Rule 56.5 | Keep Your Balloons Away From The Birds

The Peppers take a brief detour from the Summer Travel Series to address a bit of feedback that came in the form of a nasty iTunes review. It's always interesting to hear your thoughts about each show, but we are so thankful for our listeners who understand that we're still figuring this whole thing out just like everybody else! 

Grab the show notes for this episode at meetthepeppers.com and find out how to join us in the mission of inspiring Great Love over on the SUPPORT page of our site. 

Don't forget about our Season Five Dollar Drive happening this Summer, and in the meantime, come hang out with The Gang over on our private facebook page!

 

Rule 056 | Never Change A Policy While Your Partner Is Out Of Town

Two months apart has taken a serious toll on the Pepper’s connection, so they do what ALL married millennials do: they talk about it on their podcast! The Peppers have discussed the topic of work travel in the past, but this latest experience has easily been the hardest one so far. Jessie makes massive changes to the house policies while Gerard is away, and this results in the need to ban an entire phrase from her vocabulary.

Thank you so much for tuning in to the MIF Summer Travel Series... We would LOVE to have your support for our upcoming episodes, and you can find out how to get involved with our Season Five Dollar Drive right over here


In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Jessie admits that her life (while pretending to be a savvy-single woman) is vastly different from her life when Gerard is still in town.

  • Can Lifestyle Design be considered a healthy coping mechanism? You be the judge.

  • The Peppers discuss how the latest binge-worthy TV show is a mini-series called Big Little Lies. (Pretty ironic that Jessie *almost* catches Gerard in one while they’re talking about it.) In case you decide to check it out for yourself, please be warned that there ARE gratuitous sex scenes (and some violence) up ahead.

  • Jessie fesses up to her treat-yourself splurges: expensive workout classes, fancier-than-normal groceries, and spoiling Sadie with new puppy toys. There could be far worse vices, but her revengeful attitude is a little unnerving.

  • Gerard acknowledges that their “cushion” has worn extremely thin... Probably more accurate to say that the cushion has been blown to smithereens, and they are currently trying to rebuild the house that once surrounded the cushion. As you might expect, abandonment issues abound.

  • Tune in to the following past episodes for more about navigating work + travel as a couple: how to love your partner through a rewards point addiction, keeping yourself entertained while one spouse is away, and what to do if you feel like a work-widow.

  • Part of the challenge from the duo’s time apart was caused by the stress of Jessie’s recent Kickstarter campaign -- A business project that no entrepreneur should have to go alone!

  • Gerard (accidentally) blurts out that his least favorite part about the travel was when he actually had to come back home to the tension each week. Everyone makes a note that insulting your wife is not the best way to woo her into quality time.

  • Jessie explains how her routine is different while Gerard is gone, and the two begin to hunt for a solution to running the house in a more streamlined way at all times. Basically, Gerard needs to do a better job of keeping up with the chores and Jessie needs to offer up WAY more grace than she has in the past.

  • There are STILL dishes in the sink as these show notes are being recorded. Not much has changed since we talked about this in Ep 44: Wine Glasses Are Not Meant To Be Washed By Hand.

  • Gerard explains the unfairness of Jessie changing the policy while he was away and he begs her to ditch the exclamatory approach.

  • The Peppers have big plans to repair their relationship by filling the Summer with joy and adventure together... This is the perfect pursuit as they launch into The MIF Summer Travel Series!


TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is your favorite way to indulge while your partner is out of town?
     
  2. When has been the hardest time period in your entire marriage? What has allowed you to heal from that experience?
     
  3. What is one phrase that you wish you could BAN from your partner’s entire vocabulary?


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Rule 055 | Superheroes Never Have More Than One Sidekick

marriage is funny episode 55

Jessie + Gerard return from a long podcasting break, and this show is a recap of what the last several months have been like for The Peppers. Tune in as we kick-off the upcoming special travel series, and don't forget to share your Summer moments by using #marriageisfunnyontheroad on your favorite social media platforms! 

We REALLY missed the Great Love Gang... Thank you so much for your enthusiastic support, and you can find out how to join our Dollar Drive for Season Five right over here


In the meantime, come hang out with us on twitter or instagram and see below for this week's handy show notes...


QUICK BITES:

  • The Highs + Lows game can be traumatizing to anyone who experienced it as a tween, so The Peppers play their own version and want YOUR help in giving it a new name. (Thanks to inspiration from the hosts of The Popcast Podcast and That’s So Retrograde!)

  • Jessie launched a new business while we were away! Check out her ethically-made multi-functional dress design called Season, and watch the short film to get the full story behind the brand.

  • Gerard just finished a two-month stint of commuting back and forth to the East Coast each week, and we agree that it was one of the hardest periods of our entire 10 years of marriage. Jessie accuses him of flirting with the flight attendants to get better seat upgrades, and he interestingly does not deny this point. 

