistently bring benefits that far outweigh the risks.

     

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    • What is the most embarrassing plumbing issue you've ever encountered while traveling?
    • If you had an entire extra room of the house all to yourself (and could do whatever you wanted), what would you use it for?
    • What are some creative ideas that you could use as ways to make new guests feel welcome in your home?

     

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