Aging

Rule 040 | Custom Domain Names Make Horrible Baby Gifts

This episode is a long-awaited answer to the most frequently asked question of our entire podcast... Why the heck don't The Peppers have any kids?! Jessie's little brother stops in as our special guest, and he keeps us both in line as the emotions start to flow.

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QUICK BITES: 

  • You might remember our special guest from last season when he crashed our closet in NYC, and promptly divulged the story behind one of our dirtiest fights.

  • Jessie tries to be nice when people ask her about having kids, but it’s usually way too tempting to pull out the smart-assery instead.

  • Gerard gets annoyed when people make assumptions about our decision, but Joey reminds us that excitement loves company.

  • The Peppers would have to start sleeping in the same bed again if they had to make room for a nursery.

  • Pre-engagement counseling (yes, that is a thing) was the moment we realized that we saw eye to eye about starting a family.

  • Jessie is worried that her grandmotherly daydreams are never going to happen, but Gerard reassures her that he’ll always be around to pluck her chin hairs.

  • Both sets of our parents have been incredibly understanding about the decision not to have kids, but their own friends have not stopped trying to force the issue.

  • Gerard makes the clear distinction between a decision and a diagnosis.

  • Jessie loses her shit over losing dear friends over such a decisive choice.

  • The Peppers insist that they love hosting families as Casa de Pepper, but parents are better off bringing sippie cups and outlet covers since the baby-proofing has yet to happen.

  • Gerard’s top two celebrity crushes have a baby together, and the wife’s outlook on kids has given Jessie permission to embrace the feeling of a complete family.

  • A shocking admission at the end of the show leaves both Jessie + G with a ton of resolve towards our desire to bless and nurture others.  

 

LOOKING FOR OTHER WAYS TO MAKE AN IMPACT?

The Great Love Gang has shared so many wonderful resources with us over in the Facebook group, and we would love to pass along some of the many ways that YOU can make an impact on the lives of children and families who need extra guidance and support:

  • Impacting Hearts - Weekly mentorship for children currently living in a foster home. (Los Angeles / Orange County)
  • Safe Families - Short term foster care and family assistance. (70 US Cities)
  • CASA - An organization that connects volunteers with at-risk youth who need the constant adult presence that many of them lack. (49 US states)
  • Buckner International - Volunteer opportunities for four different types of family ministries. (Texas + Abroad)
  • The Call - Connecting foster care and adoptive families to children in need. (Arkansas)
  • AdoptUS Kids - Raising public awareness and providing resources for both states and families who are hoping to adopt or foster children.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is your opinion on how much or how little some parents share of their kids online?
     
  2. Regardless of whether or not you are a parent now, can you remember visualizing yourself as a mom or dad when you were little?
     
  3. Have you ever lost a friend because of the addition of kids? (Either yours or theirs.) How did this happen and how did it make you feel?

We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

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Rule 013 | Airplanes Are Not The Place To Point Out Gray Hairs

Gerard freaks out about his new pair of glasses, and finds deeper meaning in the panic behind a couple of gray hairs. Jessie remembers that forgiveness is a gift everyone deserves, but wishes that hurt feelings were easier to brush under the rug.

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard gets glasses, promptly panics and considers plucking his gray hairs. Jessie swoons, even still.

  • We all get older, but it’s time to dive into why “losing our youth” seems to shake G to the core.

  • Spoiler alert: Tears ahead. It’s not unusual for us to cry on planes, but this is nothing like the travel challenges we talked about earlier this Summer.

  • Jessie is ignoring her wrinkles by throwing on a kimono and “pretending” to be a crazy plant lady. (Might only be a few leaves short.)

  • The topic of mortality makes a cameo, but Gerard hangs on to his youth by claiming to be a kid at heart.

  • To Mr. or NOT to Mr?

  • One foolproof way to make you feel less old: Always make sure you’re the youngest friend.

  • Jessie justifies her indulgent self-care habits by claiming preventative measures.

  • Gray eye-brows got you down? Please pass the tweezers.

  • You know that adorable older couple that walks down the street holding hands? We secretly want to be them. (As long as he has good hygiene and she’s wearing cute shoes.)

  • It hurts when forgiveness from friends is hard to come by.

  • Jessie disappointed a girlfriend recently (#oops), and struggles through the experience of having her apology refused.

  • Forgiveness has the power to make a profound impact in any relationship. We try to remember that it is like a precious gift we are called to share generously with others.

  • Gerard lays down some convictions and Jessie realizes she needs to face the facts.

  • Saying “OK” vs. “I forgive you” when someone apologizes is NOT the same thing.

  • Two-part apologies were mandatory for Jessie growing up in the Artigue household, and the heartfelt process has carried over into her now adult life.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What do you love most about getting older? (Bonus points if your answer involves wearing black socks with sandals.)

  • Do you have someone that you go to when you need to talk through a sticky situation with friends? How do you keep from crossing the line from healthy venting to gossipy territory?

  • Have you ever had to forgive someone for a hurt that never got acknowledged?