  • The chance to travel around and speak on stage together is always such a highlight! February took us back to Kansas City for a big event, and we’re excited to add new dates to our calendar for appearances during the rest of 2017.

  • Gerard starts wearing a helmet while riding his bike to work, and Jessie calms down because they finally figured out how to get their armoire through the bedroom window.

  • Jessie gets excited about Gerard performing with a legit (local) rock and roll band, and we love it when our listeners come to the gigs!

  • The Peppers give you the dish on the neighborhood black sheep: Unit #3. Jessie’s warmth drives away the unfriendly tenants and then she accidentally enables the ones who do drugs right outside their bedroom window.

  • Sleeping arrangements have shifted yet again... After splitting up for their snooze-time (hear more about that in Ep 36), Jessie has snuck back into the master bedroom by disguising herself as a sea creature.  

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What has your partner done in the last 6 months that made you very proud
  2. Have you stopped nagging your spouse about anything lately? Is there anything you WISH you could stop nagging them about?
  3. Who is your favorite neighbor and why do you love them so much?

Rule 054 | Always Be Grateful For Great Love

This week’s show is brought to you by our sponsor Aaptiv FItness!

 

In our finale episode of Season 3, Jessie + Gerard talk about feeling grateful for Great Love. They include a lightning round of thanks just in time for Thanksgiving, and even share some thoughts from a few of our favorite gangsters.

Come hang out with us in between seasons by following along with our adventures on instagram stories and join our private FB group to connect with The Gang!
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Download Aaptiv and get a free month of fitness on-the-go by using our special code: “marriageisfunny” when you sign-up for a subscription!
  • Snag a Great Love Gangster shirt as a gift for yourself, and don't forget that our letterpress prints make fantastic holiday gifts!

  • Gerard takes a page from his father-in-law and gets on the family Trigger Question train.

  • Jessie shares an epic safari story about a baby water buffalo in danger, and how the herd reacts to save one of it’s young. You can read her original blog post and watch the entire video here.

  • The Peppers share 20 reasons why they’re thankful for each other, including pet-parenting, super-clean tile grout, and dancing around the kitchen with your pants off.

  • Listen in to hear a few members of the Gang as they share their own reasons to feel grateful for their partners.

  • Pass this episode along as a way to say thanks to the people who’ve inspired Great Love in your own marriage!

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. If you had to fill your entire thanksgiving plate with only ONE dish and ONE condiment, what would it be?

  2. What was the last thing that you thanked someone for?

  3. Who are three of the water buffaloes that you could not have survived without?

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes, and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here

 

Rule 053 | You’re Not A True Adult Until You’ve Hosted Holiday Dinner

This week’s show is brought to you by our sponsor Aaptiv FItness!


This week, The Peppers chat about weird turkey traditions and upcoming holiday travel. Gerard is looking forward to “digging in” with his Arizona in-laws, and Jessie stresses out about impressing her family with something more exciting than green beans. The duo gushes about their hot sauce obsession and quickly realizes that not everyone you meet can take the same amount of heat.

Come hang out with us in between episodes by watching our day-to-day stories on instagram and don't forget to join The Gang on FB!
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Download Aaptiv and get a free month of fitness on-the-go by using our special code: “marriageisfunny” when you sign-up for a subscription!
  • Gerard challenges The Gang to a facebook giveaway! Share the Marriage is Funny page with your online friends, and email a screen-grab to yesmarriageisfunny@gmail.com. The first three to land the message in our inbox will win one of our Great Love letterpress prints!

  • Don’t forget to snag your Great Love Gangster merch, and use this as a way to represent the Marriage is Funny crew!

  • Apparently, holiday turkey can be turned into a delicacy when it’s cooked in a dirt hole, you can probably guess which one of us is more disgusted at the thought of such a barbaric act.

  • The Peppers stake their claim of a true Friendsgiving, and then tell the story of how their own tradition came to be.

  • Jessie is giving up control of the dinner this year, and she’ll be celebrating with a large pile of kale at her parents house in Arizona next week.

  • If you happen to be a baking expert, please send all crust-advice to Gerard for his inaugural cherry-popping pie-baking adventure.

  • The Peppers share about how they decide to spend certain holidays with certain family members, and while they’ve always tried to keep it simple, explaining things here gets a leeeeetle complicated.

  • Jessie redirects her emotions by trying to make others happy when she feels sad around the holidays. Piling her plate high with vegetables also happens to help.

  • The Peppers chat about giving homemade hot sauce to their friends and neighbors for Christmas this year, and you can find the recipe for Jessie’s spicy sauce right here. (FYI, it’s a 3.5 - 3.75 on the spiciness heat index, and five is obviously medium.)

