Self-Image

Rule 013 | Airplanes Are Not The Place To Point Out Gray Hairs

Gerard freaks out about his new pair of glasses, and finds deeper meaning in the panic behind a couple of gray hairs. Jessie remembers that forgiveness is a gift everyone deserves, but wishes that hurt feelings were easier to brush under the rug.

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard gets glasses, promptly panics and considers plucking his gray hairs. Jessie swoons, even still.

  • We all get older, but it’s time to dive into why “losing our youth” seems to shake G to the core.

  • Spoiler alert: Tears ahead. It’s not unusual for us to cry on planes, but this is nothing like the travel challenges we talked about earlier this Summer.

  • Jessie is ignoring her wrinkles by throwing on a kimono and “pretending” to be a crazy plant lady. (Might only be a few leaves short.)

  • The topic of mortality makes a cameo, but Gerard hangs on to his youth by claiming to be a kid at heart.

  • To Mr. or NOT to Mr?

  • One foolproof way to make you feel less old: Always make sure you’re the youngest friend.

  • Jessie justifies her indulgent self-care habits by claiming preventative measures.

  • Gray eye-brows got you down? Please pass the tweezers.

  • You know that adorable older couple that walks down the street holding hands? We secretly want to be them. (As long as he has good hygiene and she’s wearing cute shoes.)

  • It hurts when forgiveness from friends is hard to come by.

  • Jessie disappointed a girlfriend recently (#oops), and struggles through the experience of having her apology refused.

  • Forgiveness has the power to make a profound impact in any relationship. We try to remember that it is like a precious gift we are called to share generously with others.

  • Gerard lays down some convictions and Jessie realizes she needs to face the facts.

  • Saying “OK” vs. “I forgive you” when someone apologizes is NOT the same thing.

  • Two-part apologies were mandatory for Jessie growing up in the Artigue household, and the heartfelt process has carried over into her now adult life.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  • What do you love most about getting older? (Bonus points if your answer involves wearing black socks with sandals.)

  • Do you have someone that you go to when you need to talk through a sticky situation with friends? How do you keep from crossing the line from healthy venting to gossipy territory?

  • Have you ever had to forgive someone for a hurt that never got acknowledged?

 

Rule 007 | Putting On A Bikini Is the Best Way to Cheer Up A Crying Husband

The Peppers are pro-bikini, but there are plenty of folks out there who might disagree. Jessie + Gerard open up about how body image affects their marriage, and why the idea of modesty means something different to so many people. Gerard is reminded that we are blessed to be a blessing, and realizes that being a bi-vocational pastor is more ingrained in his life than he originally thought.

QUICK NOTES:

  • We survived Gerard’s family reunion at the lake, and there were no less than 19 references to thinly sliced deli meat throughout the entire weekend.
  • Huge thanks to everyone who has already shared their feedback for the show! We love hearing your thoughts, so keep 'em coming and feel free to leave us a review on iTunes in order to help us reach more wonderful humans.
  • Jessie has been popping up on a few other podcasts around the web this month: Listen to her chat about life as a creative entrepreneur on Dave Conrey’s Fresh Rag + making money online on The Lively Show.
  • The burden of how to wear a cute bathing suit without sinning. (Struggle’s real, y’all.)
  • Does showing too much skin in public take away from the mystery of intimate moments? Depends on the duo, apparently.
  • Modest musings, “mixed bathing” + making waves with an old rope.
  • Self-doubt is something that swims throughout both of our brains, but we hadn't talked about it until this episode.
  • Gerard almost gets punched for having a high metabolism.
  • Jessie shares her commitment to the mantra,“I am His,” and the two talk about what it means to embrace such a generous gift.
  • Do us a favor? Tell your partner how attractive they are to you. Right now.
  • Self-tanner is Jessie’s #1 tip for rocking a bathing suit with confidence.
  • Gerard’s lack of movement within his call to ministry is making him feel a bit bummed out. 
  • Metaphors about wells + pitchers + muscles (oh my!) are inspiring us to feel less stagnant as we pursue our purposes.
  • Jessie officially accepts Gerard as her latest lifestyle design client. She plans to promptly invoice him for the last eight years, and unfortunately does not offer a family discount.
  • If you ever feel like your purpose in life is not being realized, take stock of what the pursuit of that really means, and then find simple ways to embrace it everyday.
  • Passing the kleenex box and putting on a bikini are the best ways to cheer up a crying husband. You’re welcome. ;)

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

  • Does your spouse have a preference on how much skin you show in public? How does this affect your decisions on getting dressed?
  • What do you NEED from your partner this week? Be honest!
  • Share some of the actions that make you feel most fulfilled, and talk about how to work them in to your day-to-day life.