  • Visit our favorite salsa spot in Kansas City and send us a few bottles of your favorite!

  • Anyone one can own blistered shishito peppers at home, but make sure to nibble the ends to be sure you don’t get hit with a spice bomb.

  • Gerard’s favorite youtube show is called Hot Ones, and you can watch his favorite recent episode with DJ Khaled right here.

  • Jessie spills the beans about yet another spin-off show for The Peppers... Spoiler Alert: It is NOT going to be called The Terrific Husband.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Who is your favorite person to sit by at holiday family dinners?

  2. What was the best handmade Christmas gift you’ve ever received?

  3. If you had to pick ONLY one brand or flavor of hot sauce to eat for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes, and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here

Rule 052 | Fresh Flowers Cause More Headache Than They’re Worth

This week’s show is brought to you by our sponsor Aaptiv FItness!


In Episode 52, The Peppers discuss their feelings about plants + guests of the in-house-variety. Gerard almost kills Jessie with a bouquet of birthday flowers, and the duo chats through the pros and cons of surprising each other with social activities.

Come hang out with us in between episodes by watching our day-to-day stories on instagram and don't forget to join The Gang on FB!
 

QUICK BITES: 

  • Download Aaptiv and get a free month of fitness on-the-go by using our special code: “marriageisfunny” at sign-up!
  • Don’t forget to snag your Great Love Gangster merch, and use this as a way to represent the Marriage is Funny crew!

  • Gerard accidentally sends Jessie a bouquet of her least favorite flowers, and the migraines come back with a vengeance.

  • Jessie begins to neglect the outdoor garden at Casa de Pepper, so Gerard has to step in and nurse the dying plants back to health.

  • We argue over whose turn it is to weed the garden, and assure you that this is one of the times that phrase is not used as a euphemism.

  • Jessie admits to being surprised by Gerard for the very first time, ever. He flew in two of her very best friends for her birthday last week, and she can’t believe that his late-night cleaning sessions didn’t give it all away.

  • The Peppers begin to touch on their Meyers-Briggs personalities when it comes to Judging and Perceiving… Take the online quiz and get ready for a full M-B episode during our upcoming Season Four!

  • Jessie has a habit of sneaking alone time during our annual Epiphany Parties. And when she wants people to leave? She turns on this song and rejoins the party after a quick outfit change.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS: 

1. Has your partner ever given you a gift that you didn't/couldn't enjoy?

2. If you could spend a weekend of quality time with any two friends in the world, who would they be?

3. Have you ever figured out a surprise from someone before they had a chance to give it to you?

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes, and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here

Rule 051 | Everything Is Annoying When You're Already Irritated

This week, Gerard fesses up to a bad habit that we thought he had kicked, only to find out that Jessie has known about it the entire time. The Peppers are peeling back the curtain on how their podcast is recorded, and you’ll hear about how painful this particular episode has been to produce.

Come hang out with us in between episodes by watching our day-to-day stories on instagram and don't forget to join The Gang on FB!
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard realizes that the cell-phone addiction that he talked about in Episode 9 has reappeared in the form of checking the news about this year's presidential election.  

  • Jessie uses the example of a bad habit we discussed in Episode 30 to illustrate her effective, yet gentle strategy to stop annoying behaviors.

  • Gerard wishes that Jessie would stop painting her nails right before they leave the house, but they agree that it’s WAY better than painting them in the car, and they learned that lesson the hard way in Episode 15.  

  • We’ve talked about podcasting before ( in Episode 4 + Episode 17 ), but we’re giving an even closer inside look at why and how we bother to produce this show for you every week.

  • Jessie shares her full-time podcasting dreams in Episode 35, and Gerard blurts out his big-time fitness goals to make her feel better.

  • The Peppers are wrapping up Season Three on Thanksgiving Week, and we’re excited to launch our new show The Perfect Wife at the same time!

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

1.  How many times a day do you check the latest news headlines?

2.  Do you have a go-to trick for pulling your partner out of a bad mood?

3.  What's the crappiest Valentine's Day gift you've ever received?

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here

Rule 050 | There's No Such Thing As "A Bit Of Pneumonia"

We've got a special episode for you this week! Tune in to hear what we recently shared with a chapel-full of students at Trevecca Nazarene University in Nashville... It involves the story of our roughest night we’ve ever spent together as a married couple AND how Gerard came to be in possession of a backpack full of drugs.

(Spoiler alert: We scrapped the sermon we originally had planned, and opted for an honest conversation instead.)

Ps. - Do you think your church, school or small group would like a dose of The Peppers in person? Let us know by submitting a speaker request right here!

Come hang out with us in between episodes by watching our day-to-day stories on instagram and don't forget to join The Gang on FB!


QUICK BITES:

  • Great Love Gangster t-shirts are back in limited stock! Grab your own to help us celebrate this 50-episode milestone, and don't miss a chance to represent the Marriage is Funny family!

  • Longtime listeners will remember the chandelier drama + bicycle winnings that we mention in the beginning of this week's show.

  • In case you’re tuning in for the first time: don't miss the episode where we share about what happens when Gerard gets sick AND what it means for our relationship when one of us is in recovery. 

  • Gerard tried to cover up his symptoms in Mexico because he didn’t want to freak out our Getaway guests... While THAT mission was accomplished, it meant Jessie got freaked out in the process. 

  • Catch up with Episode 33 to hear more about the chronic health issues that Jessie struggles with.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you have any life-hacks for how to survive flying on an airplane while sick?
  2. When was the last time you had to consciously put your ego aside and ask your partner for help?
  3. What is the most vulnerable thing that you've shared with someone this week?

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here

Rule 049 | Pacifists Fight With Puns Not Guns

One of our listeners is concerned that Gerard is the brunt of every joke, but he assures you that his love of comedy is keeping his mood afloat. Pacifism puts the Peppers in an awkward position, and Jessie explains why she sleeps with a baseball bat underneath her bed.

We love to have you tag us in your #marriageisfunny moments on twitter and instagram... Like virtual bear hugs and we can't get enough! 

Don't forget to share this show with your favorite married friends, and come say hang out with the Great Love Gang on over on facebook.

QUICK BITES: 

  • Jessie thinks back to Episode 45 when she learns that calling Gerard an idiot is off-limits but teasing about his gray hair is completely fair game.

  • Gerard shares about his past stand-up performances, and Jessie tries to persuade him to keep stepping up to the mic.

  • We haven’t explained it recently, but here is a reminder about how/why we have a conjanglement of last names. (Easily one of our most frequently asked questions!)

  • Gerard recalls the details of an ancient twitter war between them, and Jessie is relieved that she’s much quicker to laugh than she used to be.

  • A late-night neighborhood crime proves that Gerard cares more about protecting Jessie than he normally admits.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Are there any subjects that are completely off limits when you and your partner are joking around?
  2. When was the last time you dialed 9-1-1?
  3. Have you and your partner ever been in a position where one of you had to physically protect the other person?

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here

Rule 048 | Fly Traps Are Not For The Faint Of Heart

Jessie diagnoses herself with something called The Mercy Curse, and Gerard grapples with being a high-maintenance patient. Find our real-time stories from the Great Love Getaway by following @meetthepeppers on instagram.

We’d love to hang out with you in Nashville next week… Happy hour starts at 4:30 pm at Pinewood Social, and we can’t wait to hug you soon!

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here


QUICK BITES:

  • More about how the 90’s hits of Gloria Estefan was truly the soundtrack of Jessie’s childhood.

  • Potato Bug or Roly Poly? You be the judge.

  • Jessie delves deep into a dark corner of her childhood, and recounts a recent breakdown that connects with some past hurts.

  • Gerard gives his advice about how to be an empathetic listener without feeling all the feels.

  • Get Jessie’s vegan spider repellant packets and join the ranks of highly sensitive people who oppose insect genocide.

  • The Peppers recently discovered termites at their bungalow, and are dreading the process of tenting the house like a neighborhood circus.

  • Efficient fly traps are not for the faint of heart, but Jessie is pushing past the pain by pretending that she’s not involved.

  • When Gerard is sick The Peppers are more aware of how differently they deal with various symptoms. (This is also discussed in the chronic pain episode.)

  • Jessie realizes she does in fact have a tiny sliver of nurturing within her personality, but it does have an expiration date and a handful of exceptions.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIOns:

  1. What is the one thing that is always sure to make you cry?
     
  2. Do you have a designated bug manager or pre-determined insect removal policy at your house?
     
  3. Which partner is a more high-maintenance patient? How many days go by before things get annoying to the other person?


Come say hello to the Great Love Gang on facebook, and we'd LOVE to have you share this show with your favorite husbands and wives. 

Ps. - Don't forget to tag us in your #marriageisfunny moments on twitter and instagram

Rule 047 | Gluten Free Tortillas Are Very Expensive

Gerard finds a stack of unused coupons in the junk drawer, and it prompts him to proclaim that they need to cut back on the grocery bill. Jessie’s new love affair with music is snazzing up her song library, and she's shyly sharing the secret of pursuing her inner DJ.

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here


QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard thinks that the duo is overspending on food supplies, but Jessie assures him that she hasn’t changed a thing since their bill has gone up.
     
  • Jessie loves to take care of the groceries and cooking, but threatens to stop because her shopping skills are being questioned.
     
  • You’re probably not surprised that our budgeting conversation from Season Two is coming back to bite us in the butt.
     
  • Long Beach has an extensive list of weekly farmer’s markets, but Jessie wishes that they had grocery carts AND carried her favorite healthy ice cream.
     
  • Jessie has a love/hate relationship with music, but things are improving thanks to Brother Joey’s introduction to The Big Music Library in the Clouds.
     
  • Both of The Peppers have music-library-dysmorphia but thankfully their personal tastes are complementary enough to co-exist.
     
  • YES Gerard was in an all-male a capella group in college, and YES you can listen to his hit solo song right here.
     
  • How did we miss the fact that Sia has such an incredible body of work? (If you happen to know the answer, does that mean you ALSO know why she wears her hair over her face?)
     
  • The set of Sonos speakers that Gerard bought himself as a birthday gift have truly been a fun addition for the whole household.
     
  • Blaring a little bit of Flo Rida is the only way Jessie can pump herself up enough to use the vacuum cleaner.
     
  • The Peppers covered dinner music AND bedroom music in Episode 2, but Jessie blurts out an update to her current faves for The Kissing Playlist.
     
  • This week’s show wraps up with what are likely the silliest show outtakes that you’ve ever heard on Marriage is Funny... Please don't say we didn't warn you. 
     
  • Because we know you’re curious: Gerard is partial to a specific type of gluten free tortillas that have both helped his tummy AND nearly broken our bank.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you know (or can you guess) the most expensive item on your family's last grocery bill?
     
  2. What is the most embarrassing song in your entire music library?
     
  3. Which Disney character is your ultimate alter-ego? If you had to pick one for your partner, who would it be?

Come say hello to the Great Love Gang on facebook, and we'd LOVE to have you share this show with your favorite husbands and wives. 

Don't forget to tag us in your #marriageisfunny moments on twitter and instagram

Rule 046 | Don't Let The Dog On The Duvet

*Thankfully, Gerard was ONLY sick when we recorded the intro for this one... Hang in there for the first few minutes, and you’ll be past the nasally voice in no time.*

This week, we consider the opposing values of puppy cuddle time vs. perfectly clean sheets. Gerard gets excited about hopping back on stage to play the bass in a band, and The Peppers discuss pros and cons of pursuing distinctly separate hobbies.

Share your feedback with us by leaving a review on iTunes and find out how you can support our mission of Great Love right over here


QUICK BITES:

  • Listen to Episode 36 to find out why The Peppers are not currently sleeping in the same bed.

  • Sadie Mae reminds us of Slinky Dog in the Toy Story movies… Family Halloween costume idea, perhaps?

  • The fan we wish we had, and the fan we would NOT recommend are both proof of why we should ALWAYS listen to Cameron -- our friendly guy at the local Home Depot.

  • The Santa Ana winds have us sweating during dinner, and we’re left daydreaming about an AC unit that fits on our super-old windows.

  • Gerard’s concern with dog-hair splinters makes Jessie break down and agree he needs to wear his stylish Birkenstocks more often. 

  • Jessie realizes that she should take full advantage of the chance to shop for her faves at West Elm and CB2.

  • In case you're curious about our favorite white sheets... (They're durable, affordable, made from organic cotton, and easy to order online!)

  • We would do pretty much anything for our precious furry daughter… Find out why we aren’t parents by listening to Episode 40.

  • A sneak peek at our cheap gray coverlet will give you a glimpse at why we don’t care when our dog jumps on it for a snuggle.

  • Gerard gets schooled in the anatomy of a well-layered bed and then admits to one of his biggest fears that has us buying lint-rollers in bulk.

  • Jessie busts out into song while Gerard hums the bass… And now we both need to beg your eardrums for forgiveness.

  • Gerard gets excited about getting back up on stage to play his bass, and we both see the benefits of having distinctly separate hobbies... Listen to us chat about the benefits of having SHARED hobbies back in Episode 41.

  • Jessie is attracted to Gerard in spite of his (adorable) chocolate-chip-cookie-gut, and admits that being married to a musician is certainly something that counts as a turn-on.

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Do you sleep with your pet(s) in the same bed? Have both partners always had the same preference about this decision?
     
  2. Can you come up with at least one way to encourage (or actually make it possible for) your spouse to pursue one of their own personal hobbies?
     
  3. What was one of the very first things that you can remember being attracted to about your sweetie pie?

Come say hello to the Great Love Gang on facebook, and we'd LOVE to have you share this show with your favorite husbands and wives. 

Don't forget to tag us in your #marriageisfunny moments on twitter and instagram

Rule 045 | Angry People Have The Most Wrinkles

The dishwasher drama continues when Gerard gets mad about the botched installation of The Pepper's latest appliance. The Peppers both turn a bit red in the face, but thankfully Jessie has a skin cream for pretty much everything.

Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!


QUICK BITES:

  • Gerard gives some good advice for how you should react if anyone ever throws a trash can at you.

  • When it comes to arguing, Jessie likes to get into it and then get past it while Gerard usually prefers to just get out of the room.

  • The Peppers break their own rules and talk about the unresolved fight that they had the night before recording.

  • Our introverted and extroverted natures make for different communication styles, particularly when processing through a conflict.

  • We decide to keep the newspaper swatting to a minimum after remembering from Episode 27 that we DO have neighbors who like to call the cops.

  • Gerard and Jessie learn the difference between being an argument escalator and argument elevator… Stay tuned for Jessie’s conversation about this with Liz Bohannon on our spin-off mini-series called The Perfect Wife. (Coming Thanksgiving 2017!)

  • Hear our original skincare conversation about sunscreen in Episode 34, and then listen in as Jessie makes yet another request for Gerard to start taking better care of himself.

  • The Peppers recognize the flaws on their skin as giving them a nice healthy dose of humility. (And an opportunity to rub medicated cream on each other.)

  • Gray hair and aging are revisited as mortality is discussed... Jessie gives a quick rundown of her skincare values, and professes the benefits of her favorite vibrating tools. (Clarisonic MiaNuFace, and Quip!)


TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. When was the maddest you have ever seen your spouse?

  2. In arguments, are you more of an internal processor or a verbal processor? How about your partner?

  3. What part of aging are you most looking forward to? Least excited about?

Rule 044 | Wine Glasses Are Not Meant To Be Washed By Hand

Jessie’s discomfort with the dirty dishes brings about a big admission of Gerard’s recent dishonesty. The Pepper's TV-watching habits have dredged up the importance of healthy expectations, and they both commit to being more present when they’re pressing "play" on their favorite shows.

This is the last week to grab your tickets for our next Great Love Getaway in Puerto Vallarta! Check out the sweet video from our April trip, and we can't wait to vacation with our favorite listeners on October 12th-16th, 2016.


QUICK BITES:

  • Jessie and Gerard’s favorite stemware has no actual stem.

  • Whether or not we actually intend all of the puns in this episode is entirely up to your own comedic discretion.

  • This is NOT the first time we’ve covered dishes on the show, and you can listen to the last convo we had about chores right here.

  • Does anyone want to invent a subscription service that offers the monthly delivery of fresh mason jars? If so, please sign us up to be first in line.

  • Moment of silence for Jessie’s favorite coffee drinking vessels: The black orchid mug from our friend Michael Aram and a ceramic travel tumbler from Starbucks.

  • Quantico + The Americans + Master Chef are our current TV favorites... We will not stop live tweeting them so follow along with our antics here and here.

  • Kelly Dlux warned us about the perils of tweeting while watching TV together, and we are currently re-listening to his sage advice about social media from back in Episode 24.

 

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. Which person in your marriage is more particular about the chores? Is there one specific chore that they absolutely will not let the other partner help with?
     
  2. Has your sweetie pie ever broken something that meant a lot to you? Have you ever broken something and tried to cover it up afterwards?
     
  3. If you could instantly morph into ONE character from any current TV show this season, who would it be and how would your spouse react?

 

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Rule 043 | Where There's A Goodwill There Is A Way

The Peppers are back! Season 3 is here and we’re diving right into this week’s show without making you listen to the boring highlight reel of our summer. (You're welcome.) 

Lately, Gerard has been commuting to work for a total of four hours (round-trip) on public transportation everyday, and wants to try and find a way to make the most of the time spent on the train. Meanwhile, Jessie has been trying to figure out how to win the fight with our new piece of furniture for the past few months, but she refuses to give up by taking it back to Goodwill. 

It's time to snag your tickets for our next Great Love Getaway! We're heading to Puerto Vallarta from October 12-16, 2016 and we would love to have you join us. Go here to see a video of the last trip, and we can't wait to vacation with our favorite listeners.
 

QUICK BITES:

  • Become a first-tier Great Love Gangster by joining us in Mexico! Rest, Play + Connect on what is guaranteed to be your favorite vacation of the year.

  • Spread the word about Great Love, and help us out by leaving us a review on iTunes! Find out about other ways to support our show right here.

  • Gerard is commuting a total of four hours (round-trip) on public transportation everyday, and wants to try and find a way to make the most of the time spent on the train. (Besides twitter.)

  • Neither of us can figure out when to use the words further or farther. If you can explain it to us, please send help.

  • Jessie hardly ever uses the car that we share, but has created a morning routine in order to reap the benefits of having a pretend commute.

  • Gerard shares how much he’d like to sneak in some productivity on his commute everyday, but then immediately regrets sharing his thoughts when Jessie starts spewing a bunch of well-meaning, yet unsolicited advice.

  • Thinking back to Episode 9, we remember how pulling out your phone at an inopportune time can totally ruin an otherwise delightful moment -- or in this case, a fresh morning.

  • Gerard decides to start riding his bike to and from the train station again, and is hoping the healthy movement ends up being a positive start to his day. Despite the weird things he’s subjected to on the rest of his trip, that morning ritual of zipping down the beach path will hopefully be a positive experiment.

  • Jessie has been trying to figure out how to win the fight with our new piece of furniture for months, to no avail. The armoire is gorgeous, and also ginormous -- but we can’t figure out how to actually get it to fit inside our house.

  • If you are an engineer, contractor, or even a creative ninja genius with an idea for taking apart our window frame... we want to hear from you!

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What are your favorite things to listen to during a long commute or car ride? Have you listened to an artist, podcast or audiobook recently that made you glad for the quiet time?

  2. What is the very first thing that you do when you wake up in the morning? 

  3. What is the most beautiful piece of furniture in your entire home? 

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Rule 042 | Growing Up Together Is A Good Thing

It’s the Season Two Finale and The Peppers are a puddle of emotions. Jessie shares a story about her fascination with creative farming, and Gerard insists that getting married early is a good thing. Listen as they recap their most memorable moments of growth, and find out why they're going to miss their Great Love Gang something fierce.

It's time to save-the-date for our next Great Love Getaway! We're heading to Puerto Vallarta in October 2016, and we'd love to have you join us.

You asked for t-shirts and we did our best to deliver some swag... Three cool styles, now available for our gangster buddies UNTIL FRIDAY JUNE 10th!

QUICK BITES:

  • We’re hosting another Getaway in the Fall! Watch the video from our last trip right here, and listen to Episode 35 that we recorded from our Casa at the beach.

  • Great Love Goods are here! Gorgeous letterpress prints and gangster tees are now available… Snag one (or all three!) for yourself, and thank you so much for helping to support the show!

  • Jessie’s upcoming project is called The Perfect Wife, but she wants you to know that there is no such thing. Head over to the site for more info, and stay tuned for a sneak peek very soon.
     

TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

  1. What is the first thing people say when they see what you look like in your wedding photos?

  2. Who are the other corn stalks and sweet peas in your field?

  3. Can you think of a defining moment when you've had to choose between growing together and growing apart?

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    Rule 041 | Shared Hobbies Lead To Shared Arguments

    The Peppers may share a keen love of personal style, but they still enjoy the chance to kick off their shoes and let loose. Gerard admits that he's starting to feel the Birkenstock-burn, and Jessie is hoping that their summer will be full of bike riding and brunch.

    It's time to save-the-date for our next Great Love Getaway! We're heading to Puerto Vallarta in October 2016, and we'd love to have you join us.

    You asked for t-shirts and we did our best to deliver some swag... Three cool styles, now available for our gangster buddies UNTIL FRIDAY JUNE 10th!

    QUICK BITES:

    • Gerard's current footwear of choice was inspired by everyone's favorite old man from Brooklyn.
    • Jessie publicly declares her newfound love of turtlenecks right here
    • Check out Gerard's Guy Style column if you're looking for some dude-friendly fashion advice.
    • If you're curious about what Jessie does with her wardrobe cast-offs, you can take a peek at her Poshmark closet (and help support our sailing fund at the same time).
    • Gerard has to pick between sailing lessons or new boat shoes, and we bet you can guess what he happens to choose. 
    • Jessie's new podcast project is called The Perfect Wife.me because the perfect wife is not... her. (Duh.) Listen in for interviews with women like Jess Connolly, Erin Loechner, Whitney English + more!
    • The Peppers are hoping to snap more blog photos and write more jokes this summer. 
    • Listen to another convo we had about the challenges of podcasting (and fighting) right from Episode 17 in Season One.
    • Graeme in Seattle was surprised by our blow-up confession from Episode 25. It's sad to say that this was not an isolated incident.
    • The Peppers have tried to link up for a shared project before, but the burned sweet potato fries made the efforts feel futile. (Tune in to Episode 11 for the full story.)

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    1. What is the one trend that you most regret wearing? 
    2. Have you ever felt physically or mentally uncomfortable because of something that you had on?
    3. When it comes to bike rides, are you more motivated by the calorie burn or the chance of a swanky brunch at the end?

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    Rule 040 | Custom Domain Names Make Horrible Baby Gifts

    This episode is a long-awaited answer to the most frequently asked question of our entire podcast... Why the heck don't The Peppers have any kids?! Jessie's little brother stops in as our special guest, and he keeps us both in line as the emotions start to flow.

    Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!
     

    QUICK BITES: 

    • You might remember our special guest from last season when he crashed our closet in NYC, and promptly divulged the story behind one of our dirtiest fights.

    • Jessie tries to be nice when people ask her about having kids, but it’s usually way too tempting to pull out the smart-assery instead.

    • Gerard gets annoyed when people make assumptions about our decision, but Joey reminds us that excitement loves company.

    • The Peppers would have to start sleeping in the same bed again if they had to make room for a nursery.

    • Pre-engagement counseling (yes, that is a thing) was the moment we realized that we saw eye to eye about starting a family.

    • Jessie is worried that her grandmotherly daydreams are never going to happen, but Gerard reassures her that he’ll always be around to pluck her chin hairs.

    • Both sets of our parents have been incredibly understanding about the decision not to have kids, but their own friends have not stopped trying to force the issue.

    • Gerard makes the clear distinction between a decision and a diagnosis.

    • Jessie loses her shit over losing dear friends over such a decisive choice.

    • The Peppers insist that they love hosting families as Casa de Pepper, but parents are better off bringing sippie cups and outlet covers since the baby-proofing has yet to happen.

    • Gerard’s top two celebrity crushes have a baby together, and the wife’s outlook on kids has given Jessie permission to embrace the feeling of a complete family.

    • A shocking admission at the end of the show leaves both Jessie + G with a ton of resolve towards our desire to bless and nurture others.  

     

    LOOKING FOR OTHER WAYS TO MAKE AN IMPACT?

    The Great Love Gang has shared so many wonderful resources with us over in the Facebook group, and we would love to pass along some of the many ways that YOU can make an impact on the lives of children and families who need extra guidance and support:

    • Impacting Hearts - Weekly mentorship for children currently living in a foster home. (Los Angeles / Orange County)
    • Safe Families - Short term foster care and family assistance. (70 US Cities)
    • CASA - An organization that connects volunteers with at-risk youth who need the constant adult presence that many of them lack. (49 US states)
    • Buckner International - Volunteer opportunities for four different types of family ministries. (Texas + Abroad)
    • The Call - Connecting foster care and adoptive families to children in need. (Arkansas)
    • AdoptUS Kids - Raising public awareness and providing resources for both states and families who are hoping to adopt or foster children.
       

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    1. What is your opinion on how much or how little some parents share of their kids online?
       
    2. Regardless of whether or not you are a parent now, can you remember visualizing yourself as a mom or dad when you were little?
       
    3. Have you ever lost a friend because of the addition of kids? (Either yours or theirs.) How did this happen and how did it make you feel?

    We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

    Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then. 

    Rule 039.5 | Talking About Sex Makes It Even Better (Part II)

    Part II of the sex series on Marriage is Funny! Gerard and Jessie share their thoughts on important things like abstinence, foreplay, and experimenting in the bedroom. The Peppers are joined by expert Kate McCombs, and her wisdom continues to inspire the Great Love Gang to be more intentional toward intimacy. (Be sure to listen to Episode 39 for Part I with Kate!)

    Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, and send us a tweet if you have something to share while you listen!

    QUICK BITES:

    • Q1: My husband says he isn’t a kissing guy, but I need foreplay in order to have sex. How can I fulfill his needs without making him do something that he doesn’t want to do?

    • Cooking is like sex. Creativity and variety are two ways to be very good at it.

    • AASECT.org is a great resource for finding a sex therapist that you can visit with your partner.

    • Jessie’s adventures in finding a counselor continue to be entertaining. (You may notice that Ep 9 in Season One is starting to sound familiar.)

    • Q2: How can we build up more courage in the bedroom? Is there an easy way to tell my partner I think they are boring in bed?

    • Creating a “sex lab” could be the best way to start experimenting in the bedroom... Check out Kate's article about how to set the mood in your own home.

    • Q3: Is there a right way or a wrong way to suggest the use of toys and tools?

    • Never break the laws of bad sexual etiquette... The pleasure of your partner matters just as much as your own.

    • Gerard and Jessie were sure to park in the back when they drove to the sex shop in Episode 20.

    • Q4: What do I do when my husband wants it and I don’t? Is faking it ok?

    • It’s important to tell our partners exactly when and how they’ve blessed us in order to build up their "cushion" when times are good.

    • Q5: How can I initiate sex when I know my partner doesn’t feel like it?

    • Kate explains the difference between justification vs clarification when it comes to turning down your partner when they’re making a move.

    TRIGGER QUESTIONS:

    1. What is the most surprising thing that your partner has ever done in bed?
    2. When was the last time you talked to your partner about sex? When was the last time you talked to someone besides your partner about sex?
    3. What was the most intimate moment that you had with your partner this week?

    We're celebrating the official start of summer AND the end of Season Two at our finale party on May 29th!  

    Find out how to join us right here and we would LOVE to see you